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LadyJanetofSC
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iamwhatiam49
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To find a good dominantdaddymaster, you should start with finding a good man.
I am a Colorado born and misplaced here in Dallas. My adventures have taken me many places where I have learned many things, and from those lessons have gained some wisdom about this lifestyle and what it means to me.
Im not a man who wants to boss around a girlboy and make them my slut so I can satisfy a starved ego. Im not a man who wants to domm you online. Im not a man who wants to have someone support me and give me everything while I return nothing. Im not a man who will accept someone who does not accept themselves.
I understand some people are looking for a person who they can start a DS relationship with, and they expect they will find it on here. Talk, email, meet, play, fuck and then boom!... they are collared and kept.
That is not me.
If you want to meet me, you will have to understand I dont do online relationships. I will not have a submissive or slave that I never see or interact with.
I am not looking to meet someone with the intent purpose of starting a Ds or DDlg relationship. I would rather meet the real you before expecting we could be anything.
So... why should you even bother writing me.
Well.... people say that Im a really cool guy to know. I love my friends, and love to be a happy person. Flirtatious, outgoing, kinky as hell and easy to get along with. A Sagittarius with a love for adventure, learning, art, artist, and music.
I am well read, cultured, experienced in bdsm and Ds relationships, well mannered and stable (both mentally, emotionally and financially). I enjoy a good beer with friends. I enjoy trying new things and leave myself open to new experiences, thoughts, ideas and kinks.
I am an active person. I do not spend all day and night online, nor do I stay behind my computer. If someone did want to meet me, it would have to be at a social event, unless you enjoy good coffee tea and great conversation, then it can be one-on-one.
If you are looking for me to tell you all the ways which I will dom you, and how you should write me if you want a real master,
it will never happen.
If you are looking for me to start some hot email back and forth about how I can make you my slave, or fuck you like you have never been fucked...
again, never going to happen.
And if thats what you are looking for, great, good luck. I am looking for something deeper.
So... why do I even bother being on CM?
I want to meet people who are real about learning about this lifestyle, exploring the possibilities of different dynamics and structures. People who can understand this simple fact, one which I believe is lost in the realm of online dating sites.
We are all people first. then we are Dom, sub, Master, salve, Daddy, girl, etc...
I will respect a person for being a person. I do not expect to be called sir or any other honorific. Wolf is just fine, its what my friends call me.
If you are feeling bit naughty or attracted Mr. Wolf is good too )
I am on here to meet people. Yes I know an ass load of people who are actually active in the lifestyle. Yes, I do know many people who like to play, hang out, meet up for drinks, trivia, or Disc golf. I am on here to let others know that there is a very active community of real people, who have real lives, who also enjoy BDSM, kink or some type of fetish, that are not creepy old perverts who lie to get your pants off while you serve them.
I would like to find someone who interested in meeting and getting to know a little about me. Someone who would enjoy, if not love, different types of play (impact, sensations, fire cupping, wax, knives, interrogations, etc...) as well as other non kinkbdsm activities.
So... what you should know about me?
I am bisexual, monagamish, dominant, top who has been active in Ds relationships, the kink and leather communities and Daddy side that comes out with the right person. I work, live alone, do not have children, have a high regard for life and love pets.I enjoy good beer, great music, stimulating conversation, and a nice mellow high from good greens.
So... what should you do if you have read this far?
Read some more. Go read my journals. Find me on Fetlife, check me out there as well.
Since I have reactivated my account, Ill start writing in my journal here more often.
If you still have an interest, write me.
Tell me why you are writing me, ask a question....hell ask 50 (that would excite me), tell me something about you. Just make it interesting.
But whatever you do, do not write me a one or two line email, or speak in the 3rd person.
If you have gotten this far and have no interest, I congratulate and thank you for taking your precious time to read all of this, and wish you good luck.
Wolf
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After being in the lifestyle in Charlotte since 2007 with CAPEX (www.capex.info)
I've come to appreciate a couple of things:
1. People who don't use third person when they write me emails
2. People who don't assume to write me and call me master, king, lord, etc... and think I"m going to respond to it. The truth is, we are all people first, and if you write me, just approach me as a person. Yes, I'm a dominant, yes I have earned leather from the community here in Charlotte, yes I've had slaves, submissives and been a daddy, but that doesn't mean I think I'm everyone's dominant.
3. People who follow thru. My approach to the kink/leather lifestyle, was to find an educational group, join, meet folks and learn about what it means to be in a power dynamic. |
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I just had to clean up my friends list here. If I have not met you in person you have probably been removed. after seeing my pic on some asshats profile, I am being very carefull with who I friend. All of my current friends know me. We have met, played, had dinner or something other than online chatting.
I will not add people who I have not met, face to face, as friends.
This may sound bad, but if you have not met me we are not friends.
If you are interested in meeting real people who have real experience in this lifestyle, I will be more than happy to point to you some groups or events.
If you can only "play" online or via chat, don't bother email me, or trying to add me to your friends list. I' am not one of these "online doms". If you want to meet me, you MUST be willing to attend a bdsm/kink event, function, or class. |
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SirBrownWolf
Is using my pictures. I hope this loser gets a clue real quick. |
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It has been a few months since I have been active online. Mainly due to my responsibilities as a board member for CAPEX.
Now that my service is up I have stepped back into a team lead role and watch as the new board works very well together to continue bringing education and social fun to Charlotte.
It still disturbs me to see so many submissive types looking for "doms' online when they have no idea what a D/s relationship is about.
It would seem logical that if you want to be in a D/s relationship, you would learn what a positive, healthy D/s relationship looks like first.
But logic, as it seems, fails to count when the heart and soul are searching.
Recently, we had some really awesome classes at CAPEX. We also had some brand new folks come and join us. some fit right in, while others were very shy/nervous at first. It amazed me that the ones who seemed to jump right in were the ones who had no idea what that there was an actual community of people who were into kink/bdsm/leather. The shy ones were nervous about fitting in and how they should act, so on and so forth.
when I talked to each of the people and asked how they came to find CAPEX and come to our event, the ones that seemed to fit right in were the ones who went to our Gateway munch or the orientation. the ones who were nervous were guests of other people (relatively new as well).
It seems our gateway munch is really a good starting point for those wanting to seek out real people to get to know and learn from.
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A person emailed my on this site asking about how to get involved in the kink/bdsm community. This tickled me because I find it so very rare that people on these 'hook-up" sites even consider meeting other like minded people in a group or munch. I had one "domme" tell me that groups are full of "fakes and wannabees", yet she cliams to be a "lifestyle mistress". Therin lies the danger of the net. Any idiot can claim to be a "Master" or "Mistress", but how do you, as a bottom, know you are going to be in good hands?
If you are just starting out or have only been "dommed" online (that term makes me throwup in my mouth) how do you know what is good or not good, real or not real.
What is even more distrubing is how many people have said this to me. "Groups are full of fakes..." How in the hell can someone calling themselves "lifestyle" talk down about groups?
Where do they think this lifstyle and community started?
God save the idiots.
So back to the orginal reply to the person who asked me about getting involved.
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Well, you have come to the right guy.
I am on the board of CAPEX and am very active in the comunity.
I understand being shy, timid or nervous. I meet many people who have come to their first group ever, and still remember the first time I went out to meet other kinky bdsm people.
The first thing you should do is check out our website, www.capex.info
It tells you about us, what we are and we are not.
Even though it's in charlotte, it would be worth checking out. Columbia does not have a group like ours. T3WD is more of a munch group that has presentations, and the Columbia TNG is for the younger newbies.
CAPEX as a small group called "Gateway". We have 2 of the most awesome friendly people running this group. All ages, preferences, orientations are welcome. It is main focus is to introduce new people to groups and how they work. It's like a munch, but the discussion is usually focused around being safe in the scene.
If you are interested in getting started I can help you. If you have a profile, look for WinterWolf (that's your's truly) or you can get on our yahoo announcement list http://groups.yahoo.com/group/CAPEX |
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A list from a great frind of mine. Biterofbits.
You might be an @$$hole if...
- The price tag is still attached to floggers hanging from your belt?
- You frequently find yourself using the phrase "all my other slaves"
- You have the words "Lord, Master, or Sire" in your screen name. Extra points if you're under 30. Extra extra points if you actually introduce yourself to people like that.
- You can name drop every big name, but no clue where the local munch is
- You have 14 people "under protection"
- You don't need local groups because "trained privately" with a super secret group from super secret people whose names you can never reveal
- You have a new expensive toy every month but can't afford to pay the rent
- You keep a stable of submissives so they can support you
- You feel the need to beat your bottom half to death in hopes of "impressing" people
- You spend more time during a scene paying attention to who is watching you than to your bottom. Bonus points if you're conversing with someone else during a scene or take a break to get blown by someone else!
- You have higher standards for your submissives than you do for yourself
- Drop your underwear on the floor to provide your submissive with "opportunities to serve"
- You don't need to go to classes or demos, you learned everything you need to know online!
- You're in your 40's and date a string of 20-somethings
- You have more girls wearing your collar than you have underwear
- You use the phrase "true slave"
Just sayin' |
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One of my favorite songs
I'm going to tie you up like a baby in a carriage car
Your legs won't work cause you want me so
You just lie spread to the wall
The love you got is surely
All the love that i would ever need
I'm going to take you by my side
And love you tall, til the world ends
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After reading through some more profiles, I get the distinct impression that some girls....well...
Here's some advice ladies.
If you are seriously looking for someone and don't want to put up with all the bullshit.
1. Take your pictures down. Men are visual!!!
2. Find a man who can actually write in complete sentences in his profile. This will give you a good clue.
3. Write him an introduction email. a simple "Hello, I saw this and liked this, that or the other..." If he can write back with something sensable... THEN send him a picture
DTUH!!!!!
Guys will not bother you as much with the bullshit if you don't have a picture. I we can't see you, our minds have to wonder about you. I guy will let you know in his first email if he is a dipshit or worth the time to get to know.
I hope this helps. |
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ok, it's been a few months. Life is busy. I'm back on the board of directors for CAPEX.
If you are wondering what that is, visit www dot capex dot info.
My house is ever changing, garden still growing, job still a pain in the ass sometimes.
so over all I can keep smiling.
We did have a girl inservice to us for a while. Not a bad experience. I learned some from it which is what I always look for in any experience. The good thing is, she's doing well and concentrating on the jobs as we all are in this economy.
I have been looking through some of the profiles here again. I really have to wonder what some of these people are thinking when they write about wanting to be owned now or looking for master to serve. It saddens me to think of all the people who have some kind of online dommabee ( Dom wannabe) and think that's all there is to it. |
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We are finally off to Frolicon.
See you all there!
If not, you better have a great weekend, weather it be relaxing at home with not much to do, or getting
your groove on to whatever suits your fancy tail.
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I"m trying to catch up on my journals/blogs. I have an LJ and a FetLif, and a Myspace. but it's hard to do when you work in the higher leveles of IT and the only thing you want to do on a computer when you get home is pawn some nuubs on WOW.
Looking at the kink related message boards can be draining at times. There seem to be many people out there that want to get into this lifestyle, but will not take the advice of some who IS in the lifestyle. I see the online "doms" (I call dommabees) talking about their years in the lifestyle , but have no idea what some of the basic ideals are. And so many of you new submissives and slaves with the grandiose fantasy of what a master is, yet the idea of actully meeting another submissive, slave and/or real people who have been into bdsm for years is forign to you. I had one tell me that she doesn't meet anyone untill she has been online with them for a couple of weeks. The sheer absurdity of that stunning my brain. I could not imagin what my life would be like if I hadn't logged off, gotten out and met real people. I would still be in the dark ages of fantasy bdsm role play. |
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GREAT NEWS!
SELF is going to sponsor (in part) our October 25th presenter. Bootpig. My webmaster is updating our site and we are geared up to have an awesome party! For those of you who want to check us out, the site is CAPEX dot INFO. If any of you newbies are interested unplugging, getting out, meeting, learning and getting involved in the bdsm community in Real life, send me your questions, or visit our site.
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Now I have realized the I can only journal with IE. So my 4 or so years of journal entries were deleted somehow, so now, I start again. |
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"A man who displays sensitivity will be a master who is sensitive to you.
A man who displays humility will be a master who will show you respect.
A man who is not afraid to cry will be a master who understands your tears.
A man who is quiet will be a master who will hear your quietest whisper.
A man who knows fear will be a master who will not leave you to face yours alone.
A man who will listen to a child will be a master who will always work to understand your words.
A man who can stand alone will be a master who will not crush you under His weight.
A man who controls himself with ease will be a master with the ability to control you in the same way.
A man who does not have to prove his point will be a master with many worthwhile points to share.
A man who never makes demands will be a master who treasures anything you give.
A man who doesn't run after you will be a master you will never need to run away from.
A man who is calm will be a master who can weather your storms.
A man who has walked the path to peace will be a master able to guide you along that path.
A man who does not shout will be a master who will never deafen you.
A man who knows himself will be a master who will have time to know you.
A man with an open mind will be a master who never stops learning.
A man who never stops learning will be a master who never stops growing.
A man who always seeks to be the best he can be for you is the only man truly worthy of being called Master." |
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