***Warning rant ahead***



As if I didn't have enough bs in my life I have to get it here too? I try to treat everyone with respect, until they've proven less than deserving.


Let me spell this out to you...I want to be crystal clear.


Do NOT approach me if you cannot give enough of your self for a proper introduction. One line emails of introduction are simply not worth my time especially the likes of this one.



"obey me i will give you your dreams"




Alright, so I gave the dude the benefit of doubt and sent a slightly humorous ice breaker back, thinking perhaps he might be "shy" ~rme~




"curious look~

And do you guess my dreams?

I've always obeyed my Master when in a relationship...that has never been an issue. I must admit to raging curiousity in dream giving though. My dreams are varied and vivid...some might think them too soft...but they are mine.

What do you dream of?"



Now that was intended to bring out a bit of personlity in the person that approached me, not the other way around. So what do I get? This lovely piece of drivel.



"i dream of making u my queen , slave , slut depending on how u obey"



Let's just approach this from a grammatically correct point of view. I don't speak in text-ese, I don't write in IM speak, because I am an adult that can string a sentence or two together and actually am not lazy about the way I write. I feel using IM speak when contacting someone you are supposed to be interested in is very impolite and shows either a lack of education or proper respect for the person you are supposedly attempting to attract.



Giving this person one last chance with a reply...



"With no disrespect intended, I'd feel more comfortable had you at least made the effort to get to know me before jumping right into it.

I'm a very wary person, and my initial response was one that was intended to interject a bit of humor into an icebreaker. I had hoped to open a discourse between us, but one line replies do not give me any
"feel" for the type of man you are.

I am very communicative and would like know more about the person with which I am conversing. Your profile is not full enough to give me any type of clue as to what you are looking for, or the type of man is typing these messages.

In my profile, I made a sincere effort to enlighten those that might read it as to the personality of the woman behind the words. As much as I yearn for a committed relationship, I've learned from past experiences to not jump into a relationship without getting to know that person really well...first as friends then, with time, more."



Bringing about another eloquent response of..

"we got time"




By this point, I'm frustrated to no end, feeling stupid for giving this person the time of day and decided to point him to my sister and mentor to see if he has enough class to approach her with proper respect..



"We all have time. Might I suggest something? If you are truly serious about wanting to get to know me, perhaps you should contact my sister here on collarme, she is a Dominant and knows me better than anyone else on earth.

Also, she is my mentor and anyone that is seriously interested in getting to know me, should contact her as well."




To which he replied.."sure bring her with u , we can do 3  some"



No one, and I do mean no one disrespects her like that. Dude you have struck out...




My final words to him..

" You have officially been blocked!

I've treated you with nothing but respect, giving you the benefit of the doubt that you might actually be worth my time.

You have proven yourself to not be worth, time, effort or trust.

Find some social skills, manners and the ability to treat women with respect and one day, you might find something worth breathing for."

I know this site has it's contingent of wankers, losers, fruits and nuts, but stay out of my inbox...I don't have time for you.

Winter.

We have become an instant gratification society. Everything we want comes at the touch of fingertips to keyboard.
Information is out there, dial a phone number and it's delivered to your doorstep. Technology is a wonderful thing, but it has turned us into a world of people that want everything instantly.

This has led us to a place of "lack" in my estimation. There is a lack of work ethic, lack of integrity, moral compass.

A person puts up a profile and immediately is innundated with requests/demands for cyber sex or more revealing pictures.

What happened to getting to know each other, building trust? Making a foundation the proper way? Has everyone gotten so comfortable with the anonymity of online that we can't talk face to face and be comfortable?

I find it so very sad that most are not willing to work for what they desire. It's also sad to find the lost hopes and dreams of so very many. Dream...work for your dream. Build on integrity and trust. Don't expect what you want most to just fall into your lap. Know that nothing free is truly worth having. Care enough to wrap the presents you give. Care enough to give complete honesty. Dare to demand excellence not only from yourself, but others around you.

For every time you are smacked down, stand back up, hold yourself with pride, don't slink away and hide in the shadows of an anonymous world. Be bold and hold yourself proudly. For every mistake you make there are dozens of wonderful acts you have done. Don't allow the world to break your spirit, be like the willow and bend against the gales, but never break.

Don't lose yourself in this ever changing world...be unique, be original for there is only one you. Hold yourself accountible for your actions and hold others accountible for theirs. Be responsible for your own happiness, for it's not found in another, your happiness resides in you.

What ever happened to common courtesy?


It seems this medium of the internet, while giving us instant access to all the educational information about this lifestyle has also taken away the concept of common courtesy.


I have many Dominant friends and the growing trend among online submissives is  lack of regard and accountiblity for their words or actions.


I hear so much discussion amongst my submissive friends about the so called dominants that expect sex or scening on the first meet, but then they are not willing to admit that perspective subs are pushing for that too.


Where did safe, sane and consentual go? Do people not realize that to put yourself in such an intimate place on the first meet is 1)Dangerous and 2)Flat out stupid.


I will not even consider such activities when I first meet a dominant. There is no trust built between two people on the first meeting and let's face it; first time meetings are for getting to know one another, not scenes.


The more I hear, the more frightening it becomes and I've been in the lifestyle since 1989. Has the world gone crazy?