Where do I start? I'm Jim. I'm retired and have time to devote to my search.

You can be straight or Bi. You can be Dom, sub, or a switch. This is not a lifestyle for me but it is always there in the background and it nags me, festers, if not watered with frequent play.

You can be a bedroom bondage lover a masochist or a sadist. If you're a masochist I might be too mild for you but I can be trained.

I'm in a totally poly relationship, married to a submissive Bi woman. We meet and play with others together and separately. I've been actively meeting others for over 30 years. I've been very active in the Detroit area for years. I've been involved in the "public" play party scene and have taken classes in DMing so I'm big on safety. I travel in a sort of 300 mile circle from home and to Toronto, Atlanta {sometimes}, and Chicago on a semi regular basis. I also make trips to the East coast {NYC} on occasion.

I'm mostly interested in sensuous bondage, sensory deprivation - magnification - enhancement - overload. Again, I'm not sadistic but I do enjoy giving sensuous {hard} hand spankings.

I don't have a fetish but I do enjoy seeing a woman in a corset, hose, and heels. I love drawing those laces tighter and tighter until they meet.

I really think that compatibility in vanilla pursuits is more important than kinky compatibility. After the ropes come off; after the reddened ass cools and the aftercare is over you still must live as partners in a mostly vanilla world. I have way too many interests to mention here but I love reading, TV and movies, the outdoors and all its myriad uses including camping, boating, and just lazing in the shade. I enjoy lampworking, making beads and marbles. I have made quite a bit of my own dungeon/play furniture. I'm into photography and I used to fly my own plane.

I started out as a submissive so I know what is happening within the soul of my submissive.

You will find me witty, if not a slight smart ass. I'm intelligent, wildly curious about our world, and educated. I tend to "speak my mind" which can be abrasive but I think honesty and candor is the best way to communicate. this bears repeating -- I'm very big on safety and making sure that my partner knows she's safe.

If this strikes a chord in your soul feel free to write. You need only knock and I'll open the door to your ecstasy.

Jim