Who knew six months ago perving at a photo on fetlife would affect the past three weeks? (yes women perve photos and videos too) It’s important though. I didn’t let it out then so it comes out when it wants to whether it’s appropriate or not.
The woman is kneeling in front of him, facing the same way angled a little away from the
camera. He stands behind her, left hand on her left shoulder. His right hand is holding
her nose and mouth from behind to prevent her from making a sound. Sunlight is behind
them through the window on their right side. To the left side is a rumpled bed. Then you
notice the look on her face. It’s terror.
A full on panic attack hits. (Panic attacks were never an issue until this past year - possibly tied in to this) Memories surface. Motorcycle. Rum and coke. nude. wetness. being smothered. I had a good cry and blew it off thinking oh well something happened and it’s over and everything is fine.
Fast forward to the past few weeks. I felt like I was losing my mind. Actually I think I was. Still could. I mean, we are all crazy to a point but I digress. Three things became intertwined whether one caused the other I don’t know and at this point don’t care.
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Awareness of myself as a slave. It’s what I was born to be. Acceptance of it is a work in progress.
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Feeling rejected/discarded after giving of myself. This escalated and compounded itself, causing me to lash out just like a child. I also acted somewhat psychotic - I don’t need anyone agreeing with me on that one!
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Facing the fact that I was molested by a family friend when I was five. For months. The realization that the people I relied on to protect me were not there for me and the trust issues I have are because I learned at that age to not trust anyone. If you can’t trust your parents to protect you who can you trust?
The pain. The anger. It’s there. I just can’t let it go. It bubbles up at odd times. I know I need to let it go. Maybe it’s so far down there I can’t let it go. I am realizing that it’s bigger than me. Way bigger. Enough that I will seek professional help to work through the pain, anger, and trust.
I hate rum and coke. I hate the smell of it. I love to ride motorcycles but was deathly afraid of getting on one. For many years I wouldn’t buy or wear lingerie. No nice panties for me. The explanation comes out in snippets…
We lived on Homestead Air Force Base. I knew dad was in the Navy. Mom didn’t work and weekends I spent at Grandma and Grandpa’s in Leisure City. We were on base housing, a duplex with the carports in the middle and house on far left and far right. We had the right hand one. Kitchen, living room, two bedrooms with bathroom in the middle of them. Mine was the front bedroom. Rod was a single sailor, 19 or 20, who lived in the barracks. He had a blue Harley. Loud. I used to ride behind him every chance I got. Loved the wind in my hair. Rod would come for dinner. Then they would play cards drinking rum and coke. Rod couldn’t drive his motorcycle on base after drinking so he would sleep in my bed.
I can remember asking mom why I would wake up wet sometimes but the bed wasn’t wet. I remember waking up scared, realizing my panties were off of me and I would find them on the floor. One of the worst times was waking up and feeling smothered. Having someone laying on top of you will affect your breathing.
I had a drawer full of panties. All silky, frilly, flowers and prints, stripes and pastels. Many sets that had the day of the week on them. When you have that many it’s not hard for them to disappear and not be missed. Seems some got ripped off. Some got used to clean up with and thrown away. I learned how to clean both of us up and get rid of the evidence.
There was blood. I know there was blood almost every time at the beginning. Over a span of several months my innocence was eradicated. Nothing wasn’t done or tried. I literally couldn’t get much of him in my mouth so he would let me lay there with just the head in my mouth.
The panty drawer memory surfaced recently. With it came some deep hatred. Hatred for my parents for allowing this to happen. THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT ME. And there is where my little girl takes over. She is every bit the five year old. Smart and funny and doesn’t miss a beat. She will tell you there is no such thing as love. There are no safe places. She will tell you that you can use her body and her mind will go somewhere else.
I have tried forgiving. Forgiving my parents. Forgiving Rod. It’s the only way I know that I can let it go. I want to break down in tears and they won’t come. Yet over silly things I become a basket case. I twist things around. I am so emotionally volatile. This is not the behavior of a grown woman who should have her shit together. This is way way bigger than me. I don’t want to be a brat or a bitch or insensitive or inconsiderate of other’s feelings. I say this because I will continue to journal (no you don’t get to see the private working’s other than this). I will write as my school schedule allows. I will continue getting physically healthier with my workouts. I will probably post pictures because that inner goddess does like to show off sometimes.
Now it’s time for my mind to become healthier. I will talk to you and help you any way I can...God knows a listening ear sometimes is the catalyst for letting something go. Don’t ask me to do anything else because I literally cannot. I either push away or retreat inside so I can’t be vulnerable. I have lashed out to those I cared about the most. I have destroyed everything good in my life up to this point and do not wish to add any more hurt.
THIS IS NOT FICTION. THIS IS AS CLOSE TO THE EDGE THAT I EVER WANT TO BE.