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So who are “you”?
Are you just entering into the BDSM world because you read a story or though it would be cool to serve someone?
This would be the wrong reason to become a slave if you read a story. A sub is much more understandable.
Are you a slave looking to be owned without a clue on just what slavery is (a story is not real life)? Are you between 18-30? 45?
Do you have a some clue on who and what you are, your purpose for wanting to engage into the life the basic art of BDSM or slavery?

Who I am in a nutshell:
Because of life as a business owner I cannot post a clear picture of myself on CollarMe, since I deal with a lot of local, state and government officials on a weekly basis. I am willing to video chat or exchange of standard pictures. I have just started the P90X program to enhance my overall appearance and health.
We have all heard or read of someone that calls themselves a Master. This title is an earned title of “Master” which I have earned well over a decade and a half ago, along with the title of “Expert” in 4 key deep and dark parts of BDSM fetishes. The best way I can explain to a new person reading this is; Mastery is mostly about style. A Master of something is really just an “Expert on a roll.” Sometimes you may have witnessed someone or spent time with someone who is so good at something, and gets so caught up in doing it, that you can’t help but feel that you are watching a genius at work. I’d also say a Master is an Expert who can look back and put themselves in a Novice’s shoes and create the rules, and do the monitoring/mentoring necessary to help them move forward.
I have mentored both males and females, offered classes on how to flog, cane, and medical insertion of needles, (which for a beginner is not as bad as it sounds) in NJ, PA, GA, NV and FL.
I am extremely skilled in sadistic pleasure and pain with the proper modification of breast, nipple, clit, vulva and anal enhancements. Do not fear this if it is not your thing, I am extremely selective on who I would do this with.
My style is what is referred to “Old Guard”, a traditionalist with the process of BDSM. While there are many on here that claim to have decades of experience, reading BDSM stories does not provide a true learning experience. It takes a real Master who understands the real dynamics and complete 2-way mental aspect of the lifestyle not just the sex or abuse.
It is good to know that everything we perceive as suffering is really a wonderful opportunity to correct past mistakes or imbalances and move toward enlightenment. While we cannot change others, we can change ourselves and move beyond any given situation. Every relationship, including BDSM and experience is an opportunity to grow.

My Ideal Person: Who am I seeking?
I am looking for a series of key components that make up the sub/slave I am seeking. Yes, attractiveness does play a role into my decision; however it is only 11% of the deciding factors. The sub/slave I am looking for with be filling into a few different areas of controlled pleasure and erotic pain. The type of pain I inflict is very far from what you have ever seen, read, or felt. An example of this would be using a Sybian for 18 hours straight no break, no pause, no extra water, on max high while you are restrained to the floor unable to remove it. While that doesn't sound so bad I have a very special lube I had placed on the Sybian, each time you cum without permission you will feel an intense burning deep in your cunt like there is a fire inside of you. Why should I watch TV when I can place you in the center of the room and play with the knobs?

A slave: A 24/7 slave to me, is more then slab of meat with four holes to use. While there will be time my slave many times though out the servicing, you as the slave will feel like a whore and a cum-dump, there will be other times you are praying internal for the burning in your tits to stop burning, from the saline I have injected into your nipples. My slave that I seek, needs to know the basics of both sexually and domestically servitude; you have skills to please men, that is a given, but you must know how to keep a home clean. As a slave you will need to know that washing, keeping plants water and basic cooking skills are important.
The role of a slave is to never question or think about what was asked, if it will not kill you or land your ass in jail or break any type of limit the was pre-negotiable, then you should just do it.

A sub: How to know if you if into a sub role? You should be natural for you, it's who and what you are. Sexually or everyday you are willing with the right person that you are comfortable can make you do things that you are timid about. You want to learn more and more but know when you want it to end it will end.
I am very realistic on conforming in today's way of life and integrating the BDSM lifestyle into every day functions. I am NOT seeking to have a harem of slaves. While I might share my sub or slave with close friends in the lifestyle I am not looking to have a hoard of subs or slaves or share my slave with every Tom, Dick or Harry. I prefer and my sub or my slave to stay STD & HIV FREE.
I am a great friend, Teacher and lover, but over all I am a human being with feelings and emotions. I Listen, Address concerns, Instruct. Command Attention, Deserve Respect and I Provide a Wonderful Place to learn to grow and explore.

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11/10/2012 8:11:45 PM

NO FUCKING MALE SUBs/OR SLAVES...


7/27/2011 12:34:42 PM

One of the elements of a good relationship that many people either overlook or are unaware of, is emotional safety, what it entails, and how to create it. My hope here is to explore first what it is within a 'normal vanilla' relationship, and then to expand that to some possibilities within a bdsm relationship.

First off, what is an emotional safety? Emotional safety gives one a feeling of warmth, joy, expansion, relaxation, the ability to breathe freely, a sense of connection, and a sense of peace. It is an environment which promotes healing and growth, and allows people to feel more deeply and openly. In other words, a person feels wanted, welcome, like s/he can just 'be' and be accepted, like you are loved, like you are 'home'. Before a person can get emotional safety, that person must also be able to give it - it becomes a two way street of openness, vulnerability and acceptance; driven by authenticity, intimacy, and meaningfulness; and providing a connection to one's self, others, and the divine. It is a connection of hearts.

Common feelings within emotional safety might be: "My stomach relaxes (no knots)", "I can let go", "I feel a sense of trust" , "I feel welcome", "I know I won't be judged", and "I feel like I'm valued, of relevance".


Now, realistically, even in the best relationships, we can't be emotionally safe all the time. There will be breakdowns, people hurt each other unintentionally, and we don't mindread. Love is not enough, alone - to feel loved and *lovable* we need to be emotionally safe.. We need to be able to forgive ourselves and each other, to communicate that hurt honestly, learn from it and move on.

 

It's great to look for love and help from a non-human source, or from directly within ourselves, but it's also important to go to our loved ones and let them know of our needs, our pain, our fears. To do so is to empower them to help, and create more safety for everyone.

Top ten ways to create emotional safety (for vanillas, anyway):

1. Listen without interrupting - hear what is really being said, and what is not being said, watch for obvious body language.

2.Give your partner space to have feelings. Accept who s/he is, remember why you were drawn together to begin with.

3. Define, establish and maintain your own boundaries and limits very clearly.

4. When there is a conflict, attack the problem and not your partner. Be aware of judgements and criticisms.

5. Do not back your partner into a corner with threats and ultimatums. They eventually backfire.

6. Be 100% responsible for your own behaviors and hold your partner accountable for theirs - don't play the blame game.

7. Communicate your feelings in a thoughtful and responsible way. Don't use feelings to control. (doesn't this go against internal enslavement, in a way?)

8. Follow through with what you say you will do - honor your agreements, so that your partner does not feel rejected.

9.Remember, there is power in forgiveness, both forgiving ourselves and others. There is also great strength in touch.

10. The most powerful resource for emotional safety is unconditional love - may you be blessed to both give and receive it.

Most people feel safe around someone who is very accepting, caring, and compassionate. The problem is, we all have bad days, and may be irritable and grumpy - so what do we do then, when the other person's caring and acceptance go away? We need to also find that safety within ourselves, and strive to become that person, especially with ourselves, who is consistently accepting, caring, and compassionate. We need to be strong enough within to not take another's bad day personally. We need to be centered enough to stand up for ourselves when another is angry or blaming. We need to be powerful enough to remain open hearted in the face of fear or conflict.


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UseMyLove
 
 Age: 18
 St. Joseph, Missouri