<zebralovers241> go away...ask permission next time!
<zebralovers241> shew
<WhipsAndKisses> Well fuck you very much then.
<zebralovers241> FUCK OFF LOWLIFE
<zebralovers241> FATTY

It's so good to be back.

Happy New Year everyone!

Well that was quick. It seems only yesterday was the first day of spring. Now the first day of fall has already slipped by. This half of the year I'm not so crazy about.

But the cycle of life moves inexorably on.

Tomorrow is the last day of winter. We got through it again.

Spring arrives Tuesday morning at 1:14 AM US EDT

Happy first day of spring.

If all the world’s a stage, I want to operate the trap door.

~ Paul Beatty

b 1962

American poet and writer

We either make ourselves miserable 

or we make ourselves happy.

The amount of work is the same.

 Carlos Castenada

1925 – 1998

American anthropologist and author

Don't ask what the world needs.

Do us a both a favor. If you see me in one of the rooms, resist the urge to PM me just because you like my name. Everybody loves my name.

Take the time to read my profile and perhaps even a few of my journal entries. You might change your mind about chatting with me.

If you still want to, go ahead and PM me. But do so with a proper greeting, using real English and introduce yourself.

I know it sounds lke some weird far out kinky procedure but it's just common courtesy girls.

Really.

Beyond TTWD my two passions are astronomy and hypnosis.

If you'd like to know more, drop me a line.

You know, I used to want another D/s relationship so very much and the more things in common we had outside the bedroom, the greater the bonus it would be.

Now I want a girl with whom I can share a great many things outside the bedroom and the more we like the same things in the bedroom the greater the it would be.

Another long time between entries. Exciting things are happening in my life. And spring is here!

I didn't think so.

Truly, really, honestly I'm just looking for friends and conversation at this point.

I've been experimenting with hypnosis and self-hypnosis recently. I'd be especially interested in chatting with you if you're interested in hypnosis too.

My other passion is astronomy. Any other stargazers out there?

I'm done. Collarme really hasn't worked out for me so I'm concentrating my energies elsewhere. I won't delete my account and I'll stop in and check my mail every week or two. Unless I already know you, it's unlikely I'll respond to any email you might send me. Most of the emails I get are from women who compliment me on my "great" profile but who have no interest in getting to know me as a person. That's an annoying waste of time I'm no longer interested in trying to figure out. That goes double for the 18 women who who added me to their favorites lists but who (with a few exceptions) have no interest in chatting about TTTWD or any of the vanilla interests we have in common.

I'm no longer interested in talking with prospective subs or slaves. I've encountered just too many creeps, idiots, liars and fools. My heart can only take so much wear and tear. If we are already friends or if you're interested strictly in friendship then we can talk.

More things nobody asked me about that I thought I’d tell you anyway.

In their journals subs sometimes quote emails that they get from Doms that are so incredibly stupid, demanding and obtuse that they’re often both hilarious and gruesome. I have mixed emotions about these. On the one hand I resent all of these fools stinking up the joint and making women lose faith that there are any decent Doms here at all. On the other hand I take a small measure of consolation that if these guys are my competition I have nothing to worry about. In the land of the blind the one-eyed man is king.

Can anyone explain to me why people create profiles with impossible to read combinations of text and background colors? Like red on purple or light gray on light blue?

I’ve come to realize I’m ambivalent about some aspects of TTWD (This Thing We Do. It sounds more appropriate to me than BDSM or D/s because it’s more encompassing). The other day a sub asked me if I was looking for 24/7 and I said I think I am. A few hours later I was chatting with another girl who said she didn’t want 24/7 and I said I wouldn’t have a problem with that. Now if these two girls got together somehow and compared notes I think they might conclude that I was just telling them what I think they wanted to hear. But that’s not it at all. I’m just not sure on this one. What may appear to be dishonesty might just be honest ambivalence.

Speaking of honesty, if you ask me how long I’ve be interested in TTWD I’ll tell you that it’s been more than 30 years. But taking that at face value would be highly misleading. When I was in my teens and early 20s I would switch with my girlfriends. It was a lot of fun. This continued off and on for many years but it’s only been in about the last ten years that I’ve been strictly Dom. And in this time I’ve had maybe a half dozen serious real life subs. I’m smart and I’m sexy and dominant but I don’t want to give the impression that I think I’m some King God Bad Ass Dom of Doms. I’m not. But I’m having fun slowly getting there.

This entry won’t make sense unless you’ve read my previous entry. So skip down and read that one. I’ll wait right here.

You’ve read it? Good. That entry generated more responses than any other. One girl wrote, “You are eliminating a whole segment of population that could yield a treasure.” Of course she’s my age. But I have to agree with her that perhaps I was too hasty.

Another girl (also my age) expressed sympathy for the girl I quoted. She described herself as a “scared rabbit [who will] tend to either stand in fear or run.”

She also said, “your profile starts out "I understand you darling" and goes on to claim you realize that a submissive will not submit to some jerk who calls himself a Dom...but then your journal contradicts this first paragraph.”

There is no contradiction.

In fact, in light of what I write in the first paragraph of my profile, the original girl’s insistence that she won’t “kneel before the first person that claims to be a Master” seems especially redundant. I’ve already told the world that I don’t expect that!

In fact, let me give you a word of advice. NEVER tell a Dom that you won’t “kneel before the first person that claims to be a Master.” Never. I know that sounds strange so I’ll explain why.

Suppose you’re talking to a guy. He’s an unknown quantity at this point. You do not yet know if he’s The One, a worthless wannabe or somewhere in between. Let’s assume he’s a worthless wannabe. (A safe assumption, they outnumber real Doms about nine to one.) Being a worthless wannabe he does indeed expect that you will “kneel down before the first person that claims to be a Master.”

You go ahead and read him the riot act (about you not kneeling down etc.) as soon as you start talking. What do you think worthless wannabe is going to say next? Nine times out of ten he’s going to modify his behavior. He puts the “bow down” line he was going to use on you back in his pocket, agrees with you, and tells you what he thinks you want to hear. If you had kept your mouth shut, worthless wannabe would have dug his own grave and you’d be done with him promptly. But because you’ve pre-empted him, he is now free to take another tack and string you along for who knows how long, wasting more of your time before you discover his true nature.

Men lie too much as it is. You really shouldn’t assist them.

OK, listen up kids. This is how not to appeal to a Dom. This is a YM transcript. I've edited out the screen names.

Me: And now you seek a Master to serve?

She: if i find the right One

Me: I don't understand your answer. It's circular reasoning.

Me: You will only a seek a Master if you find the right one? That doesn't make sense.

Me: too many fakes ..

Me: I didn't ask you if you're seeking fakes. I asked if you are seeking a Master.

She: i am not going to kneel before the first person that claims to be a Master .. it has to be proven to me that He is one ..

Me: You're either seeking a Master or you aren't.

Me: I didn't you ask you that question either.

She: i am seeking but i have not found one yet

Me: I didn't ask you, "Will you kneel before the first person that (sic) claims to be a Master?" I asked you if you are seeking a Master.

Do you see what the problem is here? This is a woman my age. She thinks she wants a Master but she's all pride, ego and defensiveness. She is so uncomfortable with her submissiveness that she feels compelled to emphasize that she's not going to "kneel before the first person that (i.e., who) claims to be a Master."

Well nobody but a complete idiot would sister! So I've duly noted that you're not a complete idiot.

So here are the new rules: If you're young and experienced, that's fine. If you're young and inexperienced, that's fine. If you're my age and experienced, that's fine. But if you're my age and inexperienced tell your story walking. I'm not interested.

I speak for no one but myself. I claim no special wisdom or insight into this thing we do. But I want to tell you my vision of what it is. To me this life of ours can be summed up in one word: Devotion. Are not all lovers devoted to one another? One would hope so. But you and I live in a place apart from ordinary lovers and we go where they cannot dream to venture. We live in an invisible world—a world beyond theirs—and we speak a secret language. Do you long to express a devotion that transcends mere love and sex? Do you ache for the arms of a Master who knows you to your very soul? Do you read these words with a rising excitement in your heart and loins, leavened with doubt? That doubt is the fear that you could never find the Man who would take your hand and guide you to that land you know in your heart exists but despaired you’d ever reach. Perhaps it can happen. Perhaps it will happen for you. Perhaps I will be that Man. But not if you just sit there daydreaming.

Another woman read these words a few hours ago. And another one read them before her. Did they write to me? Have they asked for my consideration? Your reading these words means I haven’t come to a decision yet. It’s not too late. Yet.

Things you didn’t ask me about but I thought I’d let you know anyway: I have no interest in Gor. Nada. Zip. Zero. If you refer to yourself in the third person or don’t use the first person singular we’re probably not a match. If you give me your number in your first email, don’t expect me to call. If you’d like to chat it would be a good idea to have YM. If you have “brat,” “sassy,” “naughty” or “leather” in your name it’s not impossible you’ll catch my fancy, just unlikely. If your idea of “submission” is to be tied up and screwed, spanked and/or eaten for hours, I’m not your man. If your idea of submission doesn’t include domestic service and care giving then you’re not my girl. If munches and “the scene” are important to you, you should find someone who would like to enjoy them with you. Ditto if you can “play” with someone with whom you have no emotional connection. And if you think I’m being a little cranky for writing this entry—well you got me. I hope you’ll write anyway.

Happy New Year Everyone! Well, Jennifer didn't work out and I wish her well. So I'm once again looking for the right girl. I'll be emailing girls I come across while browsing the site. If I don't email you it might be just because I haven't come across your profile yet. Feel free to email me first. And as long as you're respectful I don't mind if you PM me in chat without first asking permission in the room. More soon.