Many people lament the fact that this site is full of fakes and flakes, but how many good, honest and intelligent people on here fall for their act? Keep your eyes, ears and hearts open in your search, but don't shut off your brain or ignore things that just don't ring true. Trust your gut and be smart, people!

If someone has no picture on their profile, but they send you one in an email, CLICK THE PIC!!! (many liars aren't smart enough to remove embedded links, chances are you'll be taken to the profile they stole the picture from)

If someone asks you to "check them out" on another site (social network site, pay cam site, their blog, etc) then do that. Check them out. Do the pictures match? Does the age, sex, race, location, etc?

Pay attention to their profile here too. Did anything suddenly change on it after speaking to you? Did they suddenly change location and claim the previous one was a mistake or that they recently moved? Did they just grow a bit younger or older?

Within the first few messages or minutes, if someone:

• wants full, 24/7 ownership from or with YOU specifically;
  
• is not only willing to relocate (or relocate you), but is ready to do so right now;
  
• declares you their property (or themselves your property);
  
• talks of being collared, tattooed as yours/theirs, branded as yours/theirs, etc;
  

Get real. They have no intention of following through on any of that. What sane person would? And what sane person would want to be owned or own someone who would?

If someone tells you of a desire they have involving a third party (sharing a slave, selling or auctioning, pimping out a whore, swapping, etc) and suddenly, out of the blue you just so happen to get a message from someone you've never spoken to before expressing the same desire, run! There are coincidences in life, and this is a site where you will find many people looking for the same thing, but come on! People can and do have several profiles going at once. That stranger you just got a message from is them playing both sides of the fantasy. It's all a game and a very obvious one at that.

And, finally, if you are looking for online fantasy and you're one of the ones pulling these kinds of tricks, please just stop. There are plenty of others just like you here who only want online fantasy. There's no shame or harm in that. Be honest, be up front, SAY that you just want to role play online and have phone sex and never meet in person or actually do any of the things that get you off in your head. There is no need to lie to people or make them believe they'll have a relationship with you in real life that they'll never have. Don't be cruel in that way. There are plenty of other, very fun ways to be cruel and no one really gets hurt.

Always remember that there is a real, live HUMAN BEING on the other end of the keyboard typing and spending their time with you. Be a decent HUMAN BEING yourself and don't think that whatever happens online is harmless wank material. You can and probably have hurt people with your online lies. Think about it.