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MY PROFILE IS IN MY JOURNAL SECTION - And yes ... I can tell if you haven't read it. Once you DO read it, you'll know why I say this. ((hugs))

Having said that, and I've said this lots of times, it's not real till the meet up. It's simply chemistry and if that spark of attraction and ... for me ... a feeling of belonging to that person. So, time will tell. Hopefully soon. *grins madly*
OCTOBER 27th UPDATE! "-) I've managed to create the artwork and products for about ten items for the fund raiser, despite my USB PORTS frizzing in and out on me, making it difficult to get to my dried artwork on my 2TB external HD, but I managed to still get a lot done despite that. I should have a true workstation laptop by Friday, If ask guess well. before you will find links to give items for purchase that constitute pledges ranging from $15 to $60 plus the cost of the blank items the artwork is put on by Zazzle.com. Btw, I did speak to a representative Abbott hire were using their store to fund raiser for an adult community site and they wet fine with it add long is wet keep it tasteful. I know how to thread that line well, so I was very encouraged to hear that. Add far add the pledge purchase items, I should be ready to put up the first five or six links here and on our blog tonight or tomorrow. I will then nudges via CS to all if you who have expressed an interest in helping to get this of the ground. You're pledge purchase will help me determine if we have the interest and community support to really make this happen. I'm looking forward to moving on to the next phase, as I hope y'all are as well. Hete are as list of the items you be able to purchase

    The first Limited Edition Playing Cards plus another with a three dimensional BDSM icon that well remain up when the secret number of the limited edition playing cards are sold out, then they will be replaced with a new limited edition deck.
  • Sport Drinking Bottle
  • Men's & Womens Hoodie Sweat Shirts in two designs; one with and one without zipper open
  • A Journal to inspire all writers to put their thoughts on something a little less intangible. There's just something about the ceiling of real paper to ignite one's writing juices I've found. ;-)
  • A pair of playful shades with the BDSM icon on the lenses that don't interrupt your vision. These would be great for parties I thought.
  • Men's Henley shirt & a Women's ??? Shirt
  • Men & Womens FLops one with the bdsm icon and a limited edition version with a sexy subby drawing made by moi. Just pouring a likely naughty for in your step! Hehehe
  • And for those of you on very limited budget there will be BDSM icon keychain, and Thank you Card
In the deion of each of these items will be an outline of the amount of the contribution your purchase represents so you always know how much you're giving., and the a The slight delay putting the links up for theses pledge purchase items is because of something good for me. I'm moving into three art district in our state capitol! This weekend will be ask about getting the grunt work done on that move and everything set up for me to work again. Once I feel secure with our sites development of phase one of pour project I hope to find the time to do some paintingsand maybe even some jazz and blues singing in there too. I am sooo excited. Here's the blog links again, though it's terribly out of date due to my being pulled in so many directions this past 45 days.;P I have been writing. Just need to sit down and proof read my stupid dyslexic mistakes away, as well as run on sentences and finish stuff that area just frameworks for a blog article. Again ... Thank you all for being so patient. I've been kinda a running done the last several years since my divorce, but I'm feeling like I'm seeing they'd light assy the end of the tunnel. How about y'all?

http://expose6.wix.com/blog

OR

http://www.expose6.wix.com/blog

WHY ZAZZLE? Well, I could always just beg for money from ya'll and honestly I've gotten very generous offers to send money directly to me, but I've always worried about your privacy. I don't need nor want to know your name, address and payment info. That's not my place I figure. So, I am using Zazzle as a sort of crowd source funding mechanism. Think of it this way ...

With a crowd source funding campaign the project is presented, along with several pledge levels that give something back to the pledgee that is closely related to the project itself. Then, the pledges have to wait, weeks? NONO ... more like months to get their pledge prezzies. That's crap I think! Don't you?

Then there is the issue of privacy. If we used a site like Ingigogo, we'd be shut down fairly quickly, due to the nature of our site and the people who will hang out there. Plus ... OMG! We'd be waving our freak flag too loudly, inviting criticism and possible exposure to a very unfriendly world to what we hold dear ... our rights to our sexual pervy-ness. I don't know about YOU but I WON'T put myself in that line of fire. :P NONONO

THE ZAZZLE SOLUTION

With Zazzle we ... me, friends and members, can make and donate great content to give you, the pledgee and member of our community, a great item of your choice that a portion of will be sent to the company bank account ... NOT MINE! Which is overseen by a real Professional Accountant ... AND get your pledge item in your hands within two weeks or less, depending upon location of course.

HOW THE PLEDGES WILL BE USED

This first round of pledges will go to the purchase of the dating platform and expected server costs needed once we go off the freebie hosting they offer, because they admit it's not designed for a lot of users. It's only thereto help develop the site we need. we expect to move off to our own hosting solution within 2 to 3 months. A monthly statement of monies taken in and expenses going out will be posted for anyone interested to see and keep track of

FUTURE CAMPAIGNS

The first round gets us off the ground, but we still don't have a site that is truly for our purposes. Otherwise, anyone could do this, right? :P We will need to pay for custom coding to get the features we want made, preferably by the company that designed the dating site platform, but if not we'll hire someone from the community or get a freelancer on board.

We'll also need to set aside money for getting the word out about the site. We could use Google's AD-sense program, but I think they'd band us due to the context of our site. If not ... geeze! Doesn't Google know enough about us? Do we really wanna give them a heads up on who and how many people are jumping on board? Anyway, that would only make us more attractive to all the scammers ... something we ALL want to reduce as much as possible.

On the Blog I'll be ranting about ...


HOW WE GET "REAL" PEOPLE INTO OUR COMMUNITY

Make no mistake ... this is a community concern. Without new subs/slaves and Doms/Masters and all the other subsets that belong there, our community won't have enough diversity and options for us to have a real selection to choose from for our pervy match!

That's your sneak peek! :P

I hope this Zazzle solution makes sense to you too. And if you have an idea for the blog or want to be a guest writer, please let me know. Same with photographers and such. Let's all make our wish lists and turn them in so we can try and make the most persistent wishes come true! :D

If not, or if you have a better idea please let me know, ok? weeonora@mail.com "-)

Here is the blog site again:

http://expose6.wix.com/blog

OR

http://www.expose6.wix.com/blog THANK YOU!!! WeeOnora "~)

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7/12/2016 10:37:15 PM
UPDATED  - ALL ABOUT THE PERVY ME - 10-2-2016 ...

Hello! Just a bit of stuff to weed out the mismatches here. Please forgive if it sounds too harsh Or unsubby. Just trying keep us from wasting each others time if we are not a good match on paper. *-)

NO ... MARRIED MEN WHO ARE NOT REALLY & TRULY SINGLE ... I can not be waiting for someone who is committed to someone else, even if that commitment has become more of a friendship. I know it's hard to leave a long standing married. I walked away from my 15 year marriage. But it's the honest thing to do. I know you may think you're doing your partner a favor in keeping it together, but what if you're stopping her from being as happy as you want to be too? Would you recommend this to your son or daughter? WHY IS YOUR HAPPINESS OF LESS VALUE THAN THEIRS? Growth takes sacrifice, ya'll! :)  
NO ... SMOKERS!! I Quit 10 Years Ago & Discovered I'm SERIOUSLY ALLERGIC!            So sorry :(
NO ... I DON'T HAVE NAKED PICTURES
NO ... I AM NOT MARRIED.
NO ... I AM NOT A ROPE MODEL TYPE GIRL.
NO ... I WON'T TALK ABOUT MY SEX STUFF... It's written in this profile. PLEASE TAKE THE TIME GET TO KNOW ME HERE AND IN MY JOURNAL ENTRIES ... Especially July 15th,'s, for 2015
NO ... I AM NOT A DOMINANT ... Just confident and bored senseless at the guys only wanting sexy chat for wanker fodder. Lol Ok! OKAY! ... I can be mischievous and want to tie up other girl subs and play with their cute titties! Does that mean I'm dominant? Nah ... just fun! :D
Sorry to have to add the this next three on 4-7-16. Felt it necessary due to the players here barking orders at me without even meeting up or getting to know one another. So for those of you that aren't so silly, please ignore.
NO ... I WON'T MEET YOU FOR A CAUSAL KINKY SCENE!! ... Hopefully I'm the kinda submissive you'll want to eventually keep long term. THAT MEANS ...
 
NO ... I will not have sex or play with your the first time we meet.
NO ... I will not take orders from you before we meet.
NO ... I will not give you identifying personal information before me meet

Guys .... notice I'm not calling you Doms or Master? ... We subby girls maybe be a submissive, but we're NOT STUPID> If you ask us to do something we know good and well you'd not recommend to your besty female subby, her subby daughter, or your former submissive then why would you expect us to?Are our lives of less value than those home based people in your life?
YOU ARE NOT REAL IF YOU EXPECT SUBBY GIRLS TO FOLLOW YOU AFTER TWO TEXT AND/OR CALL CONVERSATIONS!  PERSONALLY I DO NOT SEEK SOMEONE WHO CAN'T INVEST EMOTIONALLY AS MUCH AS THEY DO SEXUALLY.
Again ... I am sorry to have to put this up, but enough is enough.
NOW HERE ARE MY YESes!!
YES ... I AM A RELATIONSHIP KINDA GIRL ... if you're not, please turn the page
YES ... I'M A BRAND NEW BONAFIDE COCK WORSHIPER ... and I'm VERY good I'm told! *licks lips* Did my first BJ 6-2014!
I think I done good ... He asked for more! "-)
YES ... YOU WILL NEVER BE BORED WITH ME ... cause I'm smart, fun and creative ... Wanna play NHIE with me? hehehe
YES ... NO JEALOUSLY BUTTON HERE ... likes watching you play with others 0.o ... And helping! Love to be my Dom's evil assist!
YES ... I like to be monogamous, but do not require that of my Dom ... ask me why before you assume what that means OR Just read the YES before this one! hehehe :)
YES ... I SQUIRT ... LOTS!! ... Tons of towels will be needed
YES ... I WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH MY DOM ... Would you really want it other way?
YES ... I'm not overly used, having been more celibate than active sexually - please read my JUly 2015 Journal Entry to understand why? PLEASE? :-)
YES ... That's why I'm trying to find someone I cant trust to help me make up for lost time.
YES ... No worries! I've been told I'm a very good kisser and lover, despite my bouts of celibacy, the longest longest run being 7 years.. :P
YES ... THAT MEANS I'VE NEVER EVER HAD AN STD ... and need to know you are clear too. NP, Right?
YES ... I AM A BIT OF A NYMPHO ... Can you keep "UP"with me all night?
YES ... I have a preference for guys who are not more than 7.5 inches.

"LOOK AT ALL THOSE 'NO's' ... YOUR NOT A SUBMISSIVE!!!"
For those Doms who feel some parts of my profile and journal entries smack of topping from the bottom, know that those bits are not meant for you ... if you are the real deal that is.
They are for the ocean of guys who want to dom girls from a chat box, and usually in the first chat session as you can see from these snippets below I've copied here - No "Hello" ... No anything human. Just talking about my body parts as if I'm some cut up sex toy mounted on a hunter's cabin wall! Whatsup with that?
"I'd hit that ass all night!"
"Get over here and suck my dick, you cock worshipping, deep throating ..."yahda yahda yahda
And my favorite (NOT) repeat request ... to a sub? Really? LOL
"I will pay you $500 to tie me up to a tree and F*** me!" Whatev'ah! Shows you the hand boo!
So, before you determine who I am based soley on the NO's of this profile, I would just ask you to take ONE DAY to walk in a girl's shoes here and start a female profile with one picture and see what happens. Then maybe you will understand the pile of crap us girls have to wade through to get to Dominants with substance. :P

WHO AM I?
Yes, I can be a bawdy silly Irish Lassy and the life of the party, enjoying others humor and even my own. People will admire you for having such a bright shiny copper coin next to you.

Sing ... usually in key, but not always. Yes, that means you might wince >|< every once in a while at my odd diddlies as I work and do household chores. Hopefully it won't be often... the off notes - not the love of domestic servitude. :)

When I write silly and romantic poetry that means I'm feeling it for ya. I might just butcher the spelling a bit though -

WHICH BRINGS US TO .... DYSLEXIC ON BOARD!! "-P
Rest assured, I'm not a idiot savant or lacking in intelligence - IQ is around 130. I'm just dyslexic. Though, at some point you might doubt that number. Occasionally a severe moment of Blond Roots falls upon me. Don't worry. It will pass. :P

Love to dress naughty when appropriate, despite my loud curves, such as corsets, Breast exposing mini dress body shapers, Spanky Spandex Leggings with the crotch cut out, (gotta have some ventilation down there, huh? hehehe) and yes naked if it is pleasing to your eyes. If you don't love the sight of my White Irish Ghetto Booty, and the other curves that come with it, then we can be friends :)

Under all this verbose I like to think I am a deeply giving and intelligent human being that loves to be rewarded for respecting others and fulfilling their needs as best I am able to.

WHO I AM NOT
I am not able to travel great distances to be with you. It has to be within a reasonable distance, otherwise we're just play partners hitting each other up once or twice a month at some cheezy motel. That's not what I do.
I am not the squeaky wheel ... a woman who's main attraction is her tantrums, hysterics or need to be constantly rescued. I'm not perfect by any means, but this is not the reason I want or need a man/dominant in my life.
And this is especially so when it comes to jealousy - I am missing that green-eyed jealously button that most women struggle with. I don't understand the emotion really.
That's why I say ...

Jealousy ...
It's an ugly, messy bit of business that I wish to god * rolls eyes* could be cured, because it ruins so much beauty in its hunger for possession.

AND JUST FOR TITS AND GIGGLES, THIS IS HOW I SCORED :)
You Scored as Submissive
Oxford Dictionary: Submissive: ready to conform to the authority or will of others
Submissive 82%
- Yep, but not to everyone. :P Its a gut thang.

Experimental 79%
- I've found out I've just scratched the surface and have so much more to explore and learn things through others.

Masochist 75%
- Have tough hide and LOVE good hard play - but no perm damage please.

Bondage 71%
- I love it VERY MUCH, Lets me surrender wholly - No wiggle room! Yah!

Exhibitionist / Voyeur 64%
- Please keep your door open a little? I love to sneak a peek or two :P

Switch 54%
- I may have zero desire to dom a guy, but lately I have a terrible itch to tie up a female sub and play with her under the orders of a dominant. We'll see where that takes me! LOL

Sadist 39%
- With another female sub? Oh ... yes there are some evil ideas floating in my head, but I'd want to do this under the direction of an experienced dominant.

Vanilla 14%
- Yeah ... NOT HAHAHA

Dominant 11%
- Haven't gone down this rabbit hole and I so love being controlled by a trusted dominant ... sigh I could never give that up! LOL
And now a bit of legal Jargon .. Sorry!



WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this or you may copy and paste this one.
 


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FOR PASTING INTO MESSAGES
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"I don't do stupid" Hehehe ... I should have added that to my profile, but then I'd get accused of not being a "real sub" LOL In fact let me give you my profile I wrote before I took it down. :) Gives lots of insight into me, but my journals are the big deal. Honestly, they are pretty much required reading. I won't "do" anyone who doesn't care to read them. Kinda shows me where their priorities are.

UPDATED 4-5-2016 ...
Hello! Just a bit of stuff to weed out the mismatches here. Please forgive if it sounds too harsh Or unsubby. Just trying keep us from wasting each others time if we are not a good match on paper. *-)

NO ... MARRIED MEN WHO ARE NOT REALLY & TRULY SINGLE ... I can not be waiting for someone who is committed to someone else, even if that commitment has become more of a friendship. I know it's hard to leave a long standing married. I walked away from my 15 year marriage. But it's the honest thing to do.

I know you may think you're doing your partner a favor in keeping it together, but WHAT IF YOU are stopping her from being as happy as you want to be too?

Would you recommend this to your son or daughter?
WHY IS YOUR HAPPINESS OF LESS VALUE THAN THEIRS?
Growth takes sacrifice, ya'll! :)

NO ... SMOKERS!! I
Quit 10 Years Ago & Discovered I'm SERIOUSLY ALLERGIC! So sorry :(

NO ... I DON'T HAVE NAKED PICTURESNO ... I AM NOT MARRIED.

NO ... I AM NOT A ROPE MODEL TYPE GIRL.

NO ... I WON'T TALK ABOUT MY SEX STUFF...
It's written in this profile. PLEASE TAKE THE TIME GET TO KNOW ME HERE AND IN MY JOURNAL ENTRIES ... Especially July 30th,'s for 2015

NO ... I AM NOT A DOMINANT ... Just confident and bored senseless at the guys only wanting sexy chat for wanker fodder. Lol Ok!

OKAY! ... I can be mischievous and want to tie up other girl subs and play with their cute titties! Does that mean I'm dominant? Nah ... just fun! :D

NO ... I WON'T MEET YOU FOR A CAUSAL KINKY SCENE!! ... Hopefully I'm the kinda submissive you'll want to eventually keep long term. THAT MEANS ...

NO ... I will not have sex or play with your the first time we meet.

NO ... I will not take orders from you before we meet.

NO ... I will not give you identifying personal information before me meet

Guys .... notice I'm not calling you Doms or Master? ...

YOU ARE NOT REAL IF YOU EXPECT SUBBY GIRLS TO FOLLOW YOU AFTER TWO TEXT AND/OR CALL CONVERSATIONS! PERSONALLY I DO NOT SEEK SOMEONE WHO CAN'T INVEST EMOTIONALLY AS MUCH AS THEY DO SEXUALLY.

Again ... I am sorry to have to put this up and why I'm working on a new community project for us here ... a sorta mashup of Fetlife and Collar.

NOW HERE ARE MY YESes!! :)

YES ... I AM A RELATIONSHIP KINDA GIRL ... if you're not, please turn the page

YES ... I'M A BRAND NEW BONAFIDE COCK WORSHIPER ... and I'm VERY good I'm told! *licks lips* Did my first BJ 6-2014! I think I done good ... He asked for more! "-)

YES ... YOU WILL NEVER BE BORED WITH ME ... 'cause I'm smart, fun and creative.

YES ... NO JEALOUSLY BUTTON HERE ... likes watching you play with others 0.o ... And helping! Love to be my Dom's evil assist!

YES ... I like to be monogamous, but do not require that of my Dom ... ask me why before you assume what that means OR Just read the YES before this one! hehehe :)

YES ... I SQUIRT ... LOTS!! ... Tons of towels will be needed

YES ... I WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH MY DOM ... Would you really want it other way?

YES ... I'm not overly used, having been more celibate than active sexually - please read my JUly 2015 Journal Entry to understand why? PLEASE? :-)

YES ... That's why I'm trying to find someone I cant trust to help me make up for lost time.

YES ... No worries! I've been told I'm a very good kisser and lover, despite my bouts of celibacy, the longest longest run being 7 years.. :P

YES ... THAT MEANS I'VE NEVER EVER HAD AN STD ... and need to know you are clear too. NP, Right?

YES ... I AM A BIT OF A NYMPHO ... Can you keep "UP"with me all night?

YES ... I have a preference for guys who are not more than 7.5 inches.

"LOOK AT ALL THOSE 'NO's' ... YOUR NOT A SUBMISSIVE!!!"
For those Doms who feel some parts of my profile and journal entries smack of topping from the bottom, know that those bits are not meant for you ... if you are the real deal that is. They are for the ocean of guys who want to dom girls from a chat box, and usually in the first chat session as you can see from these snippets below I've copied here - No "Hello" ... No anything human. Just talking about my body parts as if I'm some cut up sex toy mounted on a hunter's cabin wall! Whatsup with that?
"I'd hit that ass all night!"

"Get over here and suck my dick, you cock worshipping, deep throating ..."yahda yahda yahda

And my favorite (NOT) repeat request ... to a sub? Really? LOL

"I will pay you $500 to tie me up to a tree and F*** me!"

Whatev'ah! Shows you the hand boo!

So, before you determine who I am based soley on the NO's of this profile, I would just ask you to take ONE DAY to walk in a girl's shoes here and start a female profile with one picture and see what happens. Then maybe you will understand the pile of crap us girls have to wade through to get to Dominants with substance. :P

WHO AM I?
Yes, I can be a bawdy silly Irish Lassy and the life of the party, enjoying others humor and even my own. People will admire you for having such a bright shiny copper coin next to you.

Sing ... usually in key, but not always. Yes, that means you might wince >|< every once in a while at my odd diddlies as I work and do household chores. Hopefully it won't be often... the off notes - not the love of domestic servitude. :)

When I write silly and romantic poetry that means I'm feeling it for ya. I might just butcher the spelling a bit though -

WHICH BRINGS US TO .... DYSLEXIC ON BOARD!! "-P
Rest assured, I'm not a idiot savant or lacking in intelligence - IQ is around 130. I'm just dyslexic. Though, at some point you might doubt that number. Occasionally a severe moment of Blond Roots falls upon me ... Don't worry. It will pass. :D

Love to dress naughty when appropriate, despite my loud curves, such as corsets, Breast exposing mini dress body shapers, Spanky Spandex Leggings with the crotch cut out, (gotta have some ventilation down there, huh? hehehe) and yes naked if it is pleasing to your eyes. If you don't love the sight of my White Irish Ghetto Booty, and the other curves that come with it, then we can be friends :)

Under all this verbose I like to think I am a deeply giving and intelligent human being that loves to be rewarded for respecting others and fulfilling their needs as best I am able to.

WHO I AM NOT
I am not able to travel great distances to be with you. It has to be within a reasonable distance, otherwise we're just play partners hitting each other up once or twice a month at some cheezy motel. That's not what I do.

I am not the squeaky wheel ... a woman who's main attraction is her tantrums, hysterics or need to be constantly rescued. I'm not perfect by any means, but this is not the reason I want or need a man/dominant in my life.

And this is especially so when it comes to jealousy - I am missing that green-eyed jealously button that most women struggle with. I don't understand the emotion really.
That's why I say ...

Jealousy ... It's an ugly, messy bit of business that I wish to god could be cured, because it ruins so much beauty in its hunger for possession.

AND JUST FOR TITS AND GIGGLES, THIS IS HOW I SCORED :)

You Scored as Submissive
Oxford Dictionary: Submissive: ready to conform to the authority or will of others
Submissive 82%
- Yep, but not to everyone. :P Its a gut thang.
Experimental 79%
- I've found out I've just scratched the surface and have so much more to explore and learn things through others.
Masochist 75%
- Have tough hide and LOVE good hard play - but no perm damage please.
Bondage 71%
- I love it VERY MUCH, Lets me surrender wholly - No wiggle room! Yah!

Exhibitionist / Voyeur 64%
- Please keep your door open a little? I love to sneak a peek or two :P

Switch 54%
- I may have zero desire to dom a guy, but lately I have a terrible itch to tie up a female sub and play with her under the orders of a dominant. We'll see where that takes me! LOL
Sadist 39%
- With another female sub? Oh ... yes there are some evil ideas floating in my head, but I'd want to do this under the direction of an experienced dominant.

Vanilla 14%
- Yeah ... NOT HAHAHA

Dominant 11%
- Haven't gone down this rabbit hole and I so love being controlled by a trusted dominant ... *sigh* I could never give that up! LOL



4/16/2016 5:48:51 PM


IN NEED OF WATER 

I am nothing,
I am everything,
I am but a seed,

Waiting for that touch …
That little drop of hope …
That hard care of another kind.

The kind that tethers you to me,
The kind that binds me to you,
The kind that brings me to life.

That is what I crave .. what I hunger for,
To lay bare my twisted heart that quivers in fear,
Surrendering to your design as you stitch me back up.

My mirror becomes your eyes
My vision … your view
My faded heart … yours to ignite again.

Voices scream out my desires … my fears
Can you see past my imperfections …
Can you see me for what I am?

Are you really there?
Or just so much dust floating in lazy air?
Can you feel me? Know me? Claim me?

My mouth needs to breath your air,
To feel you touch my warmth,
To know you exist.

Only then will know I'm not alone in this thirst,
Parched and aching,
A naked soul ... in need of water.



WeeOnora@mail.com 4-16-2016


1/10/2016 6:38:42 PM
UNABASHEDLY STOLEN FROM ANOTHER'S PROFILE *smirks* 
Tis full of wisdom that no man should resist.

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Yes, a good slave will challenge Him, testing the boundaries, pushing & nudging.
Sometimes it's obvious, sometimes subtle, but she is ALWAYS tugging at the leash.

She needs to feel the resistance, to know that she is held securely.

Why? Because it makes her feel safe.

If you let the leash go slack, she will slip away, disappointed & full of frustration...
Yet again. If You yank it too hard, she will choke & die.

It is a simple, constant tension, one that defines a Man as a Master.
It's not empty, vapid threats & childish temper tantrums.
It is a passing look of disapproval, a subtle POWERFUL thing that a Master does as an act of love for her.

When she yanks hard, He does not yank back as hard as He can.
If anything He shows her in His calm, unrelenting grasp,
That He is every bit the One she needs,
Man enough to ride our her fears with her.

His desire is not to see her suffer,
But to watch her learn and grow,
To comfort her with His strength,
And help her become all that she is capable of.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

author unknown

12/20/2015 3:19:11 PM
THIS IS FOR YOU GUYS AND HOW TO TAKE A GREAT PROFILE PIC THAT MAKES OTHERS COME RUNNING TO YA!!

1. No man should ever put a topless picture of themselves online ANYWHERE. We girls just giggle at the pic ... unless of course they are ripped, and then we just drool a bit and move on to the next profile *smirks* Yes ... we girls can be as bad as the guys on this score. 

2. Keep your picture on your profile current. Isn't anything more disappointing then us meeting someone the first time and thinking ... "OMG his picture was a lie. No way is he 55!" Truth is, you'll probably never meet take the chance to meet someone who thinks you are far younger than you really are. Be proud of who you are ... right now! Not just who you were a few years ago. You don't want someone who'd only be attracted to the past YOU.

3. Keep it clean shaven ... unless you sport facial hair as a regular thang.

4. Don't grimace or look mean ... SMILE! We love a Dom/Master with a nice relaxed grin.

5. Do not look down at the camera. That just ages you and gives you a serious double chin.

6. Don't look too far up either, or it makes you seem shorter than you are.

7. Face an open window to a sunny day or a bright but warn light with the camera/phone level with your face and turn your head a bit to the side to get a good angle and smile naturally. 

OHHHH!!! 
              Almost Forgot ....
                                        ALWAYS LOOK BEHIND YOU ???
                                                                                   And make sure there isn't filthy 
Or a ton of dirty/clean pile of clothes visible in the background. 

IN SUMMARY
If you're brave enough to show your face here put your best face forward. Keep you pic and age current. Isn't anything more disappointing then us meeting someone the first time and thinking ... "OMG his picture was a lie. No way is he 55!" Truth is, you'll probably never meet take the chance to meet someone who thinks you are far younger than you really are. Be proud of who you are ... right now! Not just who you were a few years ago. You don't want someone who'd only be attracted to the past YOU.

*winks* Good Luck!  And write something meaningful so we have  a reason to fall in love with your words and the mind that created them.


WeeOnora "-)

12/18/2015 1:34:29 PM
Love collars ... 
Require honesty ... 
I can be even painfully honest, but always in a respectful manner. 

I crave to have my owner's collar on my neck ...
A nice elegant posture collar for service and a comfy trim one with my secret name engraved upon it.

I need the feel of that insistent tug on on my lease ...
Calling me to Him ...
Keeping me in line and honoring His wishes.

I ache to feel the slap upon my breasts ...
and the sting of the clovers upon my nubs ...
Up there ... and down there.

I need to be bond to whatever He desires ..
To expose my mind and my body for his pleasure ...
To feel owned ...
Ironically free to let my inner slut rage freely.

But more importantly ...
I want a deeply passionate love for Him ...
To hear His words and feel compelled to listen and follow ...
To show my love for him by meeting the goals he sets for me.
To know I am loved ... just the way I am.

To have my maze of a mine poked and prodded ...
To feel my layers peeled one, section my section ...
Till all of me is naked and vulnerable ...
Knowing that I am protected by Him ...
Even in this fragile state.

This is the wicked, ironic love I must have ...
And YES, I say without shame that when I am with Him ..
I am making love ...
Even in the throws of the rough consensual taking of me.

I will not settle for some facsimile ...
I will not give up until I find it ...
I WILL care enough to give myself what I'd require for my child ...

Because I must give myself my due ...
For if it would not be good enough for my child ...
Then why would it be good enough for moi'?

This is me. Take me ... accept me ... or  walk on by.

12/2/2015 10:58:48 AM

DING! DING! DING! Today's special is ...
 
Insecure, Misogynist, Narcissistic Hypocrite  

COME ONE COME ALL! LOL
 

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An accounting for my first bonafide wacko on Collarspace

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If you come across a guy who may have the word RAINBOW in his profile name

Who's profile says he is 6'2" living in Michigan and/or Ontario, BC and is 45 or 48

Sends you fuzzy pictures of himself that look like a kinda flabby Superman a blue bedroom with while molding 

Says he has a high powered job ... in this case works for a major car manufacture in Ontario, Canada ... or Michigan, or some other state - he did pass through a toll while on the phone! LOL


And goes on and on about his wealth

And says he's got 45% interest in some poor lady's Pizza Parlor

And was married for 20 years to a trophy wife who he divorced

Tells that his investigator found she'd used gift cards to embezzle over 17K from their shared business.

Has kids that do not live with him ... 12 and 16

Says he's finally going for the type he really prefers ... he calls them the TOOL CHEST TYPE ... thick thighs, big bum, big Boobs ... you get the picture.

Says he lives in the house he and his wife bought ... a 4400-4500 sqft house with a 2200 sqft unfinished basement with windows

That she took everything with her except for the formal dining room set.

THEN YOU MIGHT WANT TO AVOID HIM

He's seriously mentally ill. Staying away would be my best advise.

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HOW TO TELL IF HE'S FOUND YOU!


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- Repeats himself ... A LOT and asks YOU the same questions over and over as if he can't remember what you told him in the last 24 hours.

- Sets up a meet and greet within the next week ... This is usually a good thing, but this guy will find some reason to cancel out, so be prepared. Probably because he's not who he says he is??

- Asks for your cell phone number so you can message him on the hour ... every hour

- Says he's been looking for you for a LONG TIME, then says he'll be asking you to take down your profile soon.


- After you do, he'll find someone with a profile name that matches your real or profile name and accuse you of being a liar and having two profiles here to try and run around on him ... even if this other profiled girl lives in a different state!

AND DESPITE HIM HAVING THREE ... that you know of! *rolls eyes* LOL


- Says he has sex every weekend with two slave girls, who by his own deion service lots of Doms and Dommes at the parties he goes to on the weekends ... one being a girl with a heart and her old dom's name tattooed on her hiney?  


- Professes real feelings for her, but can't seem to find it in himself to "settle" for her with that tattoo on, even if she had it taken off?


- THEN TALKS TO YOU LIKE YOU'RE THE SLUT if you've had even one sexual encounter in the last 6 to 8 months 


- Asks you over and over again in different ways about your former Dom and you in hopes to catch you in a lie, thinking you're two timing your dom with him

ALL THIS IN A MATTER OF A FEW DAYS?


 
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LOL OKOK ... enough beating up the poor mentally ill fella.


I sincerely wish ya'll well and hope this makes it more difficult for him to waste anyone else's time here. Would hate to see anyone take this guy seriously and get hurt for real.


WeeOnora "-)

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11/12/2015 8:14:13 AM

It's a normal thing when we're young and busy letting life figure us out ...

Push us around because we aren't aware yet that there is a time limit on choices.

When we hit this moment in life where we realize we are not invincible.

That we're not going to live forever.

That we've let life's happen chance push us into decisions and corners, limiting our experiences.

That we're not going to live forever.

That we've not done half the things we planned to achieve or experience ...

Assuming the opportunity would just materialize without effort.

That we need to squeeze every last drop of joy and pain and love out of the road ahead.

And ... if you're alone, I think we start fearing we're always going to be alone.

I guess I've been very lucky .. I've had a few great loves that by definition could be characterized as soul mates. Not many people can say that. I do not take that for granted.

But seems others experience that connection ...

That deep soulful connection ...

Not knowing or caring what the cost is ...

And when faced with the end ...

Having loved hard ...
And having hurt hard ...
Feeling that gut retching ache for that person who fit them so well.

Only to turn that into a wall of fear ...
Doing everything they can to avoid experiencing that loss again ...
Forgetting all about that intimate connection and all the good things it brought to their life.


It's being afraid that has to be fought to really live.

Not about stupid things like spiders and high cliffs, but the emotions of really living in the moment.

They all come at a price, but that's why you know you're truly breathing ...
Instead of just walking through life without purpose or understanding ...
Letting chaos and random acts decide our direction and how we live ...
Giving us the rational to sleep walk through our lives.

 


7/29/2015 11:06:11 PM
You seek a slave ...

In most people's minds this means once you submit you hand over all your decision making rights to your Master/ Dominant. A slave knows that this means if she disagrees her Master/Dominant he has the right to let her go simply for arguing or refusing, even without any reason. All she has to do is trust someone she usually knows not enough about to be sure this would work be in her best interest of not and obey blindly.

I am a submissive ...

Which in most people's minds means that a submissive always retains her right to say no to something her Dominant/Master wishes ... but there has to be a very good reason fr doing so, mind you ... and without fear that saying the word NO might result in her being kicked to the curb.

Why I must always retain my right to refuse ...

I don't usually talk about this openly, but seems it is necessary as I am being approached by a lot of guys who really want a slave, not a submissive, and are convinced slave and submissive are interchangeable.

I can never identify as a slave without any choices.
WHY? Because I was  sexual abuse at the hands of three different people as a child ... one being my father the preacher ... Yeah, doesn't get more messed up than that, and it was long term, from infancy till when I started my period at nine years old.

The second predator was a male babysitter ... full on rape at the age of eight.

The third was a female when I was 10 years of age.

I've put a lot of time and money to understand why I was such a target as a child and to work through the ugly mire that is my childhood. Thankfully I don't remember a lot of details about my father's abuse, but I do with the others. And yes, I have succeeded, which I hope is very evident in how I write and handle myself here.

This is why, to grow in a sane and safe way, I can NEVER ... EVER surrender my right to choose to submit.

IT'S SIMPLE -
I didn't have any choices as a child. What was done to me was horrific and hard to overcome. NO ONE should ever ask me to submit as a slave and take away my right to choose and be an active participant in the progression of our D/s relationship. 

It's simply NOT HEALTHY IN ANY WAY, for me, and I suspect a lot of other survivors of child sexual abuse, to strip us of this right.

Have I ever been slavish in the past?
Sure! But it became clear that, the meaning behind the intent was not to grant permanent decision making power to my Dominant. Nor should my Dominant ever assume or expect that reaction all the time.

It's all about the Body Memories -
These suckers can put me in a state where I am reliving a bad experience from my past. I am lost in a memory and i can't get out till the movie reel in my head and the touching sensations all over my body cease. 

Granted, I haven't had these in years -
Not surprisingly due to all the work I've done on myself and the awesome men I've had in my life who took a chance with me and truly helped me work through all the stuff one has to, to get healthy mentally and sexually.

Having said that, I can never assume that I won't have another one again.

That's as fool hardy as a Drunk who's succeeded in their sobriety, only to think that they will never be tempted to drink or run the risk of fall off the wagon. That is the kind of thinking that gets anyone in trouble an why people follow the 12 steps and make the choice to stay sober every day of their lives.

For example-

My instincts tell me that if I was spanked with a belt, I might have a body memory experience, due to the way it was used by my father. For that reason I haven't tried that yet. This is a trigger, just as a drunk going to a bar or smelling alcohol finds it being a trigger, challenging them to fight it off and stay sober.

MY alcohol is FEAR-
So, despite my love for the sound of the buckle clinking and the smell of the leather and that little creaking sound the belt makes when you twist and pull it tight, I wait, hoping that soon I'll find someone I can develop a deep and trusting relationship with for the long term. Then I feel I'll be able to dive into stuff like this with very few reservations. I've found facing these fears and experiencing strikingly similar scenarios with someone I trust deeply and know he's in that boat too with his feelings for me ... It can sorta write over the bad emotions and body memories, replacing these echoes from the past with one that is healthy, consensual and fulfilling.

 

This is why I must always retain my right to choose ...
To choose every day,
Every hour,
Every minute,
Every second

To repeatedly surrender myself to my Dominant and have that trust grow as we grow.

Only then can I feel safe enough to follow his lead.

I personally believe this requires more thought, faith and courage ...
In my mind it's a purer ... honest ... submission,

BECAUSE IT'S DONE THOUGHTFULLY AND CONTINUOUSLY,

Rather than writing a blank check to a Master,
And just blindly obey out of route necessity.

And any man,
Any Dominant,
Who can't read this and see the value in this ...
Is simply not a good fit for me.

I need that struggle to obey and comply,

And I'd hope any Dominant worth his salt would understand this and appreciate it.



Thank you for reading this ... 
If I've I've offended anyone that's not my intent. This is how I work. i hope to hear from gentleman here who get this. *-)


7/26/2015 9:58:19 AM
I was asked today as to why it was taking so long for me to find my Dominant and I started thinking about all the reasons I've ran into and found them pretty revealing. Of course this is not a scientific rational .... just my guesstimations based upon my experiences. I hope most think it's thoughtful reading.


Reasons .. oh the usual. About 15% really  want a slave and think they can convert me into one ... yeah .. shore buddy! LOL

5% say thy love BBWs ... but not really. I thinkt hey hope that secretly I'm a rope model LOL OR they are a BHM and don't to face the possible rejection. :P

10% are just a mess; alcoholics, drugs, smokers and the like.

Another 20 % are married and just wanting to mentally cheat on their wives and the other additional 5% will cheat if you give them a chance ... so any men can not deal with being alone ... need to hop directly for one relationship to another so start up an affair and then leave. And 5% more just wanna f**k someone on the side .... the real cheater as I call them.

A good 30% more are just really clueless as to what they want, are not ready for the commitment a submissive takes, or just window shoppers chatting up girls to hear salacious storied for the thrill of it.

Then there are about 6% being the serious STD crowd. Like the above group, they enjoy the mental tease, because they know they can't really dive in and won't expose themselves to the rejection. 

That leaves 14-15% % that are sincere, single, healthy and truly real men/couples ready to dive into the deep end of the pool with someone.



It's a process. I don't judge anyone, because ...
  • Today's Master looking for a slave often swaps out the words slave for submissive, realizes that making ever freaking decision for another human being is exhausting, and that it tends to make yes girls who's brain eventually shuts down. They look to their Master's brain for everything. WOW ... how boring can that get? 
  • Today's weighist guy could change his mind after three tries with a model type and realize they are searching for the perfect man .. . just like he is searching for the perfect woman. And realize that's an illusion ... an exterior ... a facade and that what really counts is what's inside the body.
  • Addicted folks eventually die or get their lives together and go sober.
  • Married cheaters either keep going like this, or grow tired of the wall between what they want and who they have in their bed at home and either push to fix it, go ahead and have the girl on the side, or dive into the deep end and leave and try and find a way to live authentically.
  • The clueless either stay dumb out of a subconscious desire to not own their sexuality, or learn through people they speak to here, or their own research ad experiences.
  • The STD crowd are sad ... it's so hard to find someone with each other's same illness with the looks chemistry and  that are equally attractive to the other. It's a hard road, but eventually they give up or find that person to have sex with or even love.
  • The rest of us are just sifting through all this barrage of miss matches to find our tingle and twinkle. It's such a long shot, but our very human nature requires us to not give up. None of us do ALONE well for the long term without just giving up on ourselves.

6/6/2015 11:37:33 PM

Darkness Given Voice

Someone said that to make what's in your head a reality you have to give it voice Literally speak it out loud ...
To your own ears first ...
Then to someone who knows you well.

There is something about hearing the words,
That suddenly preys it out of the dark and into the light of day
That makes it a compelling thing to nurture, feed and expand upon.

This can't happen if it's left floating around in your head,
Without any real tether to the real world.
Or turning for counsel with those you trust the most.

In fact, if you act on a thought of such importance,
Without consideration of the others in your life.
Without acknowledging all possible paths you could go down,

Of the ramifications of your choices,
Of ACTION ... AND INACTION
And how they will affect those you hold dear ...

Then YOU WILL make mistakes ...
Mistakes that might cost your someone dear
And retard your growth as a Dominant Man.

To not think and speculate on the possibilities,

Is like walking into a dark new room with no idea of what is in it.
You can only stubble around like a blind man,
Breaking things and bruising yourself.

But, if you let those thoughts flow into real possibilities,
Breath life into to them ... talk about it ... read... watch ... learn.

Then, when you walk into that darkened room with your submissive,
You are the authority ...

She will cling to you in that darkness.

Because she senses your true confidence in your chosen path for you both ...
She will trust that you know your own mind,
The commitment to the ideals you aspire to,
For yourself first, and her under your wing.

Only then can you guide her through the maze,
Help her pass through to her own path of learning,
And know you both will come out on the other side together.

This is the Dominant I craved to serve and thought you were.
I can not express how utterly disappointed I am,
To find that you lacked the wisdom to know this,

And, as a result, you lead me down a path of pain and regret.


Yes, I've had to give up on you as my Dominant ...
But I'm still hoping you'll find your way
As only a friend can.

 


5/25/2015 6:44:36 AM
WHY I DON'T USE YAHOO's IM PROGRAM - 


Most people do not know this about yahoo, but last year I set my security to
ask permission to run cookies and s. In most chat programs you
get 3 to 10 at most. In Yahoo I found it was constant, which explained why my
internet was running slower too.

As a result, I do not use Yahoo anymore. I fear they are using it for some
serious data mining from our conversations there and sharing it with lord
knows who.

If you want to talk to me, we can do it here, ask for my email or when I feel it's a good time I'll give my land line phone number. I don't usually give out my cell phone until I actually meet you, so please don't be offended if I limit our communications to these offerings.

Thank you for understanding 

WeeOnora *-)


5/23/2015 1:17:30 PM


Please note - I am not the author. This comes from a Tumblr blog that has long since been deleted and I am posting it here because I believe the points made are very worthy of preservation.

If you are truly going to own and dominate a woman, you must understand her. Everyone, of course, is unique, but I’ve seen some of the same things over and over between the submissive women I have known:

They are motivated by a deep desire to please. When you ask a “vanilla” woman what to do, she will sometimes reply “whatever you want”, which is simply annoying. However, you must understand that phrase for what it is from a submissive. She wants more than anything to please you. Whatever plans or ideas she had on her schedule, if she can make you happy she will be more fulfilled than doing whatever she wanted to do for herself. You must understand that phrase for what it is.

Now, this can easily become abuse. Every submissive woman I have ever personally known has been through a number of abusive relationships. She gives and men take and take and it becomes abusive. Weak men with self-esteem issues are often drawn to these women, which compounds the problem. It takes enormous strength and experience to take from a woman like this (which is what she needs) without abusing her. Your job is to soak up all her love and affection and attention, help her find ways to please you, while supporting and strengthening her as a person. This takes wisdom, experience, and, I believe, some age. I cannot imagine a 20 year old guy being a successful “dom” in any real sense of the word.

When you find her, she will likely have things in her past she is not proud of, and you may not be either. That doesn’t matter. You must accept her exactly as she is, with all of her flaws, imperfections and mistakes and you must never hold them against her. If you are worthy of the task, she will be transformed by her relationship with you… practically an alchemical transformation… lead into gold was only a metaphor for transformation you know? It was always about transforming the common and the broken into the sublime. If you can’t accept her, you can’t have her.

She needs to understand and to come to trust that you are not like the people who have hurt her in her past. She has developed complex coping and self-protective mechanisms. If you would possess her, you must strip them away and this takes time, love and persistence. If you do not do that, then your relationship will be a sham because you don’t have her, you have the face she has prepared to protect herself from the outside world.

She will naturally subjugate her desires to yours. In my opinion, you have a sacred responsibility to build her up and to strengthen her as a person. Again, you better have the wisdom and experience to do this… if not, find your way together, but be honest with her that you cannot give her what she needs.

A continuation of the above point: not every submissive is a masochist… often they are, but not always. New and wanna-be Doms need to be told this because if she sees you want to beat her even if she doesn’t want it, she won’t say no. In my opinion, if you find a woman you really care about, you need to do a lot of work understanding what makes her tick, and that does take work. My girl, for instance, literally could not answer the question “what do you want?” when we started talking. Could not answer it. You do not realize how difficult that question can be for a natural submissive, but you need to teach her how to think about it and answer it sometimes.

Above all… above all other things… be honest with her. In a relationship like this, trust is the one thing that cannot be repaired. If you damage it, you’re done. You also need to be aware that most of these women (in my experience) have an uncanny sixth sense. They are actually or very nearly psychic and will read all of your communications on every level. Don’t lie to them. It’s not worth it and once they catch you in a single lie, you now go into the same pile of “men who hurt her” and you will never truly be trusted again.

There is no depression or sorrow that can compare to what happens when you hurt or disappoint one of these women. Make sure you understand the responsibility you are assuming when you begin a relationship. On the other hand, they are capable of loving on a level that you probably cannot even begin to comprehend.

Again let me say this clearly: you have tremendous, profound and sacred responsibility for and to this woman. Don’t fuck around with this lightly.

This post is not about sex. Done properly, neither is your relationship with her.

 

 


4/28/2015 3:39:16 AM

THE GENTLEMAN DOM ...

He is a man among men. Respected by other males and even emulated for his approach to life.

His sensibilities demand he approach the owning of his unicorn with exquisite care and consent.

She is his project ...
His design ...
An expression and extension of his art of character.

His private theater to direct and then consume.

She is his pet ...
His masseuse ...
His cook and maid ...
His bath drawer & back scrubber.

She is his courtesan ...
His cock worshipper ...
His doll to dress and primp as he see's fit.

He is her confidant ...
Her sensual sensei ...
Her Svengali ...
Her authority figure ...
Her corporal punisher ...
Her wickedly dark lover.

Together, they are each other's addiction, support, emotional melting pot and so much more.

For him, guiding his creature is an art and science of the mind, body and soul ... in that order.

He isn't devoid of the trappings or desires of a typical dominant. but adds a layer of taste and etiquette other dominants may fine boring or burdensome with its attention to detail.

It's not a game or a scene. It is his life's goal to express his dominance this way ... like an artist putting paint to canvas, only his is living and breathing.

He creates a finite line of contrast between play, social, and work time, blending them all deftly, displaying his controls with subtle touches and whispered nuisance that those of the black and white vanilla world could never imagine being uttering from his lips, nor demanding the responses he does from his creature of comfort.

He owns her ... first by her every thought, then with her every deed, making their union his primary goal, risking them both drowning in their lust for their passions. He understands the tightrope that is being walked upon by them both and leads the way clearly, firmly and seductively, tugging them both from the cliff before it engulfs them completely.

His only anger is in defense of his own and when her defiance tests his will. Only then does he punish in earnest, but not to break her down, but rather to elevate her position in life and educate her on wrong doings. To mold her as a conduit for his and their needs together.

This it a Gentleman Dom defined
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TKJohnson
11-5-2014
tajohnson862@gmail.com for copy/print permissions


4/10/2015 5:20:47 PM
I have a question to ask of the men on Collar. I am having trouble actually lining up meet and greets witj dominants who habe expressed an interest in me. Now, I must be honest though, that part of the reason is my own recent Sitter gig watching children at a big Jewish Passover event here in Lancaster that has kept me booked nightly. And in all fairness, I seem to attract the more successful Gentlemen Dominants whose work commitments make it difficult for them to make date commitments .... they all live a good bit away; NYC, Philly, WashintonDC, NJ, Pittsburg; ect. Yet, thete are others who are local as well, but only one has actually agreed and setva date and time to meet. I have yet the opportunity to act on that offer, but hope to next week or so. It begs the question ... are these men really married, attached, insecure? Could they be strictly online dominants for all the same readons? Mind you, I do not disparage online dominance. I did enjoy two very important D/s relationships that wete totally onlne, so I certainly appreciate the skill and mental control this requires over another humam being without touch or one's breath enforcing the will of the Dominant onto the submissive. It's just I simply outgrew this level of my experience. So, rathet than assume these men are fakes, or only seeking wanker fodder, I am asking the men themselves whst stops them from meeting over a cup of coffee or dinner? Is it the desire to maintain the fantasy you see in our pictures? Do you fear your own self image won't up to the reality of your persona here? If so, should one consider that a lie? I hope to hear different reasons, even if it is to say my loud curves are too loud. Or that my profile doesn't make you feel like I want a full time Dominant to serve. Or that you want a different type submissive ... brat, sex slave, humiliation, hucow ... Anything besides the silent fading away to nothing after weeks of conversations and acknowledgement that thete was a real reason to meet and see if there is that spark. Maybe we need to create a spinoff with Collar that is just about funneling the one who truly desire to meet a place to hangout together. Maybe we could even organize monthly get togethers just for unattached and seriously looking Dom/Masters and sub/slaves that desire an easy going way to find a match. Some will say that is what munches are for, but honestly, the ones I have been to are usually attended by couples with little hope of finding a selection of folks ready, willing and able to begin the steps to becoming one in this life we choose. Could call it Meetups4More symbalizing the desire to be more than just a kinky hookup. ;-) Whatcha Think?

4/4/2015 8:41:39 PM
I ALWAYS TRY AND ASK FIVR OR SIX QUESTIONS OF THE DOMINANTS WHO SHOW A GENUINE INTEREST IN ME, ONE OF THEM IS ...

"What in your mind is the difference between a submissive and a slave."

As you might guess, the answers were all pretty unique, insightful and revealing, while never coming out the same. Then one Dom challenged me to answer the question myself to compare to his answers. Here is the result of that. Happy Reading!

I've heard some Dominants say being a submissive is defined by the sexual domination. I respectfully disagree and here is why.

Being a submissive does NOT mean it is only in the bedroom. My experience, eh ... be it small as it is, has been that the D/s relationship is a good mix of mental .. the "Sir and Mame stuff ,  physical - the ropes and bonds that set you free somehow, and the sexual dominance ... I don't think I need to esplain that, huh? *winks*.

The slavery thing  seems to m like it would be extremely taxing on the master, because he literally has to instruct her in a micro management kinda way if she hopes to keep herself from misfortune and pain.

A sub is expected to be self motivated, creative and passionate enough to ANTICIPATE her Dominants needs before he even thinks to need it.

And this is at the heart of the difference in my mind ...
One makes the dominant/master the center of attention ...
And the other makes the girl be the object of attention.

The sub gets rewarded with praise, encouragement and much more freedom to make personal choices, especially if she keeps her Dominant's desires in mind.

A slave's life is stressful, always worrying about if she remembered everything she should least she get punished. This smothered any creativity she can muster up on her own. If she does grow a brain and think up and idea, it had better please her Master, because if it doesn't he may beat her for it, as that is within his rights.

So one is based upon positive reinforcement of goals focused on pleasing her Dom/Master, while the other is based upon fear and pain and restriction of creative surrender.

So, which seems to be the one you, the dominant reading this, wants?
Email me your answer  with your collar name and I'll post some statistics.

4/4/2015 8:36:46 PM
I ALWAYS TRY AND ASK FIVR OR SIX QUESTIONS OF THE DOMINANTS WHO SHOW A GENUINE INTEREST IN ME, ONE OF THEM IS ... "What in your mind is the difference between a submissive and a slave." As you migjt guess, the answers are unique, insightful and revealing, while never coming out the same. But one Dom challenged me to answer the question. Here is the reresult of thajt. Being a submissive does NOT mean it is only in the bedroom. My experience has been that the D/s relationship is a good mix ofcmental and physucal domnance. The slaverything has to be extremely taxing on the master, because he literally hasto instruct her in a micro management kindaway if she hopes to keep herself from misfortune and pain. A sub is expected to be self motivated, creatuve and passionate enough to ANTICIPATE her Dominants needs Before he even thinks to need it. And this is at the heart of the difference ... One makes the dominant/master the center of attention and the other makes the girl be the object of attention. The sub gets rewarded with praise, encouragement and much more freedom to make personal choices, especially if she keeps her Dominant's desires in mind. A slave's life is stressful, always worrying about if she remembered everything she should least she get punished and her creativity is smothered by the need to be sure what ever she dreams up will.please herMaster, because if it doesn't he may beat her for it, as that is within his rights. So one is based upon positive reenforcement og goals focus on pleasing her Dom/Master, while the other is based upon fear and pain and restriction of creative surrender. So, do you still feel the slave route is what you want I am most definitely a submissive, as I would neber surrender me right to choose

4/3/2015 12:45:39 AM
HOW TO GO ABOUT GETTING TO OWN A GREAT SUBMISSIVE ...

Do to the fact the majority of messages we subs/slaves get on here that just are not fun, self-respecting, or frankly sexy, I wrote this as a suggested guide on how one might go about successfully getting an awesome D/s relationship going. I will be honest. It is designed to cut out such people who are only looking for wanker fodder via chat, rather than a syart to a serious D/s relationship. I know you guys have it bad too, with ladies always hitting you up for money and such. Us girls? We get guys promising things of the heart ... telling us we can trust them ... that they are not lije all the rest of the guys, only looking for a sexy text tryst, but rather truly investing in us and need that in return. But as soon as we do, and things get hawt and intimate, they are gone like the ethernet they came in on. If me saying this outloud makes you feel I am not submissive enough for you, I would just ask you to start a female profile with one picture and see what happens. Then maybe you will understand the pile of crap us girls have to wade through to get to the tiny handful of real, unattached and sincere dominan. men. You'll see being a mam on here is nothing compared to what we deal with. SO IF YOU AREVSTILL HERE AFTER MY DIATRIBE LOL THEN LET'S BEGIN
  • Start with some great chat session that aren't designed just to give you wanker material. :/
  • Share pictures and vanilla info as well as discuss shared sexual compatibility without visiting sleezyville! Lol Have some class guys!
  • Quickly move to phone chat, This is when you both discover each other outside of the basic compatibility questions. This, for me, ma include your penis size - NOT for the reason you'd think, but rather because I have a size limit that works for me orally and vaginally - hmmm is that a word? 0.o
  • Talk nightly for a couple of weeks while planning out how to meet. Please?BUT DO NOT TRY AND DOM FROM ONLINE, unless the ability to meet in person will take time and you are serious enough to call it a state of consideration. Yes, both may tease each a little, but keep it from becoming too graphic. Remember, if you find everything out before you meet you'll have nothing to talk or experience beyond the phyficadl sex when you do! It's about pacing things and YOU ?>>> THE DOMINANT >>> YOU SET THE PACE! Every good submissive LOVES ... ADORES ... YEARNS for a dominant who holds the reins not only on her, but his own passion for all the right reasons. As the song goes ... Annticipaaation! It's making me waiting! ;p
  • Meet at a neutral place as soon as possible to see if the sparks fly. This is very important. Ferrets out the guys and gals who are secretly involved and can't really color that far out of their relationsip lines. If thesparks are there make sure you have time to go for a movie or dinner. THAT'S RIGHT! Spend some time & money honey!
  • Make out at the end of the night in the car but NOT ALL THE WAY!! Leave that for a bedroom night, dude!
  • If there is no spark, no problem! Just remember she's a friend by now. Call her up again to just hang out, go out again on a weekend you both don't have a date and to prove you weren't just seeing her for a cheap thrill. ??
  • If there were sparks, you move past vanilla and go to a munch or a play party together. If truly comfy, heck yeah! Sprinkle in a little naughty and play some just to make sure the fire burns hot in you both.?
  • If, after a few months of this you don't wanna put a collar on it, then you should be honest with one another and decide what happens next ... take more time, be friends with benefits, or part ways.?

EASY PEASY, HUH? SO WHATCHA WAITIN FOR? Go out a get ya some real subbiness lovin ... in the real world! Lol

EXTRA CREDIT!! If you read the rest of my profile ... not too much left and chuck full if important info about me too, AND you mention something from it I might just surprise you with ... Pictures ... yah!!!pictures! ?


3/27/2015 6:06:12 PM
WHY IT'S ILLOGICAL TO ASK A SUB/SLAVE YOU'VE JUST MET TO OBEY YOU AS IF SHE WAS YOUR COLLARED ONE ALREADY

Some People seem to have forgotten the lovely anticipation of waiting. They have no imagination it seems.

And sadly, because of how things are online, it's really hard to agree to online domination When you hxven't met them offline yet. And the reality is we're all talking to multiple people, Dom/Masters and Sub/Slaves alike, but 98% of the guys we speak to are not just asking, but expecting us girls to do sexual?obedience?and other?stuff after just a single conversation. Now, think on that a moment.

I've got over 3000 missives logged into my profile, I've spoken to approximately 500 guys on here, averaging about 3 to 7 new people a night when I am actively online. Now, if 98% ask or demand I do something special about my orgasms for them, imagine how impossible that would be to make happen? Do I orgasm for Master R tonight? What about the 5 other doms who are asking me to do that for them too? Do I lie to you and pretend to cum? Is that part of what makes a up a real sub ... to be so eager to please tjat she will lie to you? All ya'll men cry foul at the faker girls who pretend to cum and act like yoy are the only dom they are with, but odds are you are asking multiple girls for the same thing. It's a but lije callng the kettle black, huh? The reality is, if a gurl IS HOONEST and says she's saving all that online sexy stuff for times when she can't be with her future Dom,Master ... or that we're speaking with too many other doms who request similar things, then we're just a literal Sluts and worhless to you ... which is ironic, seeing many guys look at online stuff as only plat and not really serious, nless tjey want a girl to hear otherwise, right? So what does that make you, but a fake Dom/Master and a sad sop of a hypocryte as you accuse us girls of being being fake "real" sluts?


Let's ask the real question of importance here ... What "real and sincere" submissive/slave would succeed in life and her pursuit of subby, slavy happiness if she followed ever command if every Dominate who asked her to, in the name of getting to know her? That would make a complete and utter joke of who they are and confirm ever Dom's rallying cry about how fake all of us are on these sites ... right?

For me, yes! In real and online I can be loads of fun in my sexual creativity and get off on getting you off too, but what self-respecting serious Dom would settle for online female wanker sessions?!? Lol NOW, HAVING SAID ALL THAT I AM GOING TO OFFER UP SOME TRULY SALACIOUS WANKER FODDER FOR YOU GUYS, as as I get my laptop back from the repair shop and copy and paste it in here. lol ... If nothing more than to show you what it is like to be with me, a real submissive, retelling her brief, but wonderful first and so far, only real D/s relationship, just from the sexual dominance perspective. If you've never really done this outside of chat boxes, this is what you are missing. It's soooo much better ... so much more meaningful ... when you are touching flesh to flesh, mouth to lips, hand to breast, cock to cunt. COMING IN APPROXIMATELY 2 WEEKS FROM TODAY, APRIL 3RD, 2015. Now, tell me again why you want to settle for online? ;/

10/22/2014 4:57:01 AM

A man of great height
With piercing dark eyes
They see into my interior
Instead of through me

I like this

He prods laughter from me
So bright and light
Filled with irony and edge
All to keep me guessing

This I cherish

I need His lightness
I crave His darkness
I become addicted
Aching for hard tugs to Him again

This need to truly feel alive

I slide to my knees
My cheek resting upon Him
His body betraying his control
While He thinks of his response to my silent beg

This I crave breathlessly

He pets my hair
And touches my cheek
I warm to His desires
As he shows me his

This I ache for

He whispers His dreams
A cabin, lingerie, deep kisses
I yearn for His words
To be more than fantasy

This I keep to myself

He takes me home
To sleep alone again
I hug my pillow
A poor substitute for Him

This I love and hate

I fear the need to need Him
He fears my abundant gift
Our emotional tug of war
Yet, I willingly wait to be called again ... and again

This I endure out of love

There ... I've put it to voice
Yes, it makes no sense
But its there plain as bread
Propelling us as we violently collide in our dark dance

This I am addicted to

I wait impatiently as
Pins and needles scar my mind
Poking and prodding mercilessly
Waiting for His demon side to tear into me

I fear being hurt interiorly
I wonder if He fears the same
As he whales on body
His body and mine shaking in adulterated need

This is the delicious angst
And stupid topography of 'me"
Seemingly always drifting
Always aching to be owned

Take it ... me
Or leave it ... me
But  .... please ... I beg you
Do take it ... Do own this entity that is me



10/15/2014 8:05:03 AM

He is a man among men.
Respected by other males and even emulated for his approach to life.

His sensibilities demand he approach the owning of his unicorn with exquisite care and consent.

She is his project ...
His design ...
An expression and extension of his art of character.

His private theater to direct and then consume.

She is his pet ...
His masseuse ...
His cook and maid ...
His bath drawer & back scrubber.

She is his courtesan ...
His cock worshipper ...
His doll to dress and primp as he see's fit.

He is her confidant ...
Her sensual sensei ...
Her Svengali ...
Her authority figure ...
Her corporal punisher ...
Her wickedly dark lover.

Together, they are each other's addiction, support, emotional melting pot and so much more.

For him, guiding his creature is an art and science of the mind, body and soul ... in that order.

He isn't devoid of the trappings or desires of a typical dominant. but adds a layer of taste and etiquette other dominants may fine boring or burdensome with its attention to detail.

It's not a game or a scene. It is his life's goal to express his dominance this way ... like an artist putting paint to canvas, only his is living and breathing.

He creates a finite line of contrast between play, social, and work time, blending them all deftly, displaying his controls with subtle touches and whispered nuisance that those of the black and white vanilla world could never imagine being uttering from his lips, nor demanding the responses he does from his creature of comfort.

He owns her ... first by her every thought, then with her every deed, making their union his primary goal, risking them both drowning in their lust for their passions. He understands the tightrope that is being walked upon by them both and leads the way clearly, firmly and seductively, tugging them both from the cliff before it engulfs them completely.

His only anger is in defense of his own and when her defiance tests his will. Only then does he punish in earnest, but not to break her down, but rather to elevate her position in life and educate her on wrong doings. To mold her as a conduit for his and their needs together.

This is what a Gentleman Dom is about. Who are you?

TKJohnson
11-5-2014
tajohnson862@gmail.com for copy/print permissions


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GoddessNeisha
 
 Age: 19
 New York, New York