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| Hi, I know there's someone out there that desires what I have to give, and who will kindly offer what I will gladly take. I am looking for submissive women or slave-types only. I have decades of experience and can be a patient trainer. I am a RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) player more so than just Safe Sane & Consensual. I thoroughly enjoy binding a willing woman for hours of fun & games. Heavy to light corporal discipline is fun occasionally, but not my meat & potatoes. I am very rational when it comes down to who does what to whom, when, where, why and how. Being wiser now, I always look before I leap, so let's get acquainted or re-acquainted before we jump into the deep end. I am not the old Xan. Many aspects of my life have changed, and I am capable of being more emotionally involved now. If you'd like a different look at what I like, and how I Blog, look me up on Life, (same name).
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OK, I'm sitting here, alone on my 56th B-day and wondering about honesty. I suspect it's a lost art. Maybe it's the communication factor. American isn't exactly a precise language. I tend to take people at their word. If they ask for X-Y&Zsquared, and you offer them X-Y&Zsquared, and then they amend it and tell you that no matter whether it's still asked for in their profile, they didn't want it like that, ... Oh well, I'm chalking it up to they just didn't want it from me. After the continual brow beating we get from the AdCouncil, why should I expect "Truth In Advertising" from actual human beings? Oh well, the MeLay-YouLay-Marsten approach to finding a submissive goes on. How about you? (Give ya a nickel if you can tell me where I stole that line) |
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Last night my ex-SO and I parted company. There were no fights, no recriminations, no hostility and I wish her all the best, and much happiness in her life. I will always cherish her as a friend, even though we have grown too far apart to be a couple.
Now it is time to find a woman that is more attuned to who I am now, than who I was before. Are you her? Contact me if you think you are, please. I'm lonely now, and it's just going to get worse with time. |
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Sometimes I find it amazing how profound cliches and euphemisms can be when you shred them for their intent. I was just struck with a perceived intent from the moralistic cliche, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander."
Now I'm not talking about the "You tie me then I tie you, or the you beat me, I beat you, philosophies. The whole equalitarian thing is way too vanilla for my tastes. I still firmly believe in a clear and well defined division between my play partners and myself. The intent I am referring to is the concept of a fair division of labor within a BDSM relationship. I choose to be a leader, or the dominant alpha in a relationship. It seems only fair to me that a woman that calls herself submissive should desire to serve and be fulfilled in her chosen role as a beta.
To my dismay,I've recently gotten involved with "Do me" submissives. I tend to bring a lot to a relationship, and put a considered effort into what I offer during our interactions. I will not accept the well meaning submissive that says, I submit, therefore I am (submissive). Rolling over on her back and expecting decades of experience to be brought to bear on her, with little to no effort put forth to SERVE, is something I'm not going to tolerate. The entire "I'll let you tie and fuck me, but that is the extent of my duties as a submissive" is so fundamentally wrong, IMO.
If that works for others, "bless you". It doesn't work for me, anymore. |
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I am also on under the same name. |
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