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| I've been here before, I have no illusions about this place, so please spare me fakes, camwhores, and 15 year olds. I'm not going to bark orders at you, I'm also not here looking for nudes, sexting, or anything like that. I'm after real life meetings, and I realize it takes time and patience for that to happen via a website like this.
I'm experienced as a dom, but not into it as a lifestyle in the community oriented sense. My focus is more on the d/s than the s&m. I like getting in heads, making that deep rooted need to please mine to make use of. Real helplessness starts inside. I don't hate women or think submission is their place, I like genuine subs who need their place. My touch is neither sadistic nor always gentle, pain is more a means than an end in itself, to me. I want that interplay, the symbiotic loop of taking, giving, and being taken. My limits are pretty standard; no kids, human wastes, real injury, or animals. Orgasm control is an assumption, I like bondage and toys, and some forms objectification, degradation, and humiliation. Not much for exhibtionism, at least of myself, but subtle public play is fun. Aftercare is a must.
Outside of the d/s context I'm generally a mellow person, a former academic and not a fedora. I'd like someone who I generally enjoy the company of when clothes are on and roles are different, as well, and am open to seeing where something that takes root might go, in theory. I'm not here seeking love, tho. Lately I have been very much about the mentor/older almost daddy role. It's fun to teach and train.
I don't specifically have a type, I suppose intelligent, shy, and slender tends to describe my past gfs and subs, generally speaking. And please be born and still biologically female.
Younger in this world is ok, but there is definitely such a thing as too young. Legally and mentally capable of giving informed consent is mandatory.
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I'm reminded why I gave up on this site. It just doesn't work. Female subs are swamped, and naturally very guarded considering all the perverted assholes. But that means they share very little, if anything, of themselves, even in convos they start. And the dom is left with an expectation of seduction of and creation of trust in someone who we plain don't know.
N that ain't fair. I can't pretend to want to take someone who I don't know if I even have interest in or am attracted to. That you are female and submissive simply is not enough basis for a conversation that will go anywhere, any more than all those "hi there" messages female subs get from eager wannabe doms give you any reason to want to respond. Hordes of horny assholes aside, decent doms are people too. And like anyone else, if all we get from people we interact with are wildly unbalanced expectations, we're not going to be particularly invested in the outcome.
This probably sounds like some misogynist rant against women having any agency in their choices. I'm a big boy, this isn't about a rejection. It's about how interest in me has been expressed here, and how seemingly adult, fully grown women will act like passive aggressive toddlers sometimes. It is scary, but if you're not ready to risk something, don't use people as a way to tease yourself and pretend.
(Just for the record, this is not a whine about brattiness. That's cute and makes me smile, not rage. This is about actual interaction as humans, before our natures come out to play.) |
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| Age: 22 |
| San diego,
California |
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