There is certainly a phrase from 50 Shades of Grey worth retaining - "kinky fuckery". I like the sound of that.

After now having read all three in the series & having spoken to my friends about what they thought I'm overwhelmed by how many of my friends have improved their sex lives (if only for a short while, or until the next craze) by using the book to talk to their partners about what they want to try. In that way, I think these books are a good thing.

Like the movie '9 1/2 weeks' or 'Basic Instinct' I'm sure 50 Shades will fade out into the long list of sexual encounters we've all had that have taught us something or opened our minds a little but I for one hope that next time I get on top of it before all the hype.

If you are going my way down the Good Girl Highway then it is well past any shade of Grey… I am astonished at how many of the women I know think the actions in such prose are new… Or perhaps it’s just new to them? Well it is a long highway & the origins of BDSM are unclear, but the origin of wanting it are not. It begins when girls become women & want, ever so desperately, to be referred to by their men as “good girls”…

"I would like more negotiation, but when I say that, I mean I would like to be presented with more opportunities to show him just how well I can serve. In kinky relationships ... there is always going to be some degree of negotiation. There is always going to be some degree of trying to figure out what the other person likes & doesn't like & I think that doesn't always happen in non-kinky relationships. That process of negotiating is healthy for both parties in a relationship, but there isn't always enough negotiating in non-kinky relationships." -- Rachel Kramer Bussel

"The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there." -- Betty Grable

I have recently lost all of my journals and Collarme friends due to a technical error here on Collarme; I am not ecstatic about it but there is not a lot I can do about it. I am curious to know exactly what the error was and if my illusion of privacy has been violated by a third party.