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In order to be "in" with the in crowd, I'm changing my profile....

PLEASE, "Doms" in Africa, send me money, I want to come to your country.

NO NO NO....that won't do at ALL.

How about this:

For dom you are makng I am travel to your wonderful land but money is high.� Thank you.

There!� That ought to do it.

Hello, everyone.

I'm married.� Been here, done that...(and that and that and that, and some of THAT, too).� I wish there were a category where one could classify themselves as "bottom", rather than submissive.� I get alot of "crap" from people because I'm outspoken and goofy (and incredibly irreverent and love to tease).� Some people say that isn't "submissive behavior".� Nuts, to that.� I say.

Answers to some FAQ:

1.� Yes, my husband knows about my weirder "activities".� My marriage is successful, stable and fulfilling, but drat, he isn't dominant. He can no more "turn on" the dominance than I can "turn off" the submissiveness....I wish it were that easy.

2.� Yes, I know, 24/7 isn't an option, so sorry.� Some might even say collaring isn't an option, but I say where there's a will, there's a way and I've had a couple of really successful relationships.

3.� Yes, sex is "okay".� (Well, when you're by yourself, it's only "okay", but with partner(s), it should be great!)

4.� No, I won't post a picture but I have 'em.

5. I'm cute.� I'm smart, I'm slightly overweight but working on it.� I don't smoke.� I only drink socially.� I don't care to "play" casually, but on the flipside of that, I don't want to be a dominant's "end-all-and-be-all", either.� A prospective partner's personality is REALLY important--MUCH more important than a list of toys or what they do or don't do, etc.

6. As to "What have you done, not done"....I won't answer those questions until I know YOU.� Long, long ago (in a galaxy far away) I had another profile here where all I got was horndog mail from people (?) who wanted pictures and long drawn out descriptions of activities.� I got fed up, vowing I'd never find "my" partner.� I still don't believe I�WILL find him, but hope springs eternal.� �I will say I'm adventurous with reasonable (I think) limits.

�NOTICE...I just found out that the "old" profile is still active...or at least still "works".� It's "Amerememory" if you're interested--however, I've found that going back and forth between the two is just a pain in the ass, so I'm going to import my journal from there, over here.

7.� With all the scam stuff going on, please don't be offended if your email is deleted unread if� you don't have a profile or if your profile seems to be written in a language other than English.�

Anyway....here goes nothin...'!

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1/5/2011 1:34:19 PM

It's been a really long time since I posted anything here.

 

I run "hot" and "cold" when it comes to "the search".  I don't spend huge amounts of time on the net.  In a usual 18 hour day, 15 of those hours are very, VERY full, by my choice.  Let's just say I'm "accomplished".

 

Anyway:

 

The reason for today's entry has to do with a profile I recently read by a person who calls himself "TakeUinhand".  (Incidentally, if you happen to be this person and want this reference removed, just send a note and it will be done.)

 

I resonate to this type of thinking.  As to whether or not this specific person feels the same, I don't know--I've never spoken to him.  This, however, does not change the fact that the basics are there.  The reason I bring this up is not to kiss butt, but rather to point other people toward another place I find interesting...the "Taken in hand" website.  I'm not sure I can actually put a link here, so I'd rather not attempt it, but if you Google the above phrase in quotes, it will point you to the right place.

 

Bye!


4/15/2010 11:33:45 AM
Hi, everyone-- I have to get on the soap box: I'm a girl and sex is EASY. Put me in a room with 100 men. Of those men, at least half will be in a relationship. Most of those will have a social stigma that inhibits them from recreational sex with someone other than their partner. Of those 100 men, perhaps as many as 10 percent may be gay. A few might even be asexual. I tell you, as gently as possible, that given a few minutes with any of these 100 men, that at least 95 percent of them will want to fuck me. I don't mean to be a braggart, but am only going by past history. You, as a prospective dominant who wishes to pursue me, need to know one thing: I am not intimidated nor impressed by sex. I enjoy it, but I've already worked out my taboos. So, that being said, if you can't offer me something more, you're not only wasting my time, but your own. As ever, thanks for reading.

4/14/2010 1:11:36 PM
Dear VanillaXTract, ???????It is, as you likely suspect, the mobile app.? ???????With regard, ???????The Collarme Support Team See? Toldja I was a girl!! *harrumph*

4/14/2010 11:08:36 AM
A new glitch...(and yes, I've reported it to support) but sometimes my name shows up blue. I assure you, I am a genetic female. I think it has to do with the mobile app.

4/13/2010 5:38:12 PM
A new word I coined today:

Valdezophiles....those who love COFFEE!!

(I'm sure there's a real word for that, but I don't know what it is and I like mine, better.)

3/10/2010 5:22:24 PM

*LIMITS* Death, Children, Animals, Maiming, Permanent Markings without Prior lucid consent, Lies, Omission of Facts about my partner's life (to include other partners) that would cause me concern if they were "found out". Obfuscation. Any harm, whatsoever, to my reputation or any part of my life which may (in any form) harm my family.

Soft Limits:

Coffee denial, reading material denial.


3/9/2010 7:29:36 AM

This is an online medium.  There are three ways to communicate with other people while online:  Photos/videos, sound and text.

If you do not plan to make use of any of those to great extent or have alternate means of communication that will mutually respect our privacy and anonymity while we get to know each other, I would prefer to speak to those people who are willing to make the effort.

Thank you.

3/8/2010 8:42:03 AM
This is a journal entry from the "Amerememory" profile.

10/29/2008 9:05:27 AM
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A husband and wife were having a debate one bright Sunday morning over coffee and croissants.  The wife issued a challenge to her mate:  "I bet you can't tell me a single statement that will make me both happy and sad."

The husband took up the gauntlet and said he could.  Upon further reflection, his response was:

"Your pussy is much tighter than your sister's".

I think he won, don't you?

This one is, too:

10/27/2008 4:57:55 PM
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Hi, people.

Everybody's constantly asking me "What do you want", "why are you here".  One..I don't know why I'm here--mostly I think it's cos God has a real sense of humor.  As to what I want--here it is:

I don't expect to find my ideal...which would be a 24/7 live-in situation to someone who yearns for something more fulfilling than a sex slave.   I can't have that 24/7 situation because my existing life is problematic for that and it's too good to let go so that I can live out my dream to its fullest.  That's not to say I wouldn't consider as close as I can get, y'know?  Isn't it better to have a piece of cake rather than denying yourself any because you can't get the whole thing?  I think so.  That being said, the "Friends" hunt still stands--I've never found a good partner because I was "looking" for one, and I won't start now.  Maybe we'll bump into each other at the book store, who knows.  Could be that I find him here....stranger things have happened. So, if you are more mental than physical, I offer a good package to start with...I'm HWP, don't smoke, only drink socially, and have quite reasonable limits.  I've been told I'm pretty by some, been called gorgeous by others, although I'm by no means physically perfect, I think I'm attractive.  Besides, if you're the kind of owner I want and need, you can change anything about me that you don't like to suit yourself.   I want long term, I don't feel really comfortable playing socially, and when you do that, you run the risk of contracting a disease and I'm completely free and clean.  I'll add more to this thing as I think of it.   Local is really good...really...really good...or close to local.  Bye!

3/8/2010 8:40:29 AM

More "Amerememory" entries:
Journal Entries:
12/1/2008 8:56:36 AM [Report Entry]

Last night, my friend and I were sitting in my living room.  I said to her, 'I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle. If that ever happens, just pull the plug.'

She got up, unplugged the computer, and threw out my wine.

She's such a bitch...


11/7/2008 8:03:51 AM [Report Entry]
How to ruin a slave's day:

Remind her that "I dream of Jeannie" was NOT a documentary.

Tell her that "Ring around the Collar" was something to be avoided and that an entire ad campaign was created in the 70s to stamp out this awful thing.

Have her watch "Master and Commander" bound, when she realizes it's not a BDSM film, tell her she has to chew out of the ropes to turn it off.

11/5/2008 11:29:26 AM [Report Entry]

Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans.


10/30/2008 2:59:22 PM [Report Entry]
Why can't you crank call a Master's slaves?

Because they all have Collar ID.

(Mine too!  I know, it's a groaner).

10/30/2008 2:04:23 PM [Report Entry]

Joke:

Why are most sadists horrible at telling bedtime stories?


Because they tend to beat around the bush!


(I made that one up myself!)


3/8/2010 8:38:51 AM
The Journal Entries from "Amerememory"

8/14/2009 5:08:43 PM: It's time to get out the soap box.

I can't pretend that every person I've ever spoken to on Collarme has elicited fireworks.  Let's face it, some people are duds--and some are downright stupid.

So what about that magical moment when you've connected?  Your breath catches, your pulse races, there's electricity in the air.  You plan in steps...talk on the phone....maybe get a webcam...

AND THEN...THE BOTTOM DROPS OUT.
 
Each of the following things has happened to me, recently:

1.  He's attentive, shows up for scheduled "meetings" on time.  He responds in a timely manner....AND THEN...less than a week after the initial "I so want to dominate you", he doesn't show up at the time he asked YOU to be there.  He's hiding from you online, or he's not speaking to you.  He may have also blocked you, but you feel like too much a moron to bother to dig any deeper and find out.

2.  He sends you an email out of the blue--with some sort of reference that doesn't even apply to you.  You shrug it off and reply politely, anyway.  Suddenly, you're having a conversation.  You write back and forth.  The letters get more and more in depth...he seems to like you even when the "deal-breakers" come out in the open...AND THEN...for no reason you can surmise, your last letter was deleted unread and he's blocked you from sending any more.  THIS is after an "apology" he's issued for some sort of imagined slight.

3. He approaches you and strikes up a conversation.  He's enjoyable to talk to.  You talk to him for a couple of weeks, pick up a phone, really connect...AND THEN...he goes on vacation and you NEVER hear from him again.  No messages, your emails are unread and you think he's DEAD somewhere and have no idea what (if anything) to do about it.

In short...if you're one of the above types (or, in fact, any one of a NUMBER of equally-disturbed types who do similar things) please, do not waste my time.  I'm busy.  I have a life.  Some day, I will have the dominant who wants me to make his life sweeter, but until that day comes, I don't want to use my intelligence to be a "filler" for you.  So let's do everybody a favor and if you just want some online playtime, say so up front.

Thanks.


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4/22/2009 9:29:41 AM: Sometimes, it's a pain being over-educated.

I've recently gotten mail about my use of the word "past time" as opposed to "pastime".   The writer says it's "ironic" that I have issues with the word "dominate" but do not know how to spell "pastime".  Since I'm all for nipping these little snipes in the bud, I will post my response, here:

Fact is, the etymology of the word comes from  passe-temps, a French expression that translates "pass time." In English, pastime was once pass-time and also past-time.  The use of which has fallen out of favor to be sure, but which is correct.  Usage includes, but  is not limited to, a madrigal by Henry III "Past Time in Good Company" (which, I believe, was memorialized in music by Jethro Tull).  The spelling of "Past time" here, of course, is a translation from "Passetyme"--but either way, the "new" spelling is "Past Time", sans hyphen.  Of course, if this is not enough of an argument for you, I will be happy to drag out the etymology books, put away the philosophy of language texts that have overtaken my office--and while we're about it, we'll also discuss your misuse of the word "ironic".
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1/14/2009 4:11:33 PM:

Still more "list" stuff:

35.  I don't remember when the current crop of cartoons replaced Warner Bros, but I don't like it.

36.  I always wondered what was planted in order to get "seedless" varieties of things.

37.  Contrary to what you might think, you CAN do "too much" Pilates.

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1/6/2009 2:16:23 PM: Update:  I have been informed that there is a species of ants which grows its own "mosslike" food.  (I was also under the impression that bees actually ate honey, but that's more a "gathering" than a growing, so I let go of it as a point of contention.)  Anyway.  I am not "changing" the list, but I will add that as an addendum.  TA DA! _______________________________
12/7/2008 3:31:21 PM: New "listy" junk:

25.  I do crossword puzzles--in ink.

26.  I also do complex equations and statistical analysis in ink.

27.  I am not afraid of weapons.

28.  I love flowers but hate getting them as a gift.  Why kill a perfectly good flower so you can keep it in your home for a week?

29.  You can use antibacterial gel in fireplay.

30.  Isolation is a good thing.

31.  Punishment is bad.

32.  You should always finish what you sta

33.  The above was a joke.  Humor is important.  If you don't have a sense of humor, please don't use mine to make up for it, you won't like it.

34.  I love my family.

3/8/2010 8:34:50 AM
The "ad" from "Amerememory"...

There's someone here who has recently viewed my profile.  Actually, she and her Owner both viewed it, but the lady in question had a "list" on her profile which I liked and I'm doing one, myself as rather a "tribute".

1.  I don't believe I will ever have anything in common with someone who doesn't know the difference between "Dominate" and "Dominant".

2.  "Cheese" should replace baseball as this nation's past time.  (Food of the Gods, I'm telling you.)

3.  Rope is good for creating boundaries.  How can we grow in and of ourselves if we have no external boundaries to keep us safe?

4.  I used to fear aging.  Aging is marvelous, now I just fear getting old.

5.  Everybody should have a dog.

6.  Gardening is what separates us from beasts--know of another animal that intentionally grows its own food?

7.  Role play is fine, but being able to distinguish fantasy from reality and appreciate both equally shows true creativity.

8.  Answering a telephone during dinner should be made illegal and severely punished.

9.  Saying the word "Sigh" or "L-O-L" out loud to show emotion (As opposed to just sighing or laughing) means you spend too much time on the computer.

10. Carpet freshener is greatly appreciated.

11. "Old-fashioned" is not a put-down, it simply means you have morals and taste.

12. I can't understand why warm milk is supposed to make you sleepy when cold milk is obviously something to dunk a cookie in.

13.  People who have Christmas and Halloween decorations on their homes at the same time annoy me.

14. Correction is a means of saying "I love you".

15. I am sexy.

16. I am also misunderstood.

17. Fear makes me shy.

18. It also makes me aggressive when the shyness isn't understood.

19. I never learned how to use scissors well.

20. "Then" and "Than" are not the same word.  Neither are "your" and "you're", or "too" "two" and "to", or "their" "there" and "they're".

21. I miss the immediate friendships I had with the girls in high school.

22. Passion is very important.

23. Self-assurance is also very important.

24. I enjoy being a girl.

3/8/2010 8:10:57 AM

And this one is where the "new" journal entries start. Sorry that they're not in correct chronological order.

New Rant:

Just because somebody can't or won't become what you want doesn't make them a fake.


I, for example, am incapable of being 25 years old, I've already done it and moved on.


Lots of people don't want what I want and it would be arrogant of me to believe my kink's okay and yours isn't.  If you're one of these people who thinks that anybody who doesn't think like you is a "fake" or a "wannabe", please, leave me alone--I assure you I DO NOT think like you.  Thank God for that.


2/16/2010 11:51:09 AM
In the interest of expedience, here it is:

THE TABOO FANTASY I'VE NEVER TOLD ANYBODY....

well, except those people who insist on asking.

:P 

It's a dark and stormy night.  (I had to put that there, it's in "Writing 101"...all good stories start that way).  I'm in a church, probably abandoned--full of rubble--winds howling through tattered curtains at broken windows, but I can see a small brazier burning on the altar. I'm here because I was told to be here, you see...part of my nurturing includes spiritual development.  As I make my way to the bit of warmth, I notice there are a dozen men in the front pew, all kneeling, all seeming to pray, and my owner stands mid-aisle waiting for me.  He's dressed business casual, looks out of place here.  I am wearing a camisole and pantaloons, as requested, white....under a green hooded cloak.  As I join him, the men rise as one and circle us.  I'm starting to get  nervous.  I haven't been "prepped" for anything.

As one, they reach out and grab at me, some at my arms, some at my thighs, and I struggle, the fight or flight instinct pushing me.  My owner has stepped away and is kneeling back on his heels in front of the brazier, stoking it.  The men lift me and carry me to him, but as they set me down, the pressure on my body intensifies, and I am held down by them, thighs open.  It is only then that I can see the branding iron in the brazier.

My owner doesn't speak, doesn't touch me, doesn't acknowledge me.  The man nearest the fire pulls down the pantaloons, baring my thighs to the knees.  It is then that he applies the brand to my inner thigh.  I'm held tighter so I don't move and ruin the line of the brand, but my owner hasn't even made a move.  When the iron is removed, he quickly comes to me and gathers me in his arms, kissing the tears on my cheek.  Oddly, it is his brand that I wear, but because he wasn't involved with it, I hate the strangers that caused the pain and look to him for comfort.


ED. Note:
Yeah, okay, so I put it here as "tongue in cheek", but  you know, I already said I don't discuss private issues with strangers....yet, for some reason, strangers keep asking. 

1/26/2010 8:11:11 AM
Okay, wow....

Please, for the love of all that is holy...

any offers to be my dom/owner/whatever that are given prior to any conversation or photo exchange will be met with fear, trepidation, and not an unhealthy level of laughter at your expense---as well as you being considered looney and blocked.

Thanks.

1/21/2010 5:51:29 AM
In the interest of being a good public citizen, I have decided to create a non-profit organization for the prevention of online illiteracy.  Being somewhat over-educated myself, I had no idea how rampant this problem was until I began getting huge amounts of certifiable crap in my "In" folder from people who apparently cannot read, or, if they DO read, cannot comprehend what they have read. 

Donations can be made to your local mental-health organization.

1/15/2010 1:31:26 PM
Sub males.....No.  I'm not a domme, sorry.
Sub females..If you're looking for another person to join your family, I can understand, but I'd feel more interested if the dominant in the relationship were doing the "fishing"
Dominant couples...has possibilities.
Switches...No, thank you...mental is more important in my book than the play aspect, and with switches, the power dynamic is weird.

1/14/2010 10:17:26 AM
New topic:

YOUR marriage:  folks, your spouse MUST be aware of what you do.  Lying by ommission is STILL lying.  I know it's easy to tell yourself you don't want to hurt your wife or your children, but the simple fact of it is that if you're married to someone who can't support you in whatever you want to do or to be (even if they can't take part in that WITH you), YOU SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED.  That's what marriage is--being a partner.  If you want to cohabitate for the sake of your children, or for financial considerations, or simply because the dog might be upset if one of you left, by all means, do so---but if you're miserable, chances are she is, too.

1/11/2010 12:00:06 PM
DOH!  My gender bias is showing.  Okay, I'm mostly straight, but female partners are okay, too.  Regardless of YOUR gender, I have to like you before I'll want to be even remotely intimate with you, anyway and I like who I like.

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 Age: 44
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