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Hello happy peoples and couples,
My name is Nathan, I am the dominant in a mildly sub/dom relationship, and am posting on here (16/02/2016) out of general interest in the wider community (I may also make a fetlife profile soon).
Disclaimer: Neither my nor my partners pictures are on here, though Nathan is indeed my name, and Van Zadler is a coined couples name based on our mutual interests. I run a company in a highly respectful industry and need to maintain broad anonymity for that reason. My is partner is a teacher, so of course that is out of the question.
Myself:
I'm a simple guy. I Love playing piano (particularly Disney and Chopin), I permanently study maths and physics and watch the atheist experience as a 'guilty' pleasure.
Currently I'm reading the lord of the rings to Baby Girl, though shes often snoring by the time I'm fully into the characters and voices.
Babygirl:
As a teacher she is highly liberal and professional, but at home she can be anywhere from feisty to fussy to little to full on sub. I am know to her as daddy/puppy/pup/boyfriend in general conversation, Nathan in company and Sir when things get kinky.
She colours and cooks and does 'snuggles' and 'fussins', and as of a few days ago she knits, which as usual I am completely incapable of stopping even though that scarf is absurd, I guarantee I will be wearing it within a fortnight.
Definitions:
Hopefully the profile picture captures this fairly well. I am not into beating/hurting/humiliating or in almost any way distressing babygirl, though I must admit I love to sneak up on here and often get an earful for it. My strict definitions are as follows;
Dom; A dominant is a person who can guide and protect a submissive, as well as being just as weak and vulnerable to them as they are to the dominant. Giving orders and expecting unconditional acceptance is reserved for very specific situations which are well understood and accepted by both partners.
While I have been with a lifestyle sub and have come to the point of micromanaging by request of the sub, this relationship is different.
Sub; A sub is harder for me to fully define, in its simplest form a submissive is a person who wants to submit, in any one of many possible ways, to a dominant. Maybe this sounds circular, but by bringing the definition round to be based on the previous definition I believe I have encompassed the concept in one I understand far better. This also leaves a lot of varieties for submission to take on as the definition for a dominant allows for a broad spectrum of people.
Underlying all of these is a concept that applies to life in general, but should be payed particular attention to in this context:
Safety; Everything done in this relationship is consentual, EVERYTHING.
As a side note; What we do as a couple I define to be morally right if and only if this requirement is met by everybody affected by our actions. Please feel free to challenge this definition in principle or by example, I enjoy those thought experiments and challenges (I have many definitions of morality, ranging from standpoints based purely on subjective experience right through to purely abstract systems, and this satisfies almost all of them).
Please do not come to me to talk about anything that voids this overarching rule in a manner which implies it is acceptable unless you are willing to back up what you say and very likely end up blocked.
Interests!
Obviously we are interested in meeting people in the community. Please note that this is NOT a purely sexual thing, we are both monogamous and even though she loves cum I plan for it to only be mine that she swallows. However if you are coming to us from a submissive, dominant or anything in between context.
If you write please keep in mind that you are addressing me, Nathan. Baby Girl will only receive communication I deem acceptable. So long as you are a decent person you will almost certainly fall into this category, however if you fancy approaching me as a complete nutter or disgusting human being this may well reach her as we both like a laugh.
If you are a couple looking for mutual people with mutual interests I would love to hear from you. Please don't worry about coming across as weird or awkward, thats what this place was built for.
If you are a sub (male or female) looking to chat by all means come forward. I only Dom my Babygirl but please don't let that put you off, I am happy to offer advise and support in any way I can, being comfortable with yourself as a submissive is a difficult thing and I will never criticize someone for being the way they are.
Similarly for Dominants (either male or female). If you want to talk please get in touch, however I do not submit to anybody (except occasionally, and only in jest, to babygirl), and babygirl submits to nobody but me. No seriously, if you go after her in any way I will end you in an inventive and funny way.
Final Note
My favourite colour is blue, hers is green, no particular reason for telling you that, just makes the profile feel more personal and human,
Thanks for reading
Nathan
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