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Lifelong male submissive who plays sexually and non-sexually with lifestyle female Dommes. Las Vegas and surrounding area only. At this time seeking Domme. When a man experiences an orgasm there is a release of various chemicals/hormones. These are what causes the sudden disinterest and "PMS" after your subs release. My ex-Mistress has kept me chaste at different times for various lengths time. When I'm in a "pre-orgasm" state, I am focused. I am horny as hell and willing to do just about anything. I stay in an almost continual state of sub-space. My pain threshold goes WAY up and my interest in all things kinky is all encompassing. But when it comes time for release after a 1-2 week lockdown, my "mindset" changes almost before I finish my orgasm. Just before my orgasm, I would promise the sun and moon... I can take unbelievable amounts of pain and soak it all up. I will make all sorts of "promises" etc. But less than 10 seconds after orgasm, I just want to grab a beer and watch Sportscenter. All thoughts of kink are gone... all promises that sounded great not 30 seconds prior now seem absurd. This is all a result of the various chemicals/hormones that are released when a male orgasms. The interesting thing is that women are VERY different, and consequently, it's frequently hard for them to understand this concept. When my Domme orgasms, she continues her level of arousal and interest. She doesn't experience the "click" of the arousal shutting down so suddenly. So all that said, the question is how to avoid it? Well there are a couple of things that have worked for us. Firstly, play with the lengths of time. I have found that if I have a nice powerful orgasm after 1-2 weeks, I will be disinterested for a couple of days... not wanting to play in the slightest... but if I haven't had an orgasm in 4-5 weeks, after I orgasm, I usually don't even go down. Less than a minute after orgasm I am ready to go again and almost as aroused as I was before the orgasm. And that arousal is the key element that allows your sub to stay in his submissive head state. The time it will take for him to not be "satiated" after orgasm is an individual thing. For me it's 4-5 weeks or more. For your sub it could be completely different... Just keep adding time until you find that you give him that "release" and within minutes he feels it wasn't enough... he wants another... that's the "sweet spot."
The other option is of course to perform prostate milkings. This is a little more difficult and takes some practice and a LOT of patience. As is not commonly communicated when reading about this process, is that it's a LONG process. 45-60 minutes. The best device is a good "G-spot" vibrator. One that is very hard. With the vibrator turned on, it usually consists of a slow methodical massage of the prostate. Frequently, you won't get any results until after the 45 minute mark. The other key concept to understand is that it gets easier as the muscles get more used to relaxing... In other words, the more you do it, the easier it will be and the faster you will get results. But start off slow if you sub hasn't done a lot of anal play. 45-60 min of anything up their can get your sub pretty sore if he's not used to it.
Another fun option that which is a kind of happy medium for us is something that the wife and I have come to call an NPO (No Pleasure Orgasm). Which basically consists of edging your sub repeatedly and when he finally starts to go over the edge, either completely taking the stimulation away, i.e. your hand/mouth whatever, or immediately causing very intense pain...i.e. grabbing his balls/twisting a nipple... whatever you can do to eliminate as much of his orgasm as possible. This minimized orgasm lowers the amount of chemicals/hormones released and allow for a much shorter "PMS" time.
Just remember that this is a physical chemical/hormonal reaction that is brought on during the male orgasm.
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