So far I have seen 3 different types of subs on here.

The first is the "lifestyle sub." These guys are in it for life. They want to serve constantly and need to be told what to do. Usually that would seem like a great thing that any domme would want, but it has its drawbacks. These are people who can be extremely co-dependent when they attach to people. They attach fast and do not like to let go. Often this is where you would get your stalkers from.

The second type is the "one and done." These guys are just here to get off and nothing more. They want dommes to cater to them so they can jerk off, fulfill their fantasy, and be done with it. They often get angry when a domme wont play their way, and they sometimes send messages calling them whore, sluts, etc. Kinda pathetic really.

The third type is a "balanced sub." I am one of these. We aren't here to have every aspect of our lives run by someone else. And we aren't looking for a quick way to cum. We are here because we choose to be here, and we like to be here. We have vanilla lives that we lead and we enjoy them. We enjoy the excitement and happiness we get when we please a domme and thats why we do it. However, we believe in respect and trust. If one or both of these is not established when a domme chooses us then the relationship will not work. But if there is a mutual respect and trust, then it can be a wonderful thing where both domme and sub are happy.

So how do you get trust and respect? Easy, just talk to us. Talk about limits, expectations, schedules. Talk about anything you want. But don't start demanding money and tasks right away. It never works.