I spent a wonderful evening last night chatting with several slaves here on CM. Several questions about what my profile where consistent. Enough so that I feel compelled to address them.

I considered scraping my profile and starting over. It really does portray an uncaring, unemotional relationship at the least, and at worst a relationship that fosters poor self esteem and self value for the slave.

But the profile is accurate, and does it's job very well. Anything less would be a lie. I have tweaked it a bit, but it is essentially the same. That left changing my intro letter to better reflect the overall relationship, or doing it here in the journal. Well, the above paragraph applies to the intro letter as well. I customize it based on the profile I am responding to, but the core of it is consistent. Together, I believe they are essential in my introduction.

So I will use this space to clarify a bit.

I am looking for a sustainable relationship. I don't believe that a relationship based solely on abuse and humiliation can be sustained for long.

I envision this relationship to be loving and nurturing. When I speak about treating my dog better, I do not torture my dog for fun. I don't dress him up in stupid sweaters and booties and make him run around the park. If you want to be treated better than someone's dog, you can find both those types of people.

I do not agree to respect you. I find irony in women that say “You can pee on me, but do it with respect”. Do I respect my slave? I refuse to enter that debate. I treat her as I wish, without regard to her wishes or desires. Or if she feels respected.

The is why it is so important that we talk about everything before there is any power exchange at all. She has to know that she can live this way, and that she can find a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction with me, and in this type of relationship.

So, if you are game, let's start that conversation!