I consider myself quite the novice. But I do have enough experience to know what I like and what I want. SO please do not confuse my novice status as ignorance. That being said…I have a lot to learn, A LOT to learn. And patience in this situation may be of the essence. Even I get un-patient with my-self at times regarding my submission. I think the important thing is that I am OPEN to learning and I am even eager to learn more about the lifestyle and more about my own submission if She is able to tap into that mental aspect of my submission.

I consider myself to be a natural submissive. I started thinking about this lifestyle in one form or another when I was in my early 20’s and it has evolved from there. I am secure in who I am. Now that I have said that…I will also say this. Just because I am not quiet, meek, shy etc does not mean I am not submissive. I have met many people who question my submissive nature because I am not what they believe is a “typical submissive.” (Whatever that is). All I can say is that I do not submit to the world. I will only submit to one woman. And I am content with that. So if one is not comfortable talking to someone who is talkative, has opinions, is educated etc., I am not the right person for you.

I enjoy a lot of things in the lifestyle! However, I am much more interested in the emotional/psychological aspects of lifestyle than the physical, although I understand the physical aspect of the lifestyle will also be a vital part in any D/s relationship. Please do not get me wrong. I enjoy the physical aspects as well. BUT…to me those physical acts mean so much more when they are within the context of a D/s relationships and there is more meaning behind those acts. Otherwise, it is just kinky sex. And I am looking for much more than that.

Ok…so what am I looking for? First of all I am looking for more than a one time thing and definitely more than play sessions. I am looking for my definition of submission – I understand that only I would know my definition of “submission 24/7” however I think it’s essential to have that someone guide me to THEIR definition of submission through my eyes (not sure if that made sense). I know some people read that and are like “no way.” But when I say I am seeking 24/7 it simply means that I don’t stop being submissive once I step out of the bedroom. I have no desire to be naked, bound and gagged 24/7. I have a very extensive vanilla life that I enjoy and will not compromise. This may be, the glass is half full type thinking, but I believe I can find a woman who can help me integrate the two lives in a way that works for both of us. For me it is more about the dynamic than anything else. And that can be created and sustained in and out of the home…in my humble opinion. As long as I know my place I’m happy.