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Hi E/everyone, I'm a female sub, but not here for play. I'm really looking for advice. My husband is, for the most part, pretty vanilla. I know he has the ability and the desire to be Dominant, but I'm really struggling to help bring it out of him. He enjoys forcing me on my knees, giving me a good slap on the arse occasionally and even orgasm control. It's just such a rare thing though, and I'm desperate for more. It never seems as though he's making a conscious decision to do these things either, more so a heat of the moment thing. I'm very naturally submissive, and would love to be given a good spanking and fucking before curling up at his feet, so I'm really struggling with this. I just don't know what to do :( If you can offer any advice or experience, I'd really appreciate it. B

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4/13/2014 3:42:50 AM

Phew! I *think* I've managed to response to everyone's initial messages! Please let me know if I've missed you. I've tried to reply with a personal response to each person, by letting you know if I tried your suggestion and how well it worked.

 

If you do feel that the last part, directing you here to my journal if you wanted to see how things played out, was copied and pasted, that's because it was! I'm afraid I couldn't think of 100 different ways to say the same thing, so there didn't seem a whole lot of point in typing the same thing over and over!

 

I'm sorry to those of you who feel I should have responded to your messages straight away. I felt it was better to be able to give you feedback so wanted to wait until the night was over, and then this morning I have replied as quickly as possible, bearing in mind I am a busy Mum! Special apologies to someone who thought I was a guy because I didn't reply quickly enough- I only realised you'd blocked me after typing out a long, apologetic message three times in a row; consider that punishment enough!

 

Thanks again to everyone for your input and advice :)

 

B


4/13/2014 1:17:30 AM
And I promise I WILL get around to thanking you all personally as well, just give me a couple of days to wade through my message folder!

4/13/2014 1:14:48 AM
Thank you so much to everyone for all your words of wisdom; I'm only sorry I haven't had the time to respond to you all individually. After last night, I really think we're getting there. I was pretty worried at first, as we ate our meal in silence and then he just seemed to be in a silly sort of mood. But we went up to bed early anyway. It was all actually our usual sex routine, although he did notice that I was extra horny, and the fucking was a lot harder than normal. But afterwards he asked me if there was anything else I'd have preferred. I told him that next time I'd rather him not be as gentle. He was shocked at first, and told me he'd fucked me as hard as he could! I explained that I felt like he'd been holding back a bit, e.g he was gripping my hair, but not pulling on it and kept putting his hand to my throat as though he wanted to squeeze it, but didn't. I told him that I loved the hard fucking, but that a hard spanking at some point would make it even better. His reaction really, really surprised me! He told me that he hasn't been playing too rough because a year or so ago, he'd been pinching my nipples and I hadn't liked it. He knew I was into it in the past and figured that I didn't want him to be rough any more. Actually, I was pregnant at the time he mentioned and my nipples were horrendously sensitive for most of my pregnancy (which was bloody awful in the winter!) Anyway, I curled up in his arms, he stroked my hair and we both went to sleep. We were woken at 2.30 by our darling son, at which point I shouted at him for not getting up quickly enough when I called him. As we went back to bed, I was laid on my side with my back to him and felt a light, teasing tapping on my arse. I pushed back against his hand. He told me to turn over. I did, and apologised for the way I'd spoken to him. He told me to suck his cock and I did, with a firm hand on the back of my head. He then said he was too tired to make me orgasm, but wanted to cum himself. I got another hard fucking, this time with plenty of roughness mixed in. He came, pulled out, made me lick him clean and then told me I'd have to wait until tonight. He said that we would be having another TV and phone free night (with the exception of GoT whilst our LO is settling down). Gah! And now I can't wait! Why didn't I talk to him about this sooner?! Thank you one and all!

4/12/2014 11:00:21 AM

I'm going to suggest we have an electronics free night tonight and get all the evening chores done early. Any ideas how to provoke a spanking? :P


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gentleheart45
 
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