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Dom/Domme Couple, 35/42,  Kansas City, Missouri
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About Us:

The Unseelie Court is a polyamorous household with multiple years of BDSM experience. The Court is made up of a dominant MF couple, our 3 offspring (2 living with us, 1 who visits), and one crazy Corgi mix who thinks his job is to flop in as many places as possible. Our poly family also includes the Lady's girlfriend who is mostly vanilla. She maintains her own residence.

The M/F portion of the household have been together for 11 years, 3 of which were spent in a committed poly V (MFM). We have also dated separately throughout our relationship, so we have plenty of experience with polyamory. Over the years, we've discovered that we do best with a 'W' formation. We're not looking for a closed triad, but we do expect that any new partners will form close bonds with the other members of the group.

About Him:
Relatively new to BDSM (less than 5 years) and very laid-back, but is a natural leader. He's also an amazingly quick study on anything he puts his mind to learning.

Has a sadistic streak but prefers sensual dominance.

Is interested in a wide variety of activities including shibari, florentine flogging, spanking, and knife play.

Is uninterested in switches or doormat slaves. Rope sluts encouraged.

Is a light smoker trying to quit.

About Her:

Maintains her own profile for posting on the forums: SylvereApLeanan

Is a non-smoker who rarely drinks.

Is lovingly sadistic.

Is an edge player who enjoys impact play, knife play, breath play, fire play, and body modification. Has a texture fetish - dressing a partner up in velvet, latex and other interesting tactile sensations is her idea of heaven.

Enjoys dominance even more than sadism.

Is willing to be a play partner if you desire it, but prefers to remain friends.

About you (These are the deal-breakers):

Under 45 years old

Drug/disease free

Height/weight proportionate (BMI 18-30)


Have career goals

A legal, permanent resident of the U.S. Ideally, you live within 50 miles of us, but as long as you live East of the Rockies and West of the Mississippi, that works.

Drama-free (or at least try to be, we all have moments)

Enjoy children/dogs (or tolerate them well)

Cisgender female

**Willing to become part of a tight-knit poly family. (See note at end.)

Preferences that are not deal breakers:

Please have a face photo, either on your profile or included with your introductory email. He prefers slender, elfin brunettes with pale skin and a Goth/alternative look. Tattoos, body piercings and shoulder-length or longer hair in colors not found in nature are a bonus. Both of us are also pierced/tattooed.

We enjoy a wide range of hobbies and interests including:

writing, horse racing, martial arts, gardening, role-playing games, sci-fi, art, cooking, classic literature, Renaissance festivals, Steampunk, coffee shops, and most types of movies except slasher flicks. Musical tastes include Goth, techno, classic and hard rock, industrial, Latin, classical, Rai, Celtic folk, and alternative.

To be a good fit in our family, you should enjoy your independence as much as you enjoy your submission. You should be equally comfortable in a vanilla setting or at a fetish ball. If you are not local, be willing and able to relocate once a long-term relationship has been established. As much as we'd love to move, financial and family obligations require us to stay where we are. We're okay with a long-distance relationship to start, but we prefer our partners to live in the same town. We're willing to consider a live-in situation for the right person.
Mail is answered by Her with contributions from Him unless otherwise noted.

**NOTE: Sexual intimacy with anyone other than Him is not a requirement. You will most likely have a romantic relationship with Him and a sister/close friend relationship with the others. If romantic/sexual feelings develop between you and one or more of the others in the group, great, but we don't expect it. However, realistically, our lives are so intertwined there's no way for you to be involved with one of us without being involved in some way with the others. For example, Her girlfriend often comes over after work and we all eat, watch movies, garden, or create jewelry together. You will be expected to take part in family activities with all of us in addition to having private "couple time" with Him. We believe that establishing a caring, mutually respectful connection between all of us improves communication and increases relationship stability. The bottom line is that we're not interested in a disposable, add-on toy. We want to build a relationship with you that satisfies everyone's needs. This is why we are only interested in those who desire and are comfortable with this type of extended relationship.








 Kansas City 





Gender Identity:










 5' 11"

 150 lbs




Gender Identity:










 5' 3"

 130 lbs



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female


A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Coffee Shops


 Canes and Crops


 Role Playing


 Role Playing Games

 Writing (Expert)


 Vampirism (Expert)

 Victorian Lifestyle



 Renaissance Faires

 Martial Arts





 Hair Pulling


 Mental Bondage

 Orgasm Control

 Shibari (Beginner)


 Theatrical Scenes


 Online RPGs

 Puzzle Games

 Romance Novels

 Science Fiction



 Intellectual Discourse

 1950s Lifestyle

 Goth (Expert)

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Eighties Music

 Electronica / EDM

 Heavy Metal Music

 New Wave

 Rock Music


 Horse Racing (Beginner)


 Bird Watching

 Fine Dining


 Musical Theater






 Horseback Riding




 Breast Play

 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Rear End Play

 Massage (Giving)


 Clothing Selection

 Maid / Butler Service

 Rubber Fetish (Beginner)

 Sensory Play

 Speech Restrictions


 Wax Play



 Online Chatrooms

 Web Surfing



 Candle Making

 Cross Stitch





 Online Auctions






 Soap Making



 Liberal Politics


 Paranormal Phenomena




 The Occult

 Alternative Music

 Classical Music

 Industrial Music

 New Age Music

 Nineties Music


 Punk Rock Music



 Feng Shui









 Garage Sales



 Corner Time

 Local BDSM Community

 Domestic Service

 Erotic touch

 Housework Service


 Masks (Wearing)

 Masks on Partner

 Obedience Training

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Board Games

 Card Games

 Simulation Games

 Alternative Medicine



 Political Activism

 Female Sovereignty


 Old Guard

 Working Out

 EMO Music

 Hip Hop Music

 Pop Music




 Modern Paganism (Expert)

 Wicca (Expert)


 Body Building




 Curious About:

 Going to the Opera


 Scuba Diving




 Fire Play



 Sensation Play

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Suspension Bondage


 Cuckolding (Beginner)

 Opera Music



 Bar Hopping



 Electrical Play

 Gas Masks

 Modern Primitivism

 Oral Service




 TV News


 Country Music



 Seventies Music

 Auto Racing







 Ice Hockey

 Kick Boxing

 Street Hockey






 Horror Movies

 TV Sports








 Latter-day Saints


 Sky Diving

 Hard Limits:



 Foot Worship


 Conservative Politics


 Administrative Professional

 Computer Expert

 Gourmet Cook

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Journal Entries:
2/6/2011 10:25:45 AM

A note on the "Actively Seeking" boxes:

We've marked "submissive trans" as one of the groups we're willing to consider.  However, this should be taken to mean ONLY those individuals who are transgender/transsexual as opposed to transvestite.  If you don't know the difference, you probably don't qualify.

If you're transgender/transsexual, you should know that your primary interaction will be with the Lady of the House.  Spyder has zero interest in anything beyond friendship with anyone who identifies as male or was born with anything other than XX chromosomes.  You should also know that Sylvere will only consider transfolk who are both traditionally attractive for the preferred gender and comfortable in their skins.  If you want or need to be "forced" to cross-dress, then you aren't going to be a good match. 

We've also marked "sub/sub couples" as a possibility.  However, the caveat regarding Spyder's lack of interest in anything but friendship with anyone who has XY chromosomes applies.   

12/29/2009 1:58:36 PM

So many people have different attitudes about collars.  Some offer "levels" of collars such as a collar of consideration, a collar for training, or a lifetime collar.  Some consider a collar the symbol of a lifelong partnership, others see it as a fashion accessory.  Some don't care about it one way or another.    

We aren't a formal Leather family, so we don't go in for "consideration" collars or "training" collars.  In our Household, there are only 2 types of collars -- heavy collars designed to hold up during play and the collar a sub wears on a daily basis.  Since Spyder makes chainmail, there may be only one collar pulling double duty.  In most cases, the collar designated for daily wear will look like jewelry and be fit for public appearance. 

Although any sub may wear a fetish collar during play, this is always a temporary thing. For us, the collar is a symbol of our commitment to building a family with our sub(s).  We view it in much the same way we view our wedding rings.  If you want a collar from one of us, you should see it the same way.  There are no velcro collars in our House.

If you want a collar, you need to make a formal request for one.  We won't give a collar to anyone who isn't sure s/he's ready to dedicate his/her life to the Family.  A formal request for a collar lets us know you're ready. 

5/17/2009 8:33:49 PM
If the following passage resonates with you, get in touch.  I'd love to talk to you. 

From The Marketplace 
by Laura Antoniou 

So few of them are truly ready.  They may have flirted with the trappings of a subculture and found it to be the extraordinary aphrodisiac it is.  But a steady diet of aphrodisia is far too overwhelming.  To survive and to thrive in this world, an applicant must need it more than they need pleasure, more than they need the companionship of peers, more than they need even the barest personal satisfaction. 

"May I serve you tea, ma'am?"  The girl's body was bent slighly forward in a subtle, exquisite, inquisitive posture.  Her small white hands held the china teapot firmly, waiting for an answer.  That was excellent, too.  An untrained girl might have started pouring as soon as she asked the question. 

"Yes, of course," the mistress of the house replied.  Her eyes followed the movements of the girl as the liquid poured into the cup.  The tea made a distinct sound while it ran into the cup, another perfection.  When the cup was three quarters full, the pot was replaced, and the ritual continued. 

"Would you like sugar, ma'am?"  Then lemon, then cream.  Each refusal was met with a slight bowing of the girl's pretty head.  When the options were finished, she backed away from the table, here steps small and carefully placed, barely disturbing the slender golden chain that wound between here white, high heeled shoes. 

She was pretty, small and delicately shaped.  She was well suited to the serving ensemble she wore, the tight corsetted bodice and the lightly ruffled apron.  Her curly, light brown hair cascaded down her back, the pert lace cap pinning it back.  Her deep green eyes were always lowered in humility, long lashes charmingly fluttering.  The wisps of hair which seemed to carelessly escape from the capto frame her heart shaped face were in fact cunningly arranged to suggest disarray. 

"That will be all, Claudia,"  Mistress Madelein said, her voice strong and tightly controlled.  Alexandra nodded and her majordomo came forward to leash the girl and remove her from the room. 

"Claudia was meant for perfection," Madeleine began, walking away from the table.  "From the first time I saw her, I could tell.  It wasn't just her attitude, you can see she's a slave to her soul, but the way she devoted herself to being attentive to the slightest details.  Adequate was never acceptable to her....she had the most desperate drive to be perfect for me. 

And the punishments!  What else could I do to such a creature but have her bent tightly over a bench and caned until she cried?  And she would cry, just like the little girl she is.  Every time, early on, but with grace.  I taught her to stand for the cane and kiss it prettily when I was done...they were wonderful sessions. 

With stripes across her bottom, she was even more perfect." 

5/12/2009 2:49:07 PM
I can't believe it... 


I've spent the last 2 years of my life running from one paper or appointment or class to the next.  Now that's over. 

And I have nothing to do. 

Well, okay, I have things to do but putting laundry in the washer and then moving it to the dryer isn't exactly the most mentally stimulating task on the planet.  This is one of those times when I wish I had a sub to play with or garden with or something.

5/9/2009 10:58:06 AM

Get the party started...I have offically graduated!!!!!!

5/3/2009 12:12:49 AM

I've always loved horses.  When I was a child, the Black Stallion books were among my favorites.  My parents even took me on a tour of one of the historic Thoroughbred farms during one of our many family vacations. 

I've never been in a position that would allow me to learn much about horse racing.  I don't live near a track and, until a few months ago, I couldn't afford cable or satellite television.  Now that we own a home and are able to afford some of the amenities, I've decided I want to start watching more horse races. 

Neither of us cares much for the usual sports; football, basketball, baseball, and hockey just don't do it for us.  There are a lot of NASCAR fans here, but again, it's just not our thing.  The Lord of the Court thinks I'm crazy, but channels 404 and 405 are my new best friends.  He can go out and play with his little PVC and foam swords -- I'm going to be watching the ponies. 

Anyone who wants to join our household had better love the races.  I'm also willing to simply chat with any other horse racing fans out there.

5/2/2009 3:50:26 PM

What an upset! 
Calvin Borel wins on 50-1 longshot Mine That Bird.  Borel is the same jockey that rode Rachel Alexandra to the winner's circle in the Oaks yesterday.  Just goes to show it's not just about the horse, it's also about the jockey. 

Congrats, Calvin.  You're an amazing rider.

5/2/2009 2:29:29 PM
Counting down to the Run for the Roses -- the most exciting two minutes in sports.  Rachel Alexandra demolished her competition in the Oaks yesterday.  That filly's stride is amazing; long, graceful, she ate up the track and scarcely broke a sweat.  The Racing Secretary has Dunkirk and Pioneer of the Nile evenly matched at 4-1 and Friesan Fire at 5-1.  Now that the favorite, I Want Revenge, has been scratched, it could be a very close race.  I like Pioneer of the Nile to win.  We'll see how it goes.

4/28/2009 10:58:55 PM

It seems we're not dominant enough for the extreme players who like things such as brown showers  or to be locked in a cage for days on end.  On the other hand, we are apparently too dominant for everyone else.  We want 24/7 TPE, we want our sub(s) to do things like clean (because every adult should pull a fair share in the household) and cook (because no one wants the Lady of the Court in the kitchen.  Seriously, it's pitiful. Epic Fail.), and we're sadistic enough to enjoy certain types of edge play such as knives or rape-play scenarios.  And we don't play casually.  We've played casually in the past, but we just don't enjoy it as much as having a relationship with the sub.  The better we know someone, the more fun it is for all of us.

Unfortunately, this leaves us stranded in a strange, barren wasteland.  There are no subs who like the same things and who want to be part of a poly family.  It sucks, but c'est la vie.

4/26/2009 10:39:01 PM
Things we never want to see in our email again: 

Messages from men who are 50+ pounds overweight 

Messages from women who are 50+ pounds overweight 

Messages from men dressed as women 

Messages from women who look like men 

Pictures of genitals 

Why anyone would think these things are attractive is beyond us but maybe someone out there likes them.  Whatever floats your boat. 

We are not those people.

4/24/2009 11:02:54 AM
Want to know more about us?  Just ask.  We're very open and honest.  We don't play BS head games and we don't see any reason to lie about anything.  If we don't know the answer to your question, we'll say so. 

4/21/2009 1:13:26 PM
We typically don't send a lot of mail here.  We're aware that, as an established couple, any contact from us can look as though we're "unicorn hunting." 

We don't want to be mistaken for the stereotypical couple searching for a hot bi babe, so we prefer to let those who are interested approach us.  We don't want to spam people who aren't interested, so letting you make first contact helps us know that you're interested in getting acquainted and seeing where it goes. 

We're primarily seeking female subs, right now.  However, that could easily change in the future.  At this time, it's just more comfortable for us to incorporate a single woman into our lives.  We ended a V with a man within the last year so we're not ready to add another single male.  If and when that changes, we'll update our profile to reflect it. 

We might consider an established couple or triad.  It would depend on who wanted to be submissive to whom.  We do not submit to anyone.  Period.  We're not keen on the idea of sharing with other dominants unless it's a switch/sub pairing and the switch wanted to submit to us.  If both/all partners wanted to be submissive to us, that would be fine.  If not, we'd have to do some serious negotiation.  However, we're willing to consider it for the right people.

4/20/2009 12:33:20 PM
The Court is searching for a Lady's maid. 
A Lady's maid is a type of domestic servant who provides personal assistance to the Lady of the household. She is comparable to a valet. A Lady's maid manages the Lady's wardrobe, keeping track of all the garments the Lady owns and their condition. As part of this work, the Lady's maid also undertakes light mending, pressing, and other tasks designed to keep her mistress's clothing in good condition. She assists her mistress with dressing.  

In addition, a Lady's maid styles her mistress's hair and manages accessories such as jewelry, bags, and shoes. A Lady's maid is responsible for knowing the location and condition of all of these items. A modern Lady's maid also performs light housekeeping along with serving light meals such as luncheon and breakfast. In addition, a Lady's maid usually helps her mistress with small points of social etiquette, and she may help her mistress keep track of names, faces, and appointments.  

If you would like to become a Lady's maid with the Court, you must have the following skills:  

Superior organizational skills. 
Excellent oral and written communication.  Experience with or education in fashion.   
A knowledge of specialist cleaning and care of all fabrics and leather.   
Ability to hand wash delicate items like silk.   
An excellent sense of decorum. 
Experience with or education in massage.  
Additional skills that are not essential but would be an asset and compliment the role are:

spa or beauty treatments  
hair dressing or styling 
yoga or other fitness training.

The type of kinky play you receive in return for this service is negotiable as long as it does not cross over the line of our hard limits.

12/14/2008 9:09:52 PM
We met Sheladaris and links today.  Both of them are adorable.  It was fun, hope we get to do it again.  Wouldn't mind having links over a knee for a good spanking one of these days.

12/7/2008 9:34:35 PM
We have a good life.  We've been together for six years and have weathered our share of storms.  We love each other and we're stable.  We'd like to share our happiness with one or two subs.  Unfortunately, we're having difficulty finding any who are intelligent and serious about joining us. 

We're not the stereotypical couple looking for a "hot bi babe" although if we found one we certainly wouldn't turn her down.  We're really more interested in people who want to be part of a family.  We know that comes with time and we're open to dating.  If the dating includes some kinky fun, great, but we're a lot more interested in getting to know someone and developing mutual trust and respect. 

12/6/2008 9:15:15 PM
If you are planning to have a session with zaraseeks, get in touch with us first.  Please make an informed decision before you entrust your safety to her.

11/29/2008 6:17:38 PM
Lady Elfie of TheWolfClan is a doll.  Can I just say I adore her?  Priceless!

11/28/2008 11:31:13 PM

The Court is no longer accepting applications from Trans or sissy submissives.  Thank you for your interest.  We wish you the best in your search.

11/15/2008 6:20:40 PM
Just fyi ~

We will not accept friends requests from anyone we don't know.  If you'd like to get to know the members of The Court, feel free to contact us.  Then we might be willing to call you a friend.

10/28/2008 5:18:27 PM
Wow, what is w/all the fatties looking for dominant men?  Just spent 45 min. checking profiles for girls and 85% were huge.  Interesting how more of the women looking for women seemed to maintain a healthy weight.  What's up with that?

10/21/2008 2:18:53 PM
The following sites and books have inspired The Court and influenced the structure of our household. 

Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual ~ Christina Abernathy 

Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household by Master Fire

10/16/2008 2:09:35 PM

The Unseelie Court has received several questions we would like to address:

We are not interested in online training.  There is nothing you can do for us online that we do not already have r/t. 

We are not interested in helping you move from your current location.  If you wish to relocate to our area, you are free to do so. 

We do not have medical training, nor do we have high interest in medical play. 

We will consider sub and/or switch couples.   

We will not engage in age or diaper play.  However, we enjoy creating a nurturing environment for personal growth.  We could be considered "parents" if your idea of a mommy/daddy dominant is someone who is both caring and strict. 

We have offspring living with us.  Your service will be discrete and at arranged times. 

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