I think the problem that I have with D/s relationships is that for many people the specificity of their fetishes/ fantasies don't leave room for organic growth in the relationship. I"m sure that's not true in all cases, but I'm getting that feeling lately. Some sensations are still enjoyable, but a little too much like a template that needs to be filled out. 

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Oh dear, if I see one more fat forty year old man stretching his hemorrhoid ridden asshole open as a profile picture on this site I think I'll go ahead and shoot myself. Gentlemen, is that your best side? The easy answer is "probably". It's a pity I"m looking for an intellectual equal as a submissive. There is more to life than a good strap on fuck. I'm not saying I don't want to fuck you with a strap on......... but the people here are very one dimensional. Unread is unimpressed thus far.