Well, things have been fairly interesting over this last week.

So I guess the most impacting thing this week would be having obtained a Mentor online, she's been in the scene since 96'. Some of you may have heard around the internet "The best tops start from the bottom", well I certainly didn't start there, but that's what I'm doing with her. So now I have a Mistress, but its just for educational purposes, I find very little of submission enjoyable personally, I don't like to surrender or feel helplessly in need of others, but its certainly giving me an inside perspective that will, I feel, enhance me as a Dominant, because that's how serious I am about it.

A necessary evil.

This however doesn't stop me from searching for a submissive, in fact it makes me want one more, to put my experience to good use.

So for today's philosophy, lets go with...collars.

So every Dom feels different about collars, and I think I mentioned in an earlier journal entry that BDSM is for the most part what the Dominant makes it. Some Dominants think of them simply as an accessory, a part of bondage, and throw it on the submissive as soon as they can and are like "Oh hey you're collared, you mine now, now open your mouth.".

Wow. My eyes just rolled uncontrollably. That was weird.

Anyways, to me collars are a major symbol of a sub's progress, as well as a major symbol of her submission to the Dominant. I prefer the idea that takes things a step further, there are three kinds of collars to me: Consideration; Training; Ownership. Most of these are self explanatory by the title of the collar, but continue reading for details...

A Consideration Collar is essentially the starting point of the relationship, it marks where the Dominant has decided he is considering that particular pet as a permanent submissive of his, and will begin to observe that submissive very closely and spend a great deal of time with her as he learns her likes and dislikes, judging if they are compatible with his.

A Training Collar is provided to the submissive who has is transitioning from behind considered to being owned, its a difficult and rather trying point in the relationship which really tests the submissive's willingness to actual submit, or giving in to things that she may not particularly like, but does it to please the Dom, but of course these things don't cross hard limits. Alot of learning and surrendering to the Dominant's desires as they are molded and shaped to their potential owner's rules/desires/expectations. This is where submissives who just act the part will fail to submit and either back out or get disciplined to the point that they realize that when they actually submit they are handsomely  rewarded and life isn't so bad after all when they just do as they are told, because their Dominant knows whats best.

Last but certainly not least is the Ownership Collar. This to me is the equivalent of marriage in the form of BDSM, this collar is for when the Dominant knows this is his life-pet, his 24/7/365 submissive, and has learned everything about her. Asking her questions is simply a means to hear her voice, the Dom already knows the answer to them all. If he says "Jump", he already knows how high she'll go. The Dom owns every fiber of her being and the submissive yearns for this collar greater than any orgasm that was ever denied of her, she has felt what it truly means to wait. The pinnacle of their relationship, it is the greatest of all symbols between them. When it is placed on the neck, that artifact will have an energy, almost a magic to it that contains the love and all the effort the Dominant has put into the relationship. But it is sacred, and woe is the day that it is torn from the neck in anger, all of that energy will vanish, and even if you put it back on it simply won't be the same. Dom's shouldn't place an Ownership Collar on a pet as a light decision.

Anyways, thats how I feel about collars.

-UA

So some interesting stuff has happened, I met a somewhat local submissive, its funny because she lives where I used to live, I guess what could be loosely described as my hometown. Shes smart, she likes to write, shes rather creative, very attractive, shes new to the lifestyle but there's nothing wrong with that.

::Incoming personal opinions, if you're allergic to those then just scurry along.::

In fact, I tend to look at very experienced unowned pets with suspicion, if you have 10 years of experience and you think that contributes to how great a submissive you are, why aren't you owned? Did you do something to become unowned, are you hiding something? If you were previously owned that means you may still be attached to the thoughts of your old Master, and trained to follow his rules, and every Dom's rules are different, and your Dom wants you to think of them and only them, not somebody else and how you wish things were like they used to be with your previous Master. Honestly, I don't want to even know how many years of experience you have, its whats in a submissive's heart that matters, its how they are willing to build trust at a decent rate and live to please her Dom that matters.

It isn't how many years you wear the title "Submissive" that matters, its how you submit.

I don't need some perfect prepackaged submissive, and if you paint yourself as such I know better, I see through your shit, everybody has their closet full of skeletons, everybody has their own batch of trauma chip cookies. One of the great things about being a Dominant is seeing your effort that you put into your submissive become something great, to see the problems and bad habits being chipped away at because you influence that change.

Same goes for Dominants, I don't give a damn how long you've been a Dominant, just because you've got 15 years of experience doesn't mean you're fulfilling any submissive's needs, especially if you haven't ever even owned a pet in reality. Dominating over phone and text is easy, reality is a completely different ballgame.

Hmm, yep, thats all for today. Later folks.

-UA.

Hmm, interesting site.

So I guess this is entry number one, I've probably looked at maybe...20 profiles so far? Give or take a few.

But it's unfortunate how many of them seem to contain a journal entry like this, or directly in the profile, a message about men needing to refrain from doing stupid shit like demanding that they give up a bunch of info, nude pics, or even go so far as to tell them they need to get ready to relocate soon or even worse, telling them right off the bat "You're my submissive now, I'm your Master, now suck it!".

Really? Who does this shit?

To these idiots: How brain dead do you have to be to think that women want to be treated like that? I dunno if maybe its from reading garbage like 50 Shades, or watching too much BDSM porn, to think that the instant you see a woman's profile and it says "Submissive" you just think you can just walk up and say "Ya mine bitch!". It doesn't say the word "FREE" before the word "Submissive"! You're ruining the entire experience for every male like myself who doesn't have a tyrant king for a penis that says "That one! Go get em boy!". Me and my penis have a compromise, he keeps to himself until the pants come off, then he can do whatever he wants, until then I'm the damn captain of this boat.

*Sigh.*

Anyways, now that I got that out of the way, I can move on to intelligent things, I think I may use this as my blanket journal for anybody who wants to keep track of how things progress for somebody new to collarme.com, I'll likely be making many lengthy posts about how I dominate, and just my thoughts in general, and probably a little tidbit about my day.

But that's all for now.

-UA.