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Me....exposed
I have been described as a realist. A fair and accurate assessment in my view though the optimist in me would argue I merely strive to turn my dreams into reality. Masculine in appearance and manner. Love deeply and passionately, but also intensely dominant. Believe life should be lived as an adventure. A natural leader and mentor. Opinionated and confident. Affectionate. Driven to succeed, demanding much of myself and others. I crave the mental connection which can exist between two minds perfectly suited for one another. Prefer intelligence over buffoonery, but still, love to laugh and have fun. Calm and calculating, often when others panic. I have been affectionately compared to the little devil which sits on your shoulder and on rare occasions, people swear they see a flash of that devil in my eyes. At appropriate times aggressive, controlling and possessive.
My search
Understandably, most people search for someone in their local area. Since I feel it is more important to find the right person instead of settling for only those local to me, I have taken a contrarian approach. Searching everywhere for the right woman and solving the distance issue afterward.
Personal beliefs about ds
My attraction to the ds lifestyle is centered around one core tenet The dom sub dynamic is the closest, most intimate and honest relationship you can have with another person. Any relationship is built on honest communication. Vanilla relationships are often susceptible to one or both partners being too frightened to express their true desires and feelings. Fearful of being judged and rejected, they often keep their true nature a secret. In essence, lying to each other and sometimes themselves. Unable to trust the one person in their lives that they should be able to bear there soul to, without judgment. Over time, these lies erode the connection between them. Contrast with that, the multitude of honest communication required for a true ds relationship to even exist. In a ds relationship, you have to communicate what you desire or it doesnt work. An ever-present conduit of communication which breaks down barriers and continually builds trust. Creating a real and lasting connection. A haven where both are free to be themselves, live by their own values, without fear of judgment or rejection. A level of a bond which I believe, a vanilla relationship can never hope to obtain. The caveat being, as long as you picked the right partner. The deep connection I am after doesnt come without a price. Time and commitment. It takes time and the will to communicate honestly to build the foundation necessary to support such a connection. Then again, by definition, nothing of value is free. For me this is a lifestyle, not a one-night stand or something to be used on occasion to spice up the bedroom. It is a lifelong adventure.
A vanilla world
As great as the ds lifestyle is, we dont live in a vacuum. Often overlooked, but definitely necessary part of a great ds relationship is the vanilla aspect. I dont mean you stop being ds for a time and switch to vanilla. My belief is that they both need to exists simultaneously. The same way there are two sides to a coin. Publicly a couple is seen as vanilla but they know inside, ds never ends. A real slave loves her master with every ounce of her being. If you dont possess her heart, you dont possess her....and I am greedy, I want ALL of her. If I only focuses on the Ds, I will never exprience the true depths of her.
I considerd leaving that last paragraph out. Concerned about how it would be received. I dont want to give you the impression that I am not dominant enough. I do think it is important though.
My wish-list continues
I am most attracted to woman, who at their core, are feminine in appearance and mannerism. Absurd as that statement may sound, I am attempting to paint a picture. Classy and elegant, sweet and sexy. Takes pride in her appearance, body and living healthy. A belief in patriarchy. You would have a strong need to be controlled and desire to become a possession. A masochist. Though I do understand you may consider yourself a submissive at present, my long term goal would be to bring out the slave that is deep inside you. My intention is not to change who you are, but reveal the slave you are.
Possess a deep conviction and equally deep passion to live ds as a lifestyle.
I want to explore the greatest depths of ds while also taking the vanilla as high as it will go.
No interested in
Feminists
Financial leaches
Or those who desire to be shared with my friends
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