I've been interested lately to be asked 'Why am I single?' I'm looking for the total package - someone smart, funny, highly intelligent and physically active.  There has to be a spark and mutual interests to reach the next level of intimacy.  Until that person comes into my life, I don't want to settle into the wrong person. Besides, it's so much more fun getting to know people without the pretense of worrying about anyone else, isn't it?

What defines 'needy' in a woman?  If you'd like to contact me please:

1. Once we chat for a while and take it to another level, be ok with some kind of communication daily.  It can be a few 2 second texts or an email, but I need at least that much attention!

2. Once we meet, especially if you're local, I'd like to know when I'll see you again. Even if it's two weeks away and you can only squeeze me in for lunch, it would be nice to look forward to our time together.

If you can't, or you're unsure of what your attraction to me means to other relationships, move on to someone else, please.  I'm an emotional, creative creature.  I invest myself into others.  I don't like to be hurt by others inability to communicate.  At the end of the day, you are primarily dishonest with yourself when you waste someone's time ... and karma's a rabid bitch.

There is no accounting for this thing we call 'physical attraction.'  I had a date with a d & a psychiatrist last night.  No, really, a date, not like a session.  As much as I enjoyed a few of our conversations, I'm afraid the physical chemistry was completely lacking.  He looked much older than 46: His face was very wrinkled.  His hands were ... not something I could accept on my body.  His ideas were a little archaic (no texting, abhorrence of FB.  My friends, it is 2011.) Here's the point: Very educated, successful guy, but if the chemistry isn't there, it's just not there.  Let's try to be respectful of each other and provide accurate pics/descriptions, shall we?  Then, let's just hope that once we meet, there's an actual spark to get things started! (OMG - he was so old looking. lol.)

Interested in how 'dominant' male applies to various aspects of relationships.  A recent contact would give an instruction with the expectation that I follow. As it applied to every day life, I'm not sure how 'dominant' I truly want my a fe/male to be. Simply, is it realistic to be told what to do outside of the bedroom for me?  Or am I truly a Switch who wouldn't mind dominating in certain areas of life?

Oooh - so excited by many of you that have contacted me.  I wanted to note, as a vanilla, that I don't think love should limit you.  I think it should support you in experiencing life.  If you have a fantasy of fucking a petite little Asian girl, well, I will never be Asian ... or petite. You should find those experiences and have them, enjoy them, live them with the person appropriate to provide them.  Yes, this can apply to any aspect of BDSM that turns you on, anal, etc etc.  You're good little vanilla girl will still be at home waiting to hear all about it (or not?) when you come back to her.  Or I'll go with you and we can experience another wo/man together ... we can see who makes her cum harder ...