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I've been independent and a free thinker all of my life. Always sexually adventuresome I was ahead of my peers as a younger man. That has led me to the D/s BDSM lifestyle and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I live in the country 30 minutes outside of Louisville in a house I designed and built myself. It is peaceful and private. The floor plan has entertaining in mind and I love to host parties. I also included a large dungeon space on the ground floor. I can host dungeon parties for 30 or so people, though it has been a while since my last one. I do bonfire parties in the spring and fall.
Living in the country on private land I also do some outdoor play. BDSM in touch with nature is pretty special. I've got several sites and can do just about anything outdoors that I can do in my dungeon, including suspension play.
I'm self employed and own a cabinet and furniture business that I run from my barn/workshop. Because I have the tools and skills I also make and sell some dungeon equipment, rather high end. Of course my own dungeon is very well equipped.
I like to stay active and fit. I have a very nice free weight and half rack set up as well as an AirDyne. I work out several times a week. I also have a Scandinavian sauna down in my woods. Quite a treat in the cooler months.
I have many interests outside of the lifestyle and I try to stay balanced. I like gardening, reading, politics, good conversation, hunting, skating, wildflower identification, bird watching, managing my forest and the wildlife that lives in it. I spend time in the city a couple times a week and I like typical city activities too. Coffee shops, fine food, theater, music, dancing. I have a motorcycle, a sport cruiser, and love riding the country roads out in my area.
I've been independent and Dominant all of my life but have only been in the lifestyle for 13 years. I am quite skilled in a number of styles of play and derive great pleasure from dungeon play, power exchange, impact play, whips, floggers etc. The list of what I like is really too long to go into here. Suffice it to say I love the physical aspects of the lifestyle, including the sexual (I mean really people, who can honestly claim that it doesn't get them wet or hard?).
Even with my love of the physical and sexual I get as much pleasure from the mental, spiritual and emotional aspects. The depth of connection with my partner and the interpersonal dynamics are of great importance to me and that is what causes and allows anything physical to happen. Long before the whip hits tender flesh Dominance and submission have already happened in the heart and mind. So that is where the real energy is for me (but I still like to use the whips, LOL).
If you don't know what the above refers to then please move on. We wouldn't be a good match at all. It would be like teaching a pig to sing. The teacher gets pissed off and the pig gets bored. A lose-lose situation if ever there was one.
I'm looking for a long term partner in a relationship with a strong foundation in D/s. I'm not interested in fantasy, cyber, phonesex or online game playing. Real time is where this happens for me. If we can't look into each others eyes, if the sting of the whip isn't real, then nothing else is.
While my ultimate goal is to find a LTR I'm still open to some casual play with selected partners. Kind of like dating in the vanilla world - you have to do it to find somebody with more longevity.
I've been on collarme off and on for several years now. I know most of the pitfalls of looking for a partner here. But there aren't many options. Kinky people, be they Dom or sub, don't usually wear lapel pins out in public to identify themselves.
I offer good looks, intelligence, fitness, emotional availability, maturity and helath(but poor spelling), a good - if somewhat twisted - sense of humor, varied interests in and out of the lifestyle, experience and skill, an open mind, a desire to grow and expand, integrity, honesty, a truly devious imagination, the facility and ability to bring those ideations to fruition in heart, mind, spirit and body. All over your body actually.
The partner I'm looking for will be a balanced person. She will have interests of her own. She will understand the importance of integrity, honesty and communication, will offer nothing but that and will accept nothing less.
She must be growth oriented, in her own life, in the lifestyle and in our relationship.
Single or divorced is not important, but married or otherwise attached is out of the question. I'll not tolerate that kind of entanglement.
She will be active and fit. Fitness is important in many ways, endurance in the dungeon being only one of them. A healthy body and a healthy mind go together.
Attraction is important also. If sex is a part of this lifestyle (and it is for me) then attraction is important. Some may consider this to be shallow, and would want that I relax my standards on this. Would they want for me to relax my standards for integrity and honesty were I to meet a drop dead gorgeous partner that also happened to be a pathological liar? Keep off my standards folks, and I'll keep off of yours.
Experience is not all that important to me. It is important that you be awake in your head and that you are making conscious decisions and choices. That being said I still want a partner with boundaries that are pretty wide, and that is willing to grow and expand in all areas, including dungeon and play boundaries. On the other hand if you're one that says you have no limits I'll not be interested. All sane people have at least a no death limit. If you don't have a no death limit then I'd like to talk to you. I 'd like to recommend a good psychiatrist.
My style of Dominance is not one of force. I'm more interested in being given your power and submission than I am in taking it from you. I don't view this as a competition, as that, in my opinion, would be the worst way to go about getting the deeper connections that I want. I don't expect you to give it blindly. Rather you'll do so because you have come to respect and trust me. Those things of course, trust and respect, must be demonstrated and earned by both of us.
A word on communication. Be willing to communicate regularly here on collarme, then through private email, then on the telephone and eventually in person. If meeting in person is something you aren't ready to do then don't start the process. My interests are real time.
A word on pictures. I want to see full body and face pics. If all you can, or want to, send are tit, pussy or ass shots move on. I'm looking for a relationship with a complete person not selected pieces of anatomy.
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I had no idea there were so very many deaf and/or mute submissive or slave women in this lifestyle.
Heck I didn't know there were that many in the world.
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I've been collecting quotes for a number of years. I'll keep a journal for some time, and then typically loose track of it. I came across a flurry of such quotes several years ago and then kind of lost steam. But tonight I'm inspired by one from a friend here that resonates with me deeply so I'm sharing it with any that light upon my journal:
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The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all
progress depends on the unreasonable man.
George Bernard Shaw |
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The longer I'm here the more I become convinced that this has to be the least effective way to search for, and to make, real time connections. This is not a minority opinion.
I'll answer any reasonable emails that come in but it is doubtful I'll be initiating contact with anyone here. I do have some ongoing correspondence, and some outstanding correspondence, and will be keeping up with that.
Be well, and get spanked,
Uncle Nasty
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The OED can be such fun.
whip, n. |
SECOND EDITION 1989 |
(hw p) Forms: 4-6 wippe, quippe, 4-7 whippe, 5-6 wyppe, whyppe, whyp, Sc. quhippe, (4 quyppe, 5 whhipp, Sc. qwype, quhipe, 6 Sc. quhyp, quhipp, whupe), 5-7 Sc. quhip, 6-7 whipp, (9 Sc. whup), 5- whip. [Partly f. WHIP v., q.v.; partly a. (M)LG. wippe, wip quick movement, leap, moment of time, lift for raising a well-bucket or hoisting cargo, lever, = Du. wip see-saw, strappado, swipe, skip (in een wip in an instant, met een wip at one sweep), OHG. wipph (MHG. wipf, wif) quick movement. Fris. wip, wipp, in some of these senses, also = mousetrap, Sw. vipp pump-gear, early Da. vip, vippe, also hvip leap, skip, short distance, moment, swipe, flap, lappet, Da. vippe swipe, G. wippe see-saw, crane, swipe, windlass, pliable pole, etc. are from LG. (Early Flem. wippe whip, in Kilian, is dubious.)]
I. The instrument of flagellation, and connected senses.
1. a. An instrument for flogging or beating, consisting either of a rigid rod or stick with a lash of cord, leather, etc. attached, or of a flexible switch with or without a lash, used for driving horses, chastising human beings, and other purposes.
c1325 Gloss. W. de Bibbesw. in Wright Voc. 154 Ses chivaus deyt le charetter De sa fowette [ gloss a quippe] ou de sa ryote gyer [ gloss haling-wippe]. c1340 Nominale (Skeat) 886 Chareter ad sa reorte, Carter hathe his wippe. c1386 CHAUCER Sec. Nun's T. 406 For which Almachius dide hym so bete With whippe of leed, til he the lif gan lete. c1450 Cov. Myst. (Shaks. Soc.) 315 Bynde hym to a pelere,..Than skorge hym with qwyppys. 1535 COVERDALE Prov. xxvi. 3 Vnto the horse belongeth a whyppe, to the Asse a brydle, and a rodde to the fooles backe. 1567 Aldeburgh Rec. in N. & Q. 12th Ser. VII. 142/2 P d to Sponer for his attendans at ye churche wth ye whyppe..xd. 1597 in J. Melvill's Autob. & Diary (Wodrow Soc.) 432 Into thy youthe, rejose to tholl the whupe. 1651 Maldon, Essex, Burgh Deeds Bundle 82 No. 2 (MS.), xiid. paid Samuell Sturgeon for punishing of three persons by the whipp. 1735 SOMERVILLE Chase II. 112 The clust'ring Pack..hear with respect thy Whip Loud-clanging. 1807 SOUTHEY Espriella's Lett. II. 48 The coachman smacked his whip. 1868 F. E. PAGET Lucretia 173 Flick, flick, flick, went the whip.
b. In fig. or allusive use: cf. SCOURGE n. 2, 3.
c1386 CHAUCER Merch. T. 427 She may be youre purgatorie She may be goddes meene and goddes whippe. 1406 HOCCLEVE La Male Regle 118 Seeknesse, y meene, riotoures whippe. a1548 HALL Chron., Hen. VIII 234 This act established chiefly sixe articles, wherof..of some it was named the whip with sixe strynges. 1588 SHAKES. L.L.L. III. i. 176 And I forsooth in loue, I that haue beene loues whip! 1625 DEKKER Rod for Run-awayes Wks. (Grosart) IV. 278 Iehouah, when he is angry, holds three Whips..the Sword, Pestilence, and famine. 1647 ( title) A Fresh Whip for all scandalous Lyers. 1700 ROWE Amb. Step-Mother III. iii, Revenge shall..with her Iron whips Lash forth this lazy Ague from my Blood. 1817 D'ISRAELI Cur. Lit. III. 312 Fanatics, who had..smarted under the satirical whips of the Dramatists. 1881 SHELDON Dairy Farming 177/3 Artificial manures act as ‘whips’ or stimulants.
c. transf. The occupation or art of driving horses; coachmanship.
1792 HOLCROFT Road to Ruin II. 25 You may challenge the whole fraternity of the whip to match you. 1818 SCOTT Br. Lamm. xxii, The coachman of the Marquis,..observing the rival charioteer was mending his pace, resolved, like a true brother of the whip,..to vindicate his right of precedence. 1851 C. J. APPERLEY The Road 58 The taste for the whip has undoubtedly declined.
d. Phrases. a fair crack of the whip (colloq.): a fair chance to participate or act.  to drink or lick (up) on the whip: to have a ‘taste’ of the whip, to get a flogging. a whip and a bell: something that detracts from one's comfort or pleasure (in allusion to the ancient Roman custom of attaching a whip and a bell to the chariot of a triumphing general, to drive away evil). whip and spur (advb., usually with ride): using both the whip and the spur to urge the horse on; at one's utmost speed, at a furious pace: cf. SPUR n.1 2a. whip behind!, a cry to the driver of a horse vehicle calling his attention to the presence of some one riding on the back of the vehicle without his knowledge.
c1460 Towneley Myst. iii. 378 For youre long taryyng Ye shal lik on the whyp. 1576 GASCOIGNE Steele Glas 688 He shal be sure, to drinke upon the whippe. 1644 CLEVELAND Char. Lond. Diurn. 4 In all this Triumph there is a whip and a Bell. 1681 T. FLATMAN Heraclitus Ridens No. 19 (1713) I. 127 Care and the compleat Character-Man are riding Whip and Spur who shall have the next Vacancy in Bedlam. 1684 OTWAY Atheist I. i, To get rid of that Whip and a Bell, call'd thy Wife. 1742 POPE Dunc. IV. 197 Each fierce Logician..Came whip and spur, and dash'd thro' thin and thick. 1814 SCOTT Wav. lxvi, I rode whip and spur to fetch the Ch1841) 307 Some wandeidy weans cried ‘whip behind! whip behind!’ 1929 K. S. PRICHARD Coonardoo 179 I'll see you get a fair crack of the whip now, Mr. Watt. 1944 L. GLASSOP We were Rats 2, I am sorry to have to tell you that the Lord's had a fair crack of the whip and He's missed the bus. 1957 Technology Oct. 271/1 We should give the technical high school a trial..with a fair crack of the whip when the talent is being handed round. 1971 Radio Times 19 Aug. 50/1 It is the first time in 4![]() years that those opposing the present abortion law have been given a really fair crack of the whip on a B.B.C. panel.
2. a. An object resembling a whip: a slender flexible branch of a plant; a twig, sprig, switch; a collection or growth of such branches.
1585 HIGINS Junius' Nomencl. 146/1 Flagellum,..the whip or smal toptwig of the vine. 1881 E. INGERSOLL Oyster-Industry 250 Whips, slender branches used to mark the bounds of oyster-beds. (Connecticut.) 1908 S. E. WHITE Riverman xv, What, in the early year, had been merely a whip of brush, now had become a screen.
b. = whip aerial s.v. WHIP- 1c.
1940 Electronics July 68/2 The whip is used to increase the capacitance and to carry some current to greater heights. 1960 Practical Wireless XXXVI. 342/2 The aerial is an 8 ft. ‘whip’ which is swung into the vertical on arrival at a stopping place, being attached to the side of the caravan permanently, on an insulator. 1976 S9 (N.Y.) Feb. 34/1 They are factory pretuned..and will take up to 500 watts of power, radiating from a 46-inch stainless steel whip.
3. a. A blow or stroke with, or as with, a whip; a lash, stripe; pl. a flogging. Now only Sc.
c1425 WYNTOUN Cron. III. ii. 294 Wi e a cheik bane of ane as,..He let about hym qwype for qwype. 1545 R. ASCHAM Toxoph. (Arb.) 145 He wyll gyue hym a whip. 1567 Satir. Poems Reform. v. 38 It war weill wairit he gat his quhippis. 1602 SHAKES. Ham. III. i. 70 For who would beare the Whips and Scornes of time? 1879 G. MACDONALD Sir Gibbie xxi, He's a coorse cratur, an' maun hae's whups.
ADDITIONS SERIES 1993
whip, n.
Add: [I.] [9.] c. A wrestling technique by which one's opponent is hurled into a somersault by a sharp wrench of the forearm. Irish whip (Anglo-Ir.), a brawling shoulder throw.
1958 B. BEHAN Borstal Boy III. 280 He pulled me by the wrist over his shoulder, in what they called at home the Irish Whip. 1967 E. MCGIRR Hearse with Horses vii. 164 There is a wrestling throw called the whip... It is spectacular and Piron felt the snap of bone in his forearm as he flew across the room. |
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Limitless undying love
which shines around me
like a million suns... |
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Life can be simple. Maybe not easy, but simple. I think the simplest things are usually the best too. Take this one for example:
Say what you mean and do what you say.
Seems simple enough. The basis for sought after qualities like, honesty, integrity, sincerity. Most claim a desire for, even an insistence on, those qualities.
Yet few seem to act in that simple and direct way.
I aspire to. How successful I am in that regard is best judged by others. |
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From the Oxford English Dictionary word of the day:
mummify, v. |
DRAFT REVISION June 2008 |
Brit. /mmf/, U.S. /mmfa/ Forms: 16 mummifie, 16 mummy-fie, 17- mummify, 18- mummyfy (rare). [< MUMMY n.1 + -IFY suffix. Compare French momifier (1789). Compare slightly earlier MUMMY v.]
1. trans.
a. To make into a mummy; to preserve (a body) by embalming, drying, and wrapping in cloth. Also: to dry out into the semblance of a mummy, esp. as a result of exposure to wind, sunshine, etc.
1628 G. WITHER Britain's Remembrancer 44, I could bide Shut up untill my Flesh were Mummy-fi'd. 1794 Philos. Trans. (Royal Soc.) 84 185 The practice of mummifying their dead bodies. 1860 Atlantic Monthly July 114/1 Some of our familiar domesticated varieties of grain, of fowls, and of other animals, were pictured and mummified by the old Egyptians. 1883 R. L. STEVENSON Silverado Squatters 245, I came suddenly upon his innocent body, lying mummified by the dry air and sun: a pigmy kangaroo. 1918 P. T. FORSYTH This Life & Next xi. 113 We do not mummify our dead. 1981 D. M. THOMAS White Hotel (Penguin ed.) Prol. 10 The bodies of prehistoric men, mummified by the effect of the humic acid in the bog water. 1996 Church Times 12 July 2/2 St Michan's is a historic church, famous for its vaults whose dry atmosphere mummifies the remains of those buried there.
b. In extended use.
1647 J. HALL Poems I. 58 Thou..shalt more long remaine Still mummifi'd within the hearts of men. 1661 J. EVELYN Fumifugium i. 13 So corrosive is this Smoake about the City, that if one would hang up Gammons of Bacon..or other Flesh to fume,..it will so Mummifie, drye up, wast and burn it, that it suddainly crumbles away. 1855 Putnam's Monthly Mag. Oct. 435/1 Botany, which by dint of classification, has been effectually mummified into the dryest of all subjects. 1889 ‘M. TWAIN’ Connecticut Yankee xxv. 325 A man lies dead-alive four generationsmummified in ignorance and sloth. 1893 Bot. Gaz. 18 87 A fruit that has been ‘mummified’ by the fungus. 1979 L. BLUE Backdoor to Heaven xii. 63 That deadening self-consciousness and artificial language which mummify prayer.
2. trans. To wrap or bind heavily in a manner reminiscent of a mummy. Also in extended use.
1863 Continental Monthly Jan. 8/1 Around all the Segnian infants they wind a strip of knit or woven cloth, about eight feet long and four inches wide, fairly mummifying them. 1955 Times 20 June 3/5 He mummifies himself in preparation for the next flight. 1977 Daily Mirror 15 Mar. 31/1 New South Wales opener Rick McCosker, head mummified by yards of bandage as protection for a..jaw fractured..on Saturday. 1986 S. CHURCHER N.Y. Confidential vii. 168 It takes about fifteen minutes to mummify a person in stretch elastic.
3. intr. To become mummified; to undergo mummification.
1888 Amer. Naturalist 22 367 After death from hyphomycosis the often flaccid body hardens and mummifies without decay. 1925 Cent. Mag. Jan. 340/1 It dies, mummifies, fossilizes, and when we excavate it..there remains only a terrifying skeleton with a satanic grin. 1965 New Phytologist 64 36 The application of IAA and naphthyl acetic acid prevents abscission of cotton fruit, which nevertheless do not develop further, but mummify in position. 1994 W. MAPLES & M. BROWNING Dead Men do tell Tales iii. 36 In dry sand bodies will mummify to durable parchment. |
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It has been getting worse over the last few months, and lately it has gotten pretty bad, even scary.
I started talking to my hand when I masturbate a little while ago. Loneliness can be so powerfull and overwhelming, sometimes just reaching out to someone, something, anything, feels better than silence.
I didn't worry about it too much. Kind of like talking to yourself. As long as you don't answer yourself back then it seems like nothing to worry about.
But then tonight, I swear I heard my hand call me baby. Not my right hand, but the pretty one, er um, my left one.
somebody help me.... |
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Sage words from a dead old yellow guy (why not - dead old white guys has been bandied about for long enough that we may as well include all races of old guys, and gals too). Anyway, this one, Loa Tzu, lived about 4000 years ago.
I'm going to leave the quote incomplete - anyone that cares to venture a guess is welcome to. I'll send the correct answer, and may even make a list of some of the more entertaining incorrect answers (without naming anyone, of course).
"You measure a mans intelligence by his ability to keep himself ______________."
Have at it folks.
(and I should also add that measuring my intelligence by this standard there are days I'm a f*cking genius and other days I don't have an IQ that registers on any scale I know of) |
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What a f*cking bummer. Hersheys has deceived and cheated us.
Long a fan of their 8 oz. Special Dark Chocolate bar I discovered today while buying a box of 10 that they have changed them.
They have reduced the size/weight to 6.5 oz. and have been discourteous enough to now print on the label "GIANT BAR." The price, of course, has remained the same. |
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My birthday is Friday. Yep, a bull. Solid, steady, and some say full of.... Well, you know what.
Feel free to send greetings, gifts and money, :) |
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I thought it time to update a photo so I'm adding one of me with my current ride. I've sold the white one. I now ride the maroon one.
The previous ride was a cruiser. A good bike and we had a solid relationship. Unfortunately our relationship ended a little over a year ago.
My new ride is a sport/tour, or a sport/cruise bike. A bit of a crossover from the late 70's and early 80's. Much faster than most staight out cruisers, capable of carrying me, a partner and our associated gear for the day/weekend or however long, and still very comfy.
We were involved in an accident last October and I have just gotten her back to running condition and healthy. Yes, a joyous reunion. I'm not a real motorcycle mechanic, I just play one on TV. Through the process I've made mistakes, had to back up and start over. She's been very patient with me, and I with her. In the end all of the issues have been worked out and she is fit as a fiddle. Would that I could find people with the same patience and dedication.
Her name is Candy, :) She is a vintage 1980 Honda CB900 Custom. And yes, I love her. If you don't get that it just means you aren't a motorcycle lover. Now, if I could just figure out how to make her anatomoically correct, LOL.
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"Infidel defilers. They should all drown in lakes of blood."
A line delivered by James Earl Jones in the first Conan film.
I'm sick as a dog, high fever, chest congestion, head at about 126 psi, pounding, pounding, pounding.
But my voice has gone about a kabillion octaves lower than usual. So I changed my answering machine outgoing message to the above. Not everyday I can sound like him, LOL. |
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Never hold anyone as a priority that holds you as an option. |
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I come to know I love someone when I recognize my fear of losing them. |
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The current administration under Bush has been so invasive quite soon I expect him to announce the he can wear my underwear anytime he wants. |
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My strength comes in many forms.
One form is in acknowledging my weakness.
If I deny it I become its puppet. |
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Why isn't there a shorter word to describe monosylabic? |
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Trying to experience the lifestyle online is like trying to warm yourself by reading about fire. |
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Musing of this day.
Love is the willing acceptance of painful responsibility. |
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Musings of the day:
1) Moving fast or slow makes no difference. You don't really know someone until crunch time, and since life throws plenty of curve balls that's gonna happen eventually
2) In being vulnerable to someone, in being open to them, the only garuntee is that I'm going to get hurt.
3) Feelings are incredible, and are what "it" is all about, but they don't always tickle, and you have to take the good with the bad. None of them exist soley. Try to completely eliminate one kind of feeling and you end up eliminating all of them.
4) More important than the hurt is how we make "repairs" to the hurts.
5) Sometimes the deepest bonds are formed in the repairs.
6) You never get it all right the first time all the time.
7) There is no substitue for being solution driven.
8) Noncompetitive responses are worth their weight in gold. |
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| Age: 24 |
| Des Moines,
Iowa |
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