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As the title suggests, I am a fairly unassuming Domme. I am looking to build a relationship with at least one submissive and possibly a poly household. That said, I am not looking for someone interested exclusively in sexual submission, domestic servitude, etc. Please do not write sending me a list of kinks you enjoy such as caning, flogging, bondage, foot worship, humiliation, etc. If your interest is to find someone who will 'top' you in that way, I am not the person for you.
I do consider there to be a difference between topping matched with a bottom who enjoys being the recipient of those acts, and Dominance with a submissive who yearns to be pleasing. I am looking for the latter. I do not wish to be topped from the bottom by someone who expects that I will flog them X number of times a day. I am looking for someone who is interested in exploring a quiet life of service to a Dominant woman. Such a submissive will be striving for obedience in all things asked without the need for discipline as a necessary tool of his/her Domme to secure servitude. Discipline as necessary for mistakes is fine and appropriate, but I don't find myself, as a Domme, interested in wielding physical or coercive power over a partner. I seek to be served willingly by someone who values this above his/her particular kinks or whims, knowing that in my household, those sorts of activities would be a minor part of our engagement.
All that said, I am a very well educated and intelligent full-figured (but generally healthy and agile) voluptuous and nicely curved black woman. I enjoy great converstaion, honesty and intimacy. I love to laugh and be tender with partners. I have a rich and full life including active spiritual involvement in a church, pursuit of a doctoral degree in a field I find meaningful, an excellent job in that profession, great friendships, and also an appreciation for my own solitude. I do also live with roommates, though on a private floor, but am generally pretty comfortable about my sexuality around them.
In general: You should be well-educated. Mature in mind young in spirit. In a career or educational path you find fulfilling. In possession of a stable group of friends and some spiritual compass. Honest, playful, OBEDIENT. Between the age of 25-40. Either able to be monogamously loyal or able to have a conversation about other relationships you might be interested in. Please understand that I consider obligations to me the primary focus for my submissives and any other relationships that would conflict with that should be carefully considered before contacting me. (Sole exceptions: children, infirmed parents, other family obligations, or established spiritiaul practices - your times at church, synogague, etc., if applicable) Be willing to explore being a part of a small polyamorous household. Sexually open-minded and available as I would like to use/offer you without being extreme. (Again, if you are in this for the sexual kinks, you will find me extremely dull and I will likely find you extremely tedious.) Financially independent. Enjoying short travel (day and weekend trips, etc.) Interests outside of D/s a must.
If you are male (including ftm transgendered, male-spectrum intersexed ppl, sexual/identity butches, etc.): My preference is that you are well-endowed, of high libido, quite comfortable in your manhood (that is to say that if your Domme were to ask you to top her you would understand that as a part of your service as a male submissive... rather than those who may just be expecting to be penetrated by their Mistress.) I would prefer that you be physically FIT. That does not mean skinny or muscle bond. It just means that you can get around, have stamina, and consider yourself attractive. Note that this comes in men of various sizes and I will consider most. That said, when with a male identified (and especially with a male-bodied) partner, I generally prefer to be the only plush one in the bed. Chivalrous and financially generous. I have a preference for Black men but all will definitely be considered.
If you are (a non-masculine) female: I appreciate curvy, full-figured (though well proportioned), average, and occasionally slighly more slender women. Overly skinny or athletically toned women are not generally my type. I enjoy women who feel like women in softness and curvature. Sexually-open minded, comfortable with penetrative sex. Financial independence and equality a necessity, though I do occasionally enjoy pampering the right woman and conversely will have some expectations of contribution to my household in various services.
So that was long, hopefully with the consequence of leading to responses from only those serious about inquires. Note please that I put a great deal of thought into my writing and expect that any respondent will as well. Short, poorly formed, grammatically confused, and or uninsightful/undescriptive messages will not be considered. This is especially true if I then go to check your profile and find it is also on 2 sentence. When you email me, demonstrate patience. I do not need to be emailed more than once unless you imagine you genuinely have something more to add. If I am interested, I will reply. Otherwise, good luck with your search.
Regards
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