I think, after some reflection, that what we really hope to find is someone who wants to fall in love with us, not a situation.

Does that make sense?

• No, we will not send you any money
• No, we won't buy your stuff
• No, we won't visit your porn site
• No, you can't move in with us in two weeks
• No, we will not beat you senseless
• No, we will not partake in any criminal activity

Perhaps we should know better.  Fools, to seek love in a world of unsolicited, gratuitous adverts, soulless sexual overtures, and a virtual circus driven by click volume instead of human connection.

Is there no middle ground?  A place where those of alternative mindsets can meet for something more?  Why must those with nontraditional lifestyles be relegated to the relationship waste bins of the world?  Avarice and disregard of every kind blocks us from completion.

Is there a better way?

Regrettably, a lament...

It's a shame really.  So many of those who have approached us have been more than just a little insincere; using us for their own measure, and leaving a trail of false promises. Why is it so rare to find that jewel of a woman, that absolutely stunning soul, that can understand and effuse love within a submissive relationship, not just crude ideals?

It would appear that the space between the extremes set out by the conservative, small minds and the delusional, Hollywood influenced, "princess" subs is astonishingly small. So many are seeking that tantalizing and impossible ideal, imposed upon us by romanticists and screen writers.  Those of us who are true and genuine cannot compete with the dreams of Harlequin and Sade, we cannot triumph against those who simply tell you what you want to hear at all costs.  Honesty has become liability, despite it's genuine promise of happiness.

All we can do is love you.  Wherever, whoever you are.

We are of the persuasion that submission is a gift. 

It is the epitome of a trust that runs from earth to sky, from spirit to flesh, and from the heart and soul of one to another. 

We seek the meaning that comes from earning the submission of one who has value to yield. 

What gain is there in controlling the mindless? 

What joy is there in the words of an empty vessel giving praise? 

How do we grow together if there is no cultivation of a heart worth tending to?

We see dominance and submission as a lifelong story; evolving each day, deeper with time and intimate knowledge of the mind, heart, and soul to those who chose to love and to risk. 

And the search and the saga *is* risk, it is fear, it is rejection, it is pain, it is loss, it is sorrow.

But it is hope, promise, faith, love, honesty, and freedom.

So here we are again... hoping and dreaming.

-A

For those who may be inclined to ask, we have been on collar me before (for quite some time in fact).  We left for a while to do some soul searching as it were, and have now rebuilt our profile with a better understanding of what we are seeking.

There are so many things that describe a person and even more for a couple.  It would be folly to attempt to impart all of that here. 

One final note.  We expect to spend a considerable amount of time chatting with anyone we meet online before the relationship can advance.  This will probably entail weeks of chatting, email, phone calls, web cams, and so on.

Yes, I know it’s a bit flowery and verbiage heavy, but it’s really how we feel!  And yes, I did write that myself with the help of my wife.  We wanted to keep the opening as clean and true as possible, so we decided to add some more mundane details later:

• We don’t see children in our future
• Smoking is a no
• Physical attraction *is* important!  Perfection is not required, but be realistic.  My wife and I range from average to athletic in conditioning.
• We care about our health and so should our girl.
• We like to walk, run, and I like to surf, and swim.
• We play table top RPGs and video games and our ideal match would enjoy at least one of these things.
• Religion should be very open minded.  Basically, if any part of a religion includes the sentence “Do this or you’ll go to some terrible place for eternity”, then it’s probably not the best match for us.
• We’re not wealthy, we work for a living, but we’re comfortable and have a nice place near the ocean.
• We are looking for a submissive girl, but not a slave.
• We are interested in alternative, D/s themed, lifestyles, but there are limits.  We prefer indulgence on the milder side of things with a stronger focus on how D/s can be used to expand a loving relationship with a solid foundation of trust and compassion for each other.
• We need someone honest, realistic, loyal, committed, serious, and deeply loving.