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Pan Female Dominant, 43,  Lawrence, Kansas
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I'm sorry, but if you are more than 5 years older than me, I'm not interested. ? I prefer a sub or slave to contact me first, and that it be more than one sentence and more than one or 2 words. Also, I have My picture on My profile, so if you don't on yours, I expect to see a pic. It is only fair. ? I am separated from my husband who has basically left the lifestyle.? I have a fiance that is not interested in the community but loves it in private. He is supportive of me getting a submissive to go to lifestyle events in the community as well as in my private life.? So, any sub/slave I find will be attending events in the BDSM community with me. ALSO, he and I are both very sadistic and would like to find a sub FOR BOTH OF US to meet up with every so often to have hard play sessions with. This means the sub would need to be beyond a pain slut.? I had a gastric sleeve surgery, then had belly skin removed at the end of 2013. If you like BBWs, I'm losing weight. I'd like my sub or slave to encourage me and help me stay on track with exercise.? A D/s relationship to me, doesn't mean we're involved in a "scene" all the time. There is always the undercurrent, dynamic, and understanding that the sub/slave is subservient and I'm the one in charge. The day to day routine shouldn't interfere with this concept. When out in the vanilla world, other people would see the relationship as you bring a gentleman or gentlewoman and basically doting over me.? I am sadistic, and that includes many forms of sadism. Not necessarily pain, however I do enjoy myself the most when I'm with a pain slut. ? I've been in the lifestyle for 9 years. I've had fun in the community for 7 yrs and will continue to do so.

Looking for in a nutshell

I will only talk to people who are single, or in an open relationship with the partner on the same page. I won't help a person cheat on their significant other.
A sub or slave.... I love the D/s dynamic in the power and control. I get off on the moans of pleasure from My sub/slave from what I am doing to him/her. I love the power and pleasure of the worship the sub or slave gives, and the honor of their gift of submission...Yes, I said "gift"... It is an honor that a sub/slave trusts in Me to have dominance over him/her. ? ? I view part of My role as a Domme is to help my sub/slave grow as a person, meet goals, etc. ? In a sub/slave, I want a person that is intelligent, knows how to use complete sentences and words, a sense of humor, has confidence, serves with dignity, and is reliable. I want that person to keep his/her word that he/she will keep in close touch. I expect to see my sub/slave on a regular basis (if not local, this involves daily contact via text, IM, etc until you relocate). ? NOTE: If you aren't nearby, then you have to be willing to relocate at some point if W/we hit it off. You will need to visit at least once to meet face to face.? I'm willing to cam or skype after getting to know you a little better and I trust that you're real. ? I also will not take on an online only sub. Online subs just don't work for me.? It only works if the ultimate goal is the sub to relocate to me. ? If I get to know you and things work out between U/us, W/we will discuss what kind of relationship/dynamic W/we will have. ?











 Dominant Female



 5' 7"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Sub / Slave Male

Switch Women

Switch Male

Sub/Sub Couples

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 You worshiping my body

 You worshiping my breasts

 Disciplining your genitals

 Local BDSM Community

 You massaging me

 You being my domestic servant

 Fire Play

 You kissing and worshiping my feet

 Total control of your orgasms

 Horror Movies


 Paranormal Phenomena

 Lifestyle BDSM




 Garage Sales



 Musical Theater

 Renaissance Faires


 You begging

 Tying you up

 Disciplining you with a cane

 Keeping you locked in tamper evident chastity at all times

 Electrical Play

 Hair Pulling

 You doing all of the housework

 Going to munches

 You worshiping me with recitations and rituals

 You servicing me with your mouth

 Comedy Shows

 Historical Shows

 Romance Novels






 Alternative Music

 Eighties Music

 Nineties Music

 Rock Music



 Amusement Parks

 Antique Shows

 Art Galleries


 Coffee Shops


 Flea Markets





 Violating your rear

 Blindfolding you


 Collaring you

 Giving you corner time facing the wall



 Eye contact with me is not permitted

 You at the end of my leash

 Mental Bondage

 Training you to be completely
obedient to me and only me

 Sensation Play

 Public Play

 Spanking you

 Speech Restrictions



 Wax Play

 Board Games

 Card Games



 Online Chatrooms

 Science Fiction

 True Crime

 TV News

 Web Surfing

 Alternative Medicine

 Body Art




 Intellectual Discourse



 Cuckolding you

 Female Sovereignty



 Old Guard


 Classical Music

 Country Music

 EMO Music

 Heavy Metal Music

 New Age Music

 New Wave

 Punk Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Show Tunes




 Latter-day Saints

 Modern Paganism

 Auto Racing






 Fine Dining










 Vacuum Stimulation

 TV Sports


 Cross Stitch

 Liberal Politics


 Political Activism


 Electronica / EDM


 Hip Hop Music



 Pop Music





 Curious About:



 Horseback Riding


 Martial Arts


 Scuba Diving




 Erotic Hypnosis

 Erotic touch

 Medical fetish play

 Modern Primitivism


 Maid / Butler Service

 Outdoor Bondage

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Role Playing

 Sensory Play


 Suspension Bondage

 Theatrical Scenes





 Candle Making



 Online Auctions


 Soap Making



 Feng Shui








 Masks on Partner

 Rubber Fetish

 Online RPGs

 Puzzle Games

 Role Playing Games





 Body Building




 G-spot Stimulation

 Masks (Wearing)

 Simulation Games

 Conservative Politics

 Industrial Music



 Hard Limits:



 Gas Masks

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Journal Entries:
10/23/2013 9:24:32 PM

I just uploaded 2 new pics (I decided to be brave)

The "before" pic is of me in the white panties. It was taken the night before I had surgery to remove skin from my lower belly.

The "after" pic was taken 10/22, a lil over a week after my surgery. I'm swollen, bruised, and sore, but they removed 21 lbs of skin off.

I'm happy and excited I had the surgery because now, after I heal, I'll be able to exercise, where before I really wasn't able to.

Even with the swelling, wearing a binder, and another issue, I'm wearing clothes 1-2 sizes smaller.

A year ago I had the gastric sleeve surgery done. I had lost 100 lbs before the surgery I just had, and that was done strictly by the restriction of what I could eat. So, now with a big problem removed, I can speed up my weight loss.  :-)

10/15/2013 9:43:54 PM

Man, it's at times like this I wish I was a masochist. I had surgery Friday to remove excess skin from my belly. The pain sucks ass. The end result will be great tho. I'll post pics of my new body in a couple months once the swelling has gone down. I am a chunk smaller than in my pics now.

10/2/2013 9:01:58 AM

Why is it so goddamn hard for people to use "dominate" and "dominant" correctly?????

I'm not an English major, but it drives me up a f-n wall!

I want to scream every time I see a profile that says "I want a dominate woman".

For the love of God, you want a DOMINANT woman!

Dominate is what I do!

Dominant is the type of woman I am!

A sample sentence-

Twisted, a dominant woman likes to dominate masochistic slaves.

12/5/2012 12:48:02 PM
A couple of notes: I am looking at subs and slaves that have marked in their profiles that they are willing to relocate. There aren't any subs or slaves that are a match that I've seen in my area. My idea is to get to know each other online, and or texting. Then, a visit would be needed. I also had weight loss surgery. I would love who I find to be a person that can be supportive as I follow my journey. Also, I would prefer since I want a long term D/s and or poly relationship, that you not want kids. I have lost a few of my past subs because they found vanilla gfs to settle down and have a family. If you do want kids, I don't have a problem if you find someone that is poly and in the lifestyle.

12/5/2012 12:35:49 PM
It is very hard to be cheerful during the holiday season especially this year. I'm not going to list out what all the issues are, just a hope for things to turn around next year. Since I have been looking for over a year, a Domme friend of mine helped me feel better about not finding a sub or slave yet, when she told me it took her 6 years to find her boy. Knowing what I want and sticking to it will make myself and my future sub/slave a happy D/s couple. For the subs and slaves out there searching like me for the special match, don't give up. I know there are a lot of spammers, scammers, and fakes. I have found subs and a slave before and I know I will again.

9/16/2012 8:40:11 PM
Went to a good presentation over the weekend. It got me thinking about the type of slave or sub I want. The presenter is a slave, and she had some excellent points. I want a slave or sub with confidence. A well rounded person that has things that he or she enjoy. The confidence in serving. Serving with pride and dignity. Why would I want a slave or sub that doesn't have confidence in who they are? Would a person who isn't confident take pride in their service? No. Would a person without confidence have the desire to better themselves in any facet of their life? No. There is a big difference in being submissive with confidence and just being a shell of a person that doesn't have a mind outside of whatever they are told. things to think about how to serve in vanilla situations and even day to day in little ways to show you care were also talked about. I loved the things she gave as examples to still maintain being served and serving even when at Walmart. I realize now I want a strong slave or sub, where their gift of submission is truly an honor to have and I have a mind to connect with, and hopefully keep things fresh..

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