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I have been actively Dominant for over 30 years. My experience in this time has led me to be first and foremost a mental Dom, capturing my submissives mind and heart, and then extending deep into the physical. It is only fair to state up front that I have both long-term goals and those focused in the more immediate nearer term. My long-term goals--a full relationship--are described throughout the remainder of this profile, but Id be remiss if I didnt allow that in the past I have been known to mentor, to guide, even to play with others who were not specifically my submissive. This is not to say that I treat such circumstances (or submissives) lightly, but rather, it reflects my understanding that we are all adults, and if all parties consent and desire it (and we have no other relationships from which to be pulled away), then there is no problem with safely enjoying one anothers company. And yes, this has at times led to a much, much fuller relationship.
My experience exceeds my core desires. That is to say, I have participated in acts in my past which were right at the time or which were explored because they interested both my submissive and myself but are no longer preeminent in my wish list. But I also recognize that relationships are dynamic, and they adjust to suit the needs and desires of both parties. And in my world, the desires and needs of both Dominant and submissive are taken into account. After all, such a relationship is not a one-way street. Each party gives to the other we just give to one another different things. All this to say that when I am asked my likes and dislikes, I may give a short list of things which I deeply enjoy, but that list must not be considered all-inclusive. There are some things I enjoy which will probably never be explored with my submissive because they lie outside her boundaries (although we may push limits!) and there are some things which I dont find as thrilling as she does, but which we will explore and enjoy together because they fulfill her.Ultimately, I seek a relationship--a partnership--permeated with a Ds flavor. So, yes, I do seek a submissive woman for a full relationship encompassing the vanilla world as well as our own shared intimate pleasures, but I also desire a woman who can and will stand on her own two feet.I discovered my Dominant streak naturally, well before the Internet made BDSM trendy. This is not to say that anyone who discovered it after the advent of the Internet is less impacted by it, but there are those who put it on and take it off as they would a hat or jacket. I am happy to discuss this in greater depth, but I find it important to note that this is neither a game to me, nor something I take lightly.As for me, my favored activities include bondage, blindfolds, spankingflogging, sensory deprivation, and many, many more. My demands are steep at times, but rewards to my submissive ample. My limits are simple but firm No injury, no medicalhealthlegal issues, and everyone involved must ultimately benefit and grow from the experience. This does not mean that my partner will necessarily like everything that I choose however, if the relationship is strong, she will respect and honor me without complaint, and find pleasure in that I am pleased with her. The connection, the mental dynamic, the bond, the energy flow between Dominant and submissive are what feeds me, what energizes me. I seek mutual adoration. Now I need the right submissive partner to complete me. Depending on the woman, this relationship may take on the characteristics of a seemingly vanilla partner with Ds elements behind closed doors a fuller, Ds relationship in which she yields more of herself to me or a full-blown Masterslave relationship in which we establish an ownership type of dynamic.Although there are many, many facets to me (ranging from vanilla to sensual sadist), I primarily identify as a Daddy Dom. Apparently my including the phrase Daddy Dom has elicited more confusion than anything else in this profile. I do not harbor a love for sexual involvement of young children, infantilism, or age play rather, the term Daddy describes how I adore, protect, and cherish my girl.
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The measure of a submissive isn't how she obeys when commanded to do that which she enjoys, but rather how she yields when the task is difficult. |
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Moved from the head of my profile: I recognize that this profile chiefly describes the desire for a submissive partner. I also have in me, however, a strong pull toward again owning a slave, the context of which situation would be a completely different flavor than detailed below. I am happy to discuss this via e-mail or chat.
It may be easier to classify one as Dominant, submissive, slave, switch, etc., than it is to actually describe to others what these labels actually mean to the speaker. As such, one person may say one thing, which is ultimately received and processed by the listener as something else altogether. Where there is confusion—or even the potential for confusion—I find that discussion goes a long way toward revealing the true intents and evaporating misunderstandings which can interfere with something which is otherwise very promising.
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THOUGHTS ON A SUBMISSIVE:
This is my opinion...one I've developed in over 20 years of being actively Dominant. There are, of course, other equally valid perspectives--and quite a few that are dangerous and improper.
In my view, a woman's submission is the greatest gift she may offer a man...and as such, it (and she) demands to be cherished, treasured, and respected....
Likewise, if a submissive is his greatest ‘possession,’ it is incumbent upon him not to destroy her, but to mold her, foster her growth, cherish and treasure her, to uplift her.....
Being submissive does not mean one should be a doormat...silly putty to be shaped in whatever fashion the Master desires and left that way... Rather, she should have steel in her spine...be responsive to him, as he is to her....to move in unison....to relate to him on many levels. But she should always recognize her place in relation to him.
I do not want a doormat who will do anything just because I say it, who lets me walk all over her. I want an intelligent, opinionated submissive, who intentionally and consciously gives her submission...it is a choice, not something that should ever be assumed.
Because the mind is where submission lies, punishments (for punishment’s sake) can be few and far between. Her motivation should be respect and adoration, a desire to please…never fear of her Dominant. |
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| Age: 20 |
| Erehwon,
Germany |
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