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About three years ago, I set up a profile here and hoped to find someone with the similar interests to possibly develop something meaningful.
Three years later, I decide to take down that profile. Before I exit, I think there are a lot of newbies out there might find my experience educational. I use a new profile for this purpose since I don’t want to hear any excuse or explanations from the previous old contacts stating that they didn’t mean to mislead or yell….:)
A. Yelling type: They demand pic. They told you that there are so many spammers/flakes there. They have been burned before. If you cannot show yourself either in pic or cam, then you are not real. Well, what they said might be true. But if you are not comfortable with sharing pic, then don’t do it. Some respond with” bye”, some “ Screw you, I am so fed up with you spammers” Regardless, your decision should be respected with grace. As an adult, you should handle rejection well even though you are behind the screen. At the same time, I strongly advice you stay true on your descriptions, not just in the profile but also for real.
B. Tragedy type: They are either single or divorced. They claimed that their dominant gf/wife had car accidents and passed away or dump him for another man. At some point, I almost doubt that dominant women are cursed to have all these tragedy or no family value to dump the kids and husband…lol…well, it turns out the ex gf is perfectly alive, the unfaithful wife is just a poor women who has no idea what her husband is doing on his business trips. This is a free country. Still, your willing participants have rights to know the fact what/who they are involved with before they engage any type of relationship with you.
C. Liar type: Given my age (33 at the time), most men are telling me that they are 37. Somehow, this is a magic number people like to use. In reality, they are 48 or maybe 62.
Now, I respect seniors. But come on, I am not a fan of “ Sugar” or “ Grandpa” when it comes to relationships.
Also, I stated in my profile, no drug users. Some ignore that, because they don’t consider whatever they are smoking as drugs. So if you are not a fan of drug user, in your profile, you should state specifically no drug user of schedule I-V narcotics including marijuana.
D. Good type: I like to believe that % is not necessary low, but it’s especially time consuming that you have to sort through A-C type. A lot of patience, time and efforts are required to even reach to this type. As we all know, only professional services can offer convenience. Too bad, as a lady, we don’t have much of that option….:)
Whether you are female or male, don’t become one or two of the first three types. If you keep doing B and C, you just produce more type A people here.
Type B-C might look/sound like Type D. They often present themselves well too. Don’t let the excitement cloud your judgments.
Don’t become a type A if you don’t get what you expected in the first place. Don’t let the frustration take over your cool, you might miss or scare away type D when you are accusing.
On your journal to the great possibility, hope this might save you some time to identify what to watch out for…:)
Happy search and be safe.
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