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Hetero Male Dominant, 63,  Chelmsford, United Kingdom
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Seeking a female slave to train, use, humiliate, degrade. Am considered extreme.I am based in Essex but have links to Hampshire.I will be seeking female submissives that have a need for pain, willing to explore taboo and perverse aspects of the lifestyle.

Experienced, extreme and sadistic. Have 25 years of owning training and exploring, a collection of lifestyle equipment, the knowledge and skills to train new and inexperienced submissives, intermediates seeking to improve, through to experienced submissives, slaves or sluts seeking edge play, body modifications, torture, extremes, taboos and perversions.

Not for all, I know. Do not judge me before you know me. Only come to chat for information, knowledge and genuine interest in the lifestyle. Prepared to be shocked or not.

I am seeking real meetings, leading to ownership of my property, if this is not your aim or goal, do not waste your time, but especially dont waste mine.












 Dominant Male


 United Kingdom

 5' 10"

 180 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Switch Women

Sub/Sub Couples

Female Led Couples

Male Dom Couples


A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Scuba Diving (Expert)

 Snorkeling (Expert)

 Blindfolding you (Expert)

 Bondage (Expert)

 Breast Play (Expert)

 Cages (Expert)

 Canes and Crops (Expert)

 Electrical Play (Expert)

 Erotic touch (Expert)

 Gags (Expert)

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Masks (Wearing) (Expert)

 Medical fetish play (Expert)

 Mental Bondage

 Modern Primitivism (Expert)

 Rituals (Expert)

 Outdoor Bondage (Expert)

 Plastic Wrap Bondage (Expert)

 Public Play (Expert)

 Sensory Play (Expert)

 Spanking you (Expert)

 Vacuum Stimulation (Expert)

 Wax Play (Expert)

 Whips (Expert)

 Chess (Expert)

 Web Surfing

 Lifestyle BDSM (Expert)



 Bar Hopping

 Fine Dining (Expert)


 Musical Theater

 Travel (Expert)


 Horseback Riding

 Walking (Expert)

 Anal Play (Expert)

 You wearing my collar (Expert)

 Corner Time (Expert)

 Exhibitionism (Expert)

 Humiliation (Expert)

 Placing you on a leash

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Control

 Sensation Play (Expert)

 Rubber Fetish

 You wearing stockings (Expert)

 Suspension Bondage

 Tickling (Expert)

 Vibrators (Expert)

 Watersports (Expert)

 Card Games




 Bowling (Expert)



 Amusement Parks

 Art Galleries





 Eye Contact Restrictions (Expert)

 Being Massaged

 Gas Masks (Expert)

 Hoods (Expert)

 Masks on Partner (Expert)


 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Role Playing (Expert)

 Speech Restrictions


 Board Games

 Body Art


 Painting (Beginner)

 1950s Lifestyle






 Classical Music

 Country Music

 Hip Hop Music

 Pop Music


 Seventies Music






 Curious About:

 Going to the Opera (Beginner)

 Climbing (Beginner)

 Yachting (Beginner)

 Local BDSM Community (Beginner)

 Fire Play (Beginner)

 Foot Worship (Beginner)

 Munches (Beginner)

 Photography (Beginner)

 Cuck Options




 Hard Limits:

 Female Sovereignty

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Journal Entries:
1/25/2022 12:30:57 AM

Why has CS changed 'who has viewed you'?

if you are viewed by a profile with a photo. You click on it now and the photo is enlarged. You have no idea of who is looking at your profile. What is the point If you can not view them? 

7/27/2015 11:53:02 AM
Do not start talking with me if your not going to progress to a meeting. Your wasting your time, not mine. I like to chat when I get bored will offer you my number or tell you to meet me. That soon sorts out any fantasist.

7/5/2015 1:21:13 PM
A twist of fate.

Old kik ID. Message
from the past, leading to the future?

7/2/2015 1:47:23 PM
What a shame people do not mean what they say or do what they say they will ... they only let themselves down. :(

6/22/2015 10:59:15 PM
We begin again :)

6/10/2015 10:37:56 AM
killing the time until 9.30pm... habit has brought me here lol

5/30/2015 5:31:31 PM
TorturerUK, Please be patient, we are doing some overdue repairs on a lot of the site for a few days and we will be experiencing a few error codes until it is all fixed. We apologize for the problems it is causing but to fix the problem with our photo loader and a few other issues, it is unavoidable. Thank you for your patience and for using Collarspace. With regard, The Collarspace Support Team

5/28/2015 1:39:53 PM
I feel the door is open... do not do anything to allow it to slam shut..... :)

5/28/2015 10:40:52 AM
2 doors close shut .... another is ajar... :)

5/28/2015 10:10:47 AM
A record for me... 2 in a week :)

5/23/2015 3:02:05 AM
Might not be on here as much as I used to be... :)

5/22/2015 7:21:24 AM
Shit day .... lmfao...

Started perfectly.... went tits up.... looking forward to tonight so much :)

5/20/2015 1:50:56 PM
Another good evening.

5/18/2015 1:04:29 PM
Will not be here much in future... nothing is set in stone yet... but feeling good... :)

5/17/2015 2:13:54 PM
Another productive night ... another long session of chatting... :)

5/17/2015 9:00:55 AM
At last someone who is thoughtful. Not able to talk when she says... messages me with an apology, well in advance. Very pleased :)

5/11/2015 12:47:42 PM
Do not dwell in the past or what might have been. Move forward and begin the search again... :)

5/11/2015 11:02:30 AM

5/8/2015 5:55:57 PM
Wide awake at stupid o'clock someone will suffer for this!!!!!

5/7/2015 11:06:34 AM
I now know what I am seeking. The connection to the mind, a female on the same wavelength as myself. Attraction is not important, size, shape, looks are all superficial. Thought I had found it, only to discover it was not so. Torturer

4/5/2015 11:57:51 AM
So disillusioned !!!! Why do so many of the submissive profiles on here say they are seeking sadistic men? When messaged they do not reply? Torturer

1/11/2015 2:50:32 AM
what is wrong with people?... am contacted and I reply.... then the person deletes their profile????????... if you contact me why bother if your going to delete your profile... understand if I contact someone and the respond then feel it is not worth pursuing...I do not send abusive messages.... I move on.... I do not judge... T

6/4/2014 9:22:51 AM

this is so difficult... it is easier to message submissive's in Germany, in the US, in Canada etc.... than it is to engage with females in the UK... what are they scared of?... am talking with a very interesting female from Canada, just messaging one in Germany and two others from Germany on yahoo...?British women are so cold and unfriendly!!!!!

5/14/2014 2:04:08 AM
Should I be amazed by this site still.... have been on here so long ... but had a random message from someone who then deleted their profile.... telling me to get a job... am self employed .... so if you need a man and van just book me and give me that job..... lol

5/6/2014 7:04:09 PM
Always begin believing that people are not seeking ..... will not meet even if you talk to them for months ..... that they are not real or genuine.... ask random questions and specific questions.... put people on the spot.... so easy to find out if they are serious and so easy to spot profiles that are not worth reading or sending messages too...

3/15/2014 10:13:38 AM

what submissive asks to see a potential dominant..... naked..... within 5 mins of chatting on yahoo?



1/3/2014 7:52:21 AM

a submissive on cm wants to be spanked in a room full of people....


told this would be easy.... go to a local munch....


she asked what is was..... so I told her... meeting place for likeminded people held in towns and cities in the UK...


no thanks she replied.... that sounds awful.... wtf?????????????????


she on a lifestyle site that is full of likeminded people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


so funny it is sad.... :)

11/9/2013 11:55:46 AM

have been here for a few years.... have met and talked to some lovely people.... but then so many more that chat once, some that chat for a while, until you ask for a number..... very few are genuine..... most are just fantasist with no intention of going past GO!!!!!....



the latest saying YES to everything.... but now fails to read messages let alone answer....


think I will not bother anymore.... you will have to be interest me....



9/26/2013 11:40:43 AM

if you say your going to trust me to tie you up, use you, humiliate you and torture you.... ffs..... trust me with your mobile number.... or get a pay as you go sim.... not rocket science..

9/24/2013 10:04:10 AM

some people say they are real and genuine yet as soon as they are told how it is gonna be.... and the agree..... why do they then close down and stop talking... me thinks they are not genuine....just confirms this as a way to find them out.... Smile

9/1/2013 2:20:09 AM

so many people view my profile, some do message and talk, few progress beyond that, a couple do get to talking on the phone but only one has been worth considering..... am still considering it.....

7/31/2013 12:38:02 PM

have to laugh at females who are curious about cbt..... maybe they are men pretending to be women.... what do you think?

4/6/2013 1:20:22 AM

an hour talking to a female.... last message to her.... 'when do you want your first session?'.... her reply..... 'asap'..... my next message deleted my next message...'as soon as that then?.... lol....' deleted unread.... no humour.... lmfao....

12/28/2012 1:30:09 AM

The number of new profiles where it is plane to see a 'translator' has been used to write the text is increasing.... but that is good... saves time and energy in not going past the first stage of reading the profile....

11/21/2012 10:01:47 AM

One of the best ways to discover if a submissive is real and genuine... exchange messages on here.... then go to yahoo.... choose a moment to say you have to go.... send them a message to open while your away....look when you next come online.... so many dont even open the message... lol... just want someone to chat too... to discuss a fantasy or two.... not really seeking a dominant at all...

10/25/2012 10:58:37 AM

off to a local munch tonight...

10/23/2012 12:02:57 PM

so many pix on profile have been so obviuosly doctored or are professional photographs.... it is laughable... shame you can not report these profile... but hey ho... it is entertainment...smiles...

10/14/2012 1:16:08 PM

guess what.. speak to someone for 2-3 weeks.... comes the day you agreed to swap numbers.... and she/it/he goes awol.... am used to it now... is there anyone local(ish) who is genuine.... might be I have to open a new profile and message myself, proceed to a meeting and turn up..... at least I know what I am looking for and I know I am real and genuine.... with the same Cool

9/20/2012 1:42:56 PM

away for a few days.... little matter of a wedding to attend.... no not


have fun without me.... :D

9/14/2012 12:39:34 PM

9/14/2012 8:00:00 AM

why do females put ... seeking extreme... need to be tortured... slave no limits.... when I message them get no reply.... must have a age limit... or they are not being

9/6/2012 12:45:47 PM

just got chatting to a 'female', exchanged numbers.... guess what... was a guy.... lol... why did I expect anything else?.... one day someone who interests me will be real... female... genuine... a slave.... honest... seeking to be owned....


till then will keep looking....

8/23/2012 9:50:00 AM

on the video chatroom

8/22/2012 10:08:10 AM

why do people reply to messages, go onto yahoo, agree to exchange numbers but dont follow it through?..... one conclusion..... fake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


unless you know otherwise....


they have only let themselves down and wasted thier time...

3/28/2012 2:48:16 AM

if you dont want to prove yourself on the phone, cam or meet do not waste your time... I do seek to establish someone is real, genuine and suitable to my needs very quickly.... this saves me alot of time and effort... no body has meet these criteria for a long time... most on here just want to talk about the lifestyle... women are worse than men, for wanking.... my opinion ...

3/27/2012 12:31:28 PM

I begin by thinking no body on here is truthful, honest or seeking what they say they are.... am proved right 90% of the time... the rest give me time then decide I am too extreme... waiting for someone to prove this theory wrong... lol

3/22/2012 2:38:07 PM

not taking any female submissives, slaves or anyone in general...seriously... no one has proved themselves recently.... or proved that what they say in profiles is genuine....if you want specific details message me...

3/6/2012 9:21:46 AM

had a submissive who gave me her e-mail, her mobile number, her password to her profile... and guess what.....


the e-mail account was under a guys name.... what are some people about.... closed the account down....

3/6/2012 9:18:34 AM

why do so called submssives have profile handles that include words like 'tease' or 'nerd'... even worse when they include a male name... will not look at these at all.... are we to think that are real/genuine... I dont think

3/1/2012 9:11:53 AM

as soon as I see the words...'looking for someone to relocate me'.... the alarm bells ring....


have also noticed alot of submissives profile saying ... new but owned, been asked to set up a profile... again sets off the alert buzzer....


so easy to spot profiles to stay away from....

2/25/2012 1:25:16 AM

some profiles have photos that dont relate to the person who wrote the profile... it is so obvious....


photos that are taken by a professional, from another country and so many holiday phots that can be 'stolen' from any social network site online....


also the text, gammer, spelling.....your profiles should be designed to make a Dominant want to contact you.... but most are not worth the time....


also if your saying you want a sadist, your seeking 24/7, you have no limits etc.... why then do so many delete messages..... if you have a specific age range or any other reason that you do not want to consider a Dominant ... say so....  {#}


would be a lot easier for me.... lol


1/20/2012 3:20:23 AM

Away for the weekend

12/21/2011 2:45:23 PM

Off now for the xmas .... have a great time all....


Merry Xmas.... hope the New Year brings you what you want, need or seek....


best wishes....

12/16/2011 12:29:22 PM

why on earth do submissives come on cm offering to sub for payments in full or in instalments... are they really so stupid to think that a Dominant would pay for something that is absolutly freely given by others on cm.... would they hand over the same in reverse.... I very much doubt it.... maybe I should offer to Dominant submissives for up front payments or of you want that you pay me in monthly instalments.....


any sub takers?

12/16/2011 9:28:38 AM

I never look on talking to people as a waste of my time... I am seeking, so am willing to talk with anyone who wants to talk, is suitable, is interested in me etc.... if it does not work out for any reason I am pleased to just walk away and talk to someone new, interesting and available... It is not a waste of my time because I am seeking, so necessary to talk with any potential slave.


It is a waste of other peoples time... if they are not to be genuine, real or not really wanting what they say they need on their profiles.... maybe people should give more information and at least read messages, even if they do not feel they want to reply.... after all time has been taken to write a meessage .... it should be given the respect it deserves.... honesty should be from both sides....



12/10/2011 1:26:45 AM

talking to a 'couple' on cm.... messages and on yahoo.... liked the idea of dominating a male that is part of a'couple'.... but not a lone male....but could never get her on yahoo to chat at all...only him.... now I am blocked.... says it all me thinks.... different from a 'male' pretending to be a female but just as much of a time water.... not my time, as I expect more people on here to not be real, not seeking what they say in thier profiles.... am more surprised when I find someone real.... but that is the way it is....



12/7/2011 10:37:05 AM

would like to thank two people on here for thier honesty.... and getting back to tell me they were not interested in my offer.... best wishes to you both ...

12/2/2011 12:52:27 PM

sitting here slowly munching my way through a bag of large chocolate buttons .... mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

delish ................................ !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

12/1/2011 9:33:42 AM

Why are some female submissives on cm seeking marriage?


Is this site now a dating or match making site?

11/29/2011 10:03:03 AM

What is wrong with cm and explorer..... my lap top is unable to get cm on a regular basis....

11/23/2011 11:16:44 AM

Funny how there has been an influx of '.......gurl's, suddenly add profiles to CM.... {#} or is it just me and my suspicious mind?

10/14/2011 12:30:51 PM

If you are not willing to cam to prove your real, exchange numbers and talk to prove your genuine, if your not willing to meet after cam and phone contact.... Do Not contact me....


Guys you can not alter your voice, once I hear you talk, I have found you out....


Females... talk normally, dont whisper, tell me you ill, at work, home and dont want the kids to hear.....or offer any other excuse....


How can I treat people on here with respect, when most of you are either not real or genuine.... let alone honest.....


I will and do ask for cam to cam, phone contact and a public meeting before I ask for or seek commitment from anyone....


Dont promise to cam, exchange phone numbers or meet unless you mean it.... all you are doing is wasting your time..... I am on here seeking real meetings... the process I follow will find you out.... if your real then I will meet.... if not, it has not wasted my time, only proved my system works and sorts out the fakes.....


If you are fake please try to find other ways to get my interest..... try and alter the way you appraoch me and talk to me... finding it all so easy to spot you.....{#}

10/6/2011 10:25:59 AM

why do people open a conversation with you, then when you reply... delete that reply....  so many fakes, wanna be's and losers on the internet.... their loss  {#}

7/28/2011 11:48:56 AM



6/12/2011 4:26:28 AM

People put a profile on collarme, either without any information or being specific in what they are looking for.... ie; seeking a sadist..... when a polite and respectful message is sent. It surprises me that a submissive, who is supposed to be compliant, does not show respect and at least read the message.


I do not seek males of any description but read all messages and reply to most. A person has taken time to compose a message, write it and should be shown respect by the reading of it.

6/4/2011 12:54:39 AM

Am curious as to why female submissives put a profile on CM which is very general in content but also hint or states they want to be pushed to explore present limits. When a message is sent to ask simple questions, as an introduction. They are so ignorant that they 'delete the message, unread'


If submissive has age restrictions, find the content of the sender's profile to extreme or any other reason. Would it not be better practice to read and reply. After all a submissive is supposed to want to please.

5/31/2011 12:47:56 PM

Someone very genuine, very interesting and a pleasure to know.... sadly it was not to be.... hope I have made a friend.....

5/26/2011 9:52:16 AM

am chatting to someone who interests me alot....

5/22/2011 4:03:25 PM

No longer considering shysarahuk.. she failed to come online as agreed to exchange phone numbers.... take note any ptoential owners..... she talks the talk but failed to walk the walk...

6/29/2010 10:43:50 AM
What pity it is when people block you.... someones profile saying 'am seeking a sadist...' as you chat and feel they could be real, genuine... they suddenly block you....

I am adult do not get in a paddy or sulk.... I can accept rejection, even if there seems to be no reason.... I am a Dominant and stay in control of myself.... this enables me to control others....

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Today is the begining.

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