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Safety First... I know, what a sexy way to start a profile. Safety, Honesty, and Trust are very sexy is this context, think of playing without them.
As you read this please remember that I’ve no idea who you are, and have no desire to assume, so much of my pleasure is the hunt, the art of finding a suitable subject. A word of explanation, when I say subject I am using the word in as a substitute for switch, bottom, sub, and slave because I am open to these options. She, if the subject of my fancy, the subject of my dreams. Each subject offers different possibilities, and exporting her, learning her is where I derive my greatest pleasure. We start with each other not as labels, we start as people. When first we meet, we are not Dom & sub, we are you, and me. Gauging Personal chemistry, or the lack thereof, can only be done in person. From there we build understanding, set expectations, and limits. You are a “sub”, you are not yet my sub, I am a Dom, I am not yet your Dom. If we engage each other, we can continue to add steps to the dance.
A common question asked of a Dom is, what are you into, what sort of play do you prefer; this shows a lamentable lack of imagination. What I’m into depends on my mood, her, and what she inspires in me. Some subjects respond well to pain, others to objectification, some prefer sensual play and so on. There is a misconception that a Dom takes from a sub whatever he wants from her. “it's like trying to drink whisky from a bottle of wine” I’ve had women, in conversation, pull back when they learn that I like Edge play. They think that is all I know, and that I would try to force that from them. Sensual play, the delicious, dizzying mix of pain, and pleasure also makes me smile, I have many interests, and finding subjects to fit my many moods is a great pleasure. You probably have friends you do different things with. Her flesh is a delightful gateway to her mind where I do my best work, no matter what sort of play in which we are engaged. Here is a vanilla example, it I mention that I like pizza, would you assume that I never eat anything else? if you have peanut allergies, we won’t go to a Tia restaurant.
I may see in her a woman who desires soft sensual play, a passion of mine, and I will indulge my sweet tooth with her soft flesh, then hold her in tender after care as she melt into me. She may thrive on being taken to low, dark places, reminded what a worthless Slut she is, and loses her senses at the notion of what comes next. Her flesh might crave restraint, and pain, never a tender moment, after care consisting of cleaning up the scene, and washing my feet. You are a woman, an individual, not a one size fits all answer to any man’s fantasies.
I’ll tell you this, I am a minimalist, I don’t have a duffell bag full of toys. I prefer to buy things in a vanilla setting, then pervert them to my use, a crop, and whip for a Tack shop, cuffs from a corrections supplier (cuffs are much maligned, because are often misused), and a personal favorite, Medical instruments, and supplies.
I was active, many years ago, in the Colorado scene, PEP, RMPE, and CoP, so I am looking forward to learning what’s new in Denver. Ladies, if you are here because of “Fifty Shades of Grey” please take time to learn from the community before you approach a Dom. That movie has as much to do with this lifestyle as “Star Wars” has to do with NASA.
I’m not looking for a 24/7 anything, I don’t what a live in. This only a part of my life, it does not define me. We are not commodes, we are unique. This will be a tail we write together, be prepared to participate. I’m a veteran, so I have a military style to my discipline, and respect is a must. That said, I do not adhere to any set protocols. This brings us back to safety. My number one responsibility is to your mental, and physical safety. With honest, open conversation we will build a construct for play. Once established I will take you to the extremes of this agreed upon construct. Of course, together, we can always modify this space. Here’s to the exploration.
One last note: I am single, you must either be single, or have you partner’s approval to play, no cheaters it’s not worth the drama.
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I've been enjoying a spirited exchange with a lady here on Collar. When I rewrote my profile, I was in a Grrrr Mood, and I came across as a bit of an ass. When I reference a military style of discipline, I am not referring to any particular protocol. For me it’s a matter of respect, and that respect flows both ways. She pointed out that my use of the term ‘subject’ was easy to misinterpret. I don’t mean Royal subject, as in ‘you’ are inferior to me even though we have never met. I mean a subject of interest, of fascination. It’s also a subacute for more specific terms like sub, slave, or bottom. You may be a sub but, you not my sub, not yet. I am a Dom but, I am not your Dom, not yet. We are, before anything, human beings, and our labels do not negate that. Thank you for your, service in improving my profile. |
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Starting over after dismissing a subject. |
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