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First things first. I am in a vanilla marriage. Why is a long story, and it's even a love story, love is more than lust or kink. And before you ask, no, she doesn't know about this profile. I don't feel too good about it, but I don't lie awake over it at night either. You (I) only live once and the BDSM pull is strong. No excuses, I am what I am. I am a Dom who adapts to his submissive, in the sense that I have a very broad palet of interests (and fetishes) in BDSM, but not all need to be satisfied at all times. If you feel this makes me a weak Dom, because it's the sub who normally should adapt, then you may have forgotten that a sub is first and foremost a human being, and even if she decides to submit to me, I see no reason for her to have to change her BDSM personality for me. This will not mean I won't look for limits and even stretch those if I feel there is interest and room.
So rather than weakening me as a Dom, I consider it a luxury to be able to play with subs who are only into bondage and humiliation, as well as with subs who are into pain. As much as I am a Dom, I need close contact (mail, sms, and of course let's not forget irl) with my sub. Some say a 'true' Dom makes a sub yearn for him. Well, I also yearn for my sub. When I think of a Dom and a sub in a D/s, the first picture that comes to mind is a picture of 2 coupled machines, a motor and a generator, where the motor drives the generator which in its turn drives the motor (for the techies amongst you, this perpetuum mobile will never work in reality, it's a figment of my imagination !). But the main point to note is that both machines are fully in sync with each other, driving each other, supporting each other; that's the main part to remember. My view on BDSM is that the sub chooses the Dom, not vice versa. Of course, the Dom will be in control once the sub has made her choice, yet always in a supporting way. The hand of the Dom is open and supports the sub. Not too open so she doesn't fall through, not too closed so she doesn't choke. The sub is tied up, degraded, humiliated, whipped, whatever you like, but first and foremost she is being supported in her agony, because the Dom realizes she does it all for him. I don't like riot subs; of course you can tease, but if you submit, I'd like you to submit 'gracefully', because I assume you know what you want and you go for it.
Also, due to my 'situation' I will not claim a sub. That doesn't mean I won't collar you, that doesn't mean my heart is not with you. It simply means that you are free to stay with me, and free to go if you decide you must move on (so, no, you will not be stalked 'afterwards' - nor up front I must say). IRL is nice of course, but I do like online domination also, and some even say I've got talent for that, so who am I to disagree. I try to include humor, sometimes. And though I have an engineering degree, I'm not always smart or clever; sometimes I'm downright stupid, or at least I feel this way. If reading this touched you, feel free to contact/friend me.

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UNOWNEDGIRL2
 
 Age: 19
  California