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| I have found what I am looking for. My old profile is below.
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Domination and submission is about more than just sex. In its purest form Domination and submission represents the natural order of a relationship between a Man and a woman and it maximizes the strength of both.
But it can’t be forced or play acted, it must come naturally to both participants. And when it does come naturally, when the Man is truly Dominant and the woman is truly submissive, it is the most fulfilling emotional, spiritual and sexual relationship possible. When it is forced, it is doomed to failure.
Knowing who is in control and accepting your natural role is both liberating and fulfilling. Those of you have been lucky enough to experience a true D/s relationship know what I am talking about: The complete freedom of full submission. For those of you who haven’t, I feel sorry for you.
I am seeking someone interested in a true D/s relationship, but not 24/7 at this time. If you are a truly submissive woman who seeks a real Dominant man, send me a message and we can get together to see if we desire the same things.
Note that I’m not looking for the following:
I’m not interested in "switches". I don’t understand how someone who is Dominant can also be submissive, but if that’s your thing good luck with it.
I’m not a “Bedroom Dom” who will dominant you in the bedroom but be a beta boy outside. If you are only looking for kink, I am more than willing to play with you if you’re attractive until I find a real submissive, but that’s not what I’m looking for long term.
I am somewhat flexible in the type of body shape I am interested in, because who is fat can vary by the individual. But if your BMI is 30 or over you can be pretty certain that I won’t be interested. Conversely, I’m not interested in women who are too skinny either. I have no desire to caress bones.
If you’re an attention whore who is seeking affirmation of your desirability, there are plenty of wanna-be "Doms" out there who will feed your fragile ego. I have better things to do.
Submission starts in the mind and is only manifested with the body. If you are only interested in the physical act of submission without mentally submitting as well, I’m not interested (although I am open to some play until I find someone else if that's all you're looking for).
I’m not looking for bitches. If you’re a bitch who needs constant drama in her life then go find some wanna-be "Dom" who will put up with your shit.
Lastly, it should go without saying but from experience I know I need to say it anyway. I’m not interested in men, transsexuals, people who are asexual, etc. Only women who were born women and like sex.
So if you are an attractive, submissive woman, who takes care of herself and is truly looking for a Dominant man then feel free to send me a message. I know it is hard for a truly submissive woman to contact a truly Dominant man, so you can keep the message short and sweet and just send a quick "hi" if that is more comfortable for you.
If you have read this far, than know that I have no problem with any of the types of people I mentioned above, I’m just not interested in a relationship with any of them.
I have a natural Dominant personality and know how to cherish the freely given gift of a woman’s submission. I have no desire to force someone to submit to me and no need to play act at being a "Dom". I put that in quotes, because a large majority of the "Doms" I have met in my life are not Dominant, but are instead trying to live out their fantasies of being in control.
I will hit you, call you names, punish you physically and emotionally if so warranted, and push your limits, but I will also hold your hand, sit with my head on your lap as you stroke my hair, talk to you, laugh with you, tell you I love you (also if so warranted). I will expect the best from you and strive to give my best in return.
A true Dominant knows how to cultivate a woman’s naturally submissive side; knows how to accept the submission of her body, heart and soul, and to bring out her happiness in subordinating her desires to a Dominant Man; He knows how to cherish the spirit of her submission and keep it safe; He doesn’t need to force submission on someone, the submission will come naturally if he is naturally Dominant.
I know these things from experience (even though this profile is new, I'm not new to D/s). I have seen the happiness in a woman’s eyes as she is allowed to feel my cum in her mouth. I have seen it in her gratitude for me spanking her ass to punish her for her transgressions. And I have watched a woman orgasm when I praised her by calling her a "good girl".
And even though I start out my profile pointing out that D/s is more than just about sex, sex is almost always an integral part of a D/s relationship. The sexual act is a physical manifestation of a woman’s surrender of her body to another. To allow him to use her body for his satisfaction; to accept his cum inside her; to willingly take the blows to her body; to take a part of him inside her very being in a manner and a time of his choosing; to show her pleasure with her place with orgasm after orgasm.
Note: For many reasons I don't have a picture on this site, but will send one if asked politely.
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I saw a profile today that started out with:
I'm seeking a nice guy for friendship, dating and potentially more.
"Nice Guy" is just another way of saying Beta Loser, or on this site a wannabe "Dom". If you're looking for "Nice Guys" go to eHarmony, not CollarMe. |
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I wasn't feeling well today, so I stayed home from work and was mindless surfing CM (is there any other way to surf CM?). In my random reading of submissives profiles I started to look at some of the "Dom" pictures on their friends list and I couldn't believe what I was looking at most of the time.
These guys are "Doms"? Really? These are the types of guys I chew up and spit out at work. The ones who couldn't carry an argument with the force of their personality if their life depended on it. I see these types of guys all the time out in the world, I can see it in their eyes: They aren't really Dominant, but desperatly want to be. So since they can't be dominant in public when real men are around, they play act at being dominant in private when only a woman is around.
Then there were the ones who screamed "SERIAL KILLER". I feel for the submissives on this site having to navigate through the detritus of "Doms' on here. |
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I noticed today that Pakita had copied the beginning of my profile into a journal entry. It's always nice to know that people appreciate something you have written, although it would have been nice if she had provided proper attribution for my words. |
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I have spoken to many subs during my time here on CM (which is longer than this profile has been around) and I know the crap you have to put up with from all the jerks and assholes who pretend to be “Doms” on this site. I really do. And I know that type of treatment can cause people to get defensive, bitter and even bitchy.
But that attitude is unappealing when vented in your profile. I’m sure it makes you feel good to put it there, and I’m sure it makes some of the trolls go away. But it also drives away people like me who aren’t interested in having a bitter, resentful, bitchy person in our lives.
I’m sure a lot of you are thinking now “But that’s not who I am! If he just got to know me he would see the real me!” Perhaps yes and perhaps no, but the reality is that you will never get the chance to show him who you really are if he passes you by after reading your profile for the first time.
And I’m sure a lot of others are also thinking something along the lines of “I wouldn’t want you anyway”. Let me say, the feeling is mutual. |
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I love reading "Domme" profiles on here. It's so cute the way they try to act all tough. |
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For the love of God, please view your own profile after you modify the colors. Some of the text and background combinations used by subs make my eyes bleed! |
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I used to think that “Financial Domme” just meant “Whore” until the realization hit me that it really means “A smart Whore who doesn’t actually have to have sex”. But then I thought “Can somebody be a Whore without actually having sex?” Which got me thinking about all the “Financial Domme” profiles I have read here on CM and I realized that “Financial Dommes” not only don’t have sex, they usually don’t promise anything tangible in return for the money they are seeking.
That’s when the light bulb went off. Anybody can be a “Financial Domme”! All you have to do is set up a profile, put some fake pictures on it, promise some verbal abuse and maybe some more fake pictures or other things of no value and then...profit! Anybody can do it!
So I’m thinking of becoming a “Financial Domme”. It seems like almost free money. Am I missing something? |
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I always laugh when I see a submissives profile that says something like "Under the protection of “BigScaryOnlineDom”". Really? "BigScaryOnlineDom" is going to somehow protect you from all the internet trolls and wannabe "Doms" out there? What it almost always means is that "BigScaryOnlineDom" is a wannabe himself and play acting at what he thinks a Dom should be like.
I also laugh when I see a submissives profile that talks about how her last "Dom", “BestDomInTheWorld”, was the most awesome thing since sharp stones!!!1!!!1!" Do they really think anybody is going to fall for such a transparent ploy (and yes, I will concede that someone might put something like that on their profile honestly, but that doesn’t detract from the fact that the rest are all transparent falsehoods).
When I see “Under Consideration of “RandomDomNobodyKnows” on a subs profile I usually just smile. That one could mean a wannabe “Dom” who doesn’t know how silly that is, or it could be a submissive who wants to be left alone. And it does serve a purpose in that a real Master/slave relationship should go through a period of evaluation before a slave is fully owned, due to the magnitude of a slave giving up everything about herself to another. |
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It amazes me how many "Doms" on this site think that just because they call themselves a "Dom" they are entitled to respect. And also how they think calling someone demeaning names and acting tough demonstrates their Dominance.
For all those wannabe "Doms" out there who believe those things makes you a Dominant, or for those submissives who haven't had the opportunity to meet a real Dominant, let me tell you something: Someone with a real Dominant personality doesn't need to force respect or submission and doesn't need to demean someone else to make himself feel powerful. Those things are just a natural part of who he is.
Not that a real Dominant won't call you names or demean you, it's that he has enough respect for himself and others not to treat complete strangers disrespectful. For me, it is only when someone has demonstrated their worthiness as a submissive that they deserve to be given the honor of my Dominance. I don’t give anyone that honor automatically. |
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A few people have asked why I am so blunt in my profile regarding what I am looking for. The short answer to that question is that I don’t want to waste my time or anybody else’s time figuring out if we are looking for the same things in life. My time is my most precious commodity and I am only willing to bestow my time and attention on somebody who deserves it. |
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| Age: 34 |
| Utica,
Ohio |
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