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I am looking for a Woman, who in Her life and in Her house has a place for a man doing his best to obey Her, serve Her and please Her. I do not need to know, how I will be treated, will I be spoiled with luxury or kept in a basement chained to a wall, because this is not what is important for me in the relationship.
I am looking for a Woman, who is responsible, self-confident, honest and looking for love underneath the FLR/Ds/Ms relationship. For a Woman missing a supportive man in Her world and willing to fully train him to fulfill Her expectations. For a Woman that I will not only learn to love, but I will also deeply respect. Because, yes, in all of this I am looking for the last love of my life, the love which will last.
I am very proud of the past 40 years of my life, but after fulfilling my dream and finishing my job, I want to leave almost all of it behind. I will be happy to learn another language and change almost all of my habits. Optimally, after serving on trial basis for a year or so, I would hope to become a sub-slave husband-assistant or househusband of a loving, caring, responsible, but at the same time very strict, demanding and (if necessary) ruthless Mistress-Wife-MyLady.
Currently, I can fully relocate on a short notice to any country in EU (I am an EU citizen). If technical issues could be solved (visas, residence permits, etc.), I would be willing to move almost anywhere.
It is often being said, that the former subs and slaves make the best Mistresses and Masters. I think, it also works in the opposite way. I have a lot of experience dominating people, both in my private and professional life, and very little experience submitting to others, but when there is a reason to follow orders, I am usually able to deal with this very well. I know, what I would expect of my perfect slave (and in many aspects those would be different things, depending on a person)... and that I would expect her to long for being dominated in my way, not just the way she expects or wants it to happen. This, I hope, is a good beginning.
Can I take charge, if necessary? I certainly can. Would I want to do so again? Certainly not, unless it is necessary, or the Woman I love deeply longs for it. I know for sure, that I have been constantly dominating for too long, that I crave to finally submit, and that now is the good time for me to get on the other side for the rest of my life.
Its been a long time since I have realized, that at least at any given time one spouse should be in charge and the other should be willingly submitting. In principle it was never important to me, which one was a woman and which was a man, and which part would be mine, but it was just my job, that was forcing me to stay on the dom side. I simply no longer believe in so called partnerships, which lead to constant fights, centering on the issue whose ego, needs and ideas are more important. Which does not mean, that in RL I would not expect my slave to shout Stop, if I was in danger, nor that I would let my Mistress drive a car, if she was drunk.
It needs to be noted, that when I submit, I submit in bed as well. In bedroom this sub/slave worships The Mistress and gives himself away to be used by Her for Her pleasure, possibly (and if allowed) begging to be also pleasured. Which is usually hard to explain and quite amazing even for me, that being quite macho, when I dom, when I am topped, I do not only behave but also perceive the sexual reality in almost a feminine way.
Of course, I do have some hard limits. Scat, CBT, age and medical play, cuckolding, any illegal activities, stepping outside SSC and RACK boundaries, any activities interfering with the life I used to live and being threatened in a way suggesting RL danger are the things, that I would not be able to cope with.
I also have some limits, well justified by my personal history, which currently are not negotiable, but possibly can at least partially go away with time. Those include breathplay, no strings housework, crossdressing, fisting, blood and permanent body marks, polyamory and being openly treated like a sub in male presence. Last, but not least, I find a strong difference between being humbled and being humiliated or ridiculed, with the first of those being fully acceptable, and the second off limits. Did I forget something? If so, tough luck for me...
Do not take me wrong, though. I do not have a lot of BDSM experience. I am watching the scene intensely for more than 30 years, but only rarely I have been able to participate in any direct way, due to privacy issues. As a result I may long for many different things, that I have not been able to experience, but it is not my longings and needs, that I want to matter now. The only thing, that I really need, is Your strong will to mold me into someone, that You can cherish and comfort Yourself with, and Your resolve to correct and punish me as necessary, when I disappoint You by my errors.
To deal with the loose ends of my past life, I need just a few hours on Internet on a weekly base. I have never had any problems with drugs or alcohol. I am a heavy smoker, currently on e-cigs, but willing to accept as a part of contract, that my Mistress can force me at any time to quit (which likely could hard on both of us). I look quite fit, fiftyish at most, but I have some medical problems (a stable, moderate case of fibromyalgia, otherwise I am in surprisingly good health). My retirement is quite decent though, so not being rich by any means I'm still doing alright.
I strongly believe, that to responsibly dom in a 24-7 relationship, a person needs to be in charge of own life, and that includes being in charge of our own bodies. So, if You are a BBW, but You feel fit and in control of Your body, it is fine with me. Scars and disabilities are also the things, that I easily accept, if they are just marks of the past on a strong person, that I respect. If for some reason You decide to send only a short note, that You would want me to reply to, please, mention being in charge of Your life and of Your body. I also do not approve of a need to cause senseless pain to another being, be it a human or animal, but I believe in discipline, which may need to be enforced with punishment (corporal or not), and I believe that any sign of arrogance, disrespect or insubordination needs to be dealt with promptly and decisively.
If I mark Your profile as my favorite, and I do not contact You, it means, that in Your profile I have found at least something, that I like very much, but for some reason I do not think it is likely, that the relationship could work. This may be caused by some difference in our preferences, by my perception that You are not looking for an LTR and a live-in partner, or simply by the fact that You live outside Europe. If You still think, that there is a chance that it could work, please, let me know (writing to me or putting me on Your favorite list).
I hope to find love and to build a lasting relationship. However I know all too well, that people, me including, are quite different during courtship, and different in the day-to-day life. Therefore, I would like to write and chat a bit, then meet for a few days making for example an easy hiking trip (for which I can invite You to places, that I love). If it works for us, I would be ready to commit myself to a 6-12 month long trial, hoping that after this period both of us will be ready to make the final commitment. Please accept, that my full submission will begin, when this trial starts.
I am willing to take this risk, are You ready for it as well?
tinstaafl
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I'm not a military man, but at least from the psychical point of view for almost 30 years my life has been very strongly “militarized” and I communicate well with former soldiers, police officers, firefighters.
What strikes me and what I almost admire is the way, in which in the military the enforced hierarchy coexists in most armies with private freedom and friendship at least between commissioned officers. They can use first names in a pub, they can use first names and be partners behind the closed doors discussing things, because besides being soldiers they are still normal people, but if something doesn't work out it's enough to use a few words to bring back order and hierarchy:
- Bob, I don't think that we should go for it.
- Captain...
- Yes, Sir?
- Let's do it my way.
- Of course, Sir!
The rules that are being used, as I see them, are simple, few and easy to obey, but give a lot of room for maneuver within the hierarchy that they successfully enforce.
The lower rank may or may not be temporarily allowed by the higher rank to behave as equal, at the sole discretion of the higher rank.
The lower rank allowed to behave as equal, finding this situation for any reason to be uncomfortable, can switch back to the formal behavior.
The lower rank may not in any situation and in any way try show his superiority toward the higher rank.
The lower rank may not disobey explicit orders of the higher rank and may not in any way order the higher rank, unless the higher rank gives orders breaking some explicit rules, is incapacitated or unaware of very serious consequences of given orders (did I miss something here?). If something like this happens, as much as possible the lower rank is to show the respect toward the higher rank, and all such incident are subject to thorough review, which may lead to a very serious punishment.
I often see statements, that 7/24/365 is impossible, because RL will inevitably force mixing of the lifestyle and vanilla. I disagree. A soldier is a soldier and is in service, doesn't matter if he is allowed to speak his mind freely, because under the circumstances it's the better way of communicating – or if he is precisely ordered, what to do. And in Rome, for example, slaves which were trusted with the duty to manage properties or businesses, were no less slaves as those who were carrying the owner's lectica.
You can live for a year chained to the wall, but if you believe than you have a right to demand to be released or to try to release yourself – it's not 24/7 TPE, but just a prolonged kinky play. On the other hand, even if for months you are only asked “Do you think, that's a good way to deal with it?” - it can still be the real 24/7, as long as you are constantly aware, that at any time you can be ordered to do something, and then you are just to do, as you were told. Because you are a slave.
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I'm looking for a hard headed woman,
One who will take me for myself,
And if I find my hard headed woman,
I will need nobody else, no, no.
I'm looking for a hard headed woman,
One who will make me do my best,
And if I find my hard headed woman
I know the rest of my life will be blessed - yes, yes, yes.
Cat Stevens, “Hard Headed Woman”
Listen to this song on YouTube
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| Age: 21 |
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