2/14/12 Update ! On the market again ! My basic demeanor is Het-flex Dom, being in total control, and NOT a switch. Occasional DM for Black Rose and 1st Aid, CPR, AED Certified. A Good Man, a Bad Boy. Ex-Army Artillery Captain and have the plan, hunt, kill / move, shoot, communicate mentality. As an ex-military Master Instructor, I define the Mentor/ Teacher and help people explore BDSM. I’m reasonably intelligent and humble. I plan, make lists, am organized, logical, objective, stay in control, am flexible and adaptive, able to read my enemy and know them better than they do, yada yada. Being a Financial VP/ Financial Planner helped me understand people’s wants and needs, what they say and don't say, how to read "body" language, and how to best deliver the goods. With that background and considering my own goals, it's time for me to abandon the conventional roles and labels associated with the BDSM community. I no longer wish to be considered a "Dom", "Master", "Daddy", "Gorean Master", "Task Master", "Mentor", "Friend", "LTR" or any other so-confining single label. I have functioned in all of those roles quite well, and had many relationships that incorporated all the activities that those labels define, crossing over the blurry lines into other “labels". I enjoy and am completely competent in giving my partner pain, if that’s what she wants, to give her love, if that’s what she wants, to give her comfort, whippings, bondage, suspension, knife play, spankings, anal sex, kinky sex, exhibitionism, humiliation, OTK spankings, a ride on my Harley,again, IF that’s what she wants, OR what I am convinced that’s what she really wants or needs without the necessity of her having to verbalize it ( considering CAREFULLY the risks and safe guards that have to be built-into that approach or assumption- duhhhh.). Yes, I really LOVE to ride my Harley and Bourget rigid, too, so the ultimate LTR and/or monogamous partner would be one willing to at least discuss and be open to a "test drive". That IS my long term destination, but I intend to enjoy the scenery along the trip, too. :) Many potential partners are just seeking a Daddy Dom, Dom, Master, or Play Partner only, WHATEVER!! I just can't place those limits on myself anymore, it’s not so much what I do or how I function, it's who I am partnered with. I fully realize that by casting such a wide net I may miss some that would otherwise be interested, but I would rather meet one special woman that understands me and what I have done and offer than to be overwhelmed with choices. If you appreciate my rationale, and would like the opportunity to chat with an enlightened individual that was able to pour out his heart, hopes, and dreams to you in an honest no-BS fashion, and almost without any hidden agendas, then you know what you should do, don’t you ?