Are you looking for a compassionate mature mistress, who cares about you? A mistress who knows where she is going and where you are going? A mistress who will talk things out with you, but still makes the final decision?

I am compassionate, considerate, and know what I want. I do not use corporal punishment. I do engage in pain play with other whom enjoy it, i.e. I can play tenderly or brutally depending on your likes. I can be best be described as a petty sadist not a cruel mistress. I use non-corporal discipline and rewards, rewards such as cuddling, talking, compliments, and just paying attention. I use discipline such as a spray bottle, time outs, corner time, and extra chores.

I am a Buddhist and a psychology student. I have a variety of hobbies; I hope you enjoy watching silent films and reading books along with me. I am poly and do it well. I am a cuddle freak. I am moody at times, but do my best to not take it out on others. And have a strong drive to fix people.

You should be looking for a 24/7 relationship where I control our destiny. You should be willing to work both inside and outside the home. You should be able to handle tasks without being micromanaged. It is best if you enjoy both the vanilla and the fetish scene. I am into leather, lace, corsets, collars and all that standard stuff. I am not into scat, toilet training, infantilism, enema and things that are illegal or will permanent harm another person. I expect politeness, respect, and a sharp wit or at least a good sense of humor. Bratty, sassy, and being a smart ass are all welcome if they are done humorously. If I think you are being sarcastic, argumentative, or passive aggressive you will find yourself disciplined. Ultimately, you have to do what I want because you want to, not because I force you.

I have been in the “scene” for close to ten years. I have local references you can contact on Collar Me. I am a straight shooter, so I will put it out right now that I am a woman and have been so legally and physically for over 10 years. Yes that means I transitioned. No one that knows me thinks I am anything other than a lesbian woman.

Looks, age, race, weight, and most physical and mental disabilities are fine, but be upfront. I am looking for a person not an art object. (That would be nice too mind you.) You must be clean & sober, not gamble, and your debts need to small enough that you can handle them without affecting me. I will hold you to those standards.

Diana (Who is a Countess in her own head)