I am learning both about myself and bdsm practices and relationships. I find I am

submissive in the sense that I love to.be.of service--anything from 

doing chores to giving massages or performing sex acts particularly

gratifying to my partner.  I also enjoy/need the other person to make decisions

about everything from dinner to more intimate matters.  Another element

of my submissiveness has to do with a degree of masochism (spanking etc.) and a desire

to play the role of a woman including dress and getting f....ked.  

I would like to believe that I have a fairly large capacity for 

helping out and making another feel comfortable and valued.  However, 

I also find their are limits to my submissivenees since I have

an strong resistance to persist in any activity I find unpleasant or excessively uncomfortable.

And outside of role playing, which I love, I have no tolerance for

artificially in a relationship with another. In other words, it has

to be natural and mutual.