Wow there are some damn sexy sub males on here. Makes my heart go pitter patter

Wow some people here are ignorant, you do not have the right to demand things from people you don't know. Don't like it, move on. Its not that hard.

This wonderful guide was written by Leslie Jones, I liked it so much I had to share.

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Experienced disciplinarians are familiar with the behavior known as clenching. The person being spanked, caned, or paddled seeks to press his or her buttocks close together in a vain attempt to avoid the pain that is inevitably coming. The dominant finds clenching annoying because it may affect the accuracy of the cane or brush stroke. What's more, the attempt to diminish the impact of the blow is a clear sign of resistance.

There are many ways to deal with this offense—for resistance of any kind must be dealt with firmly by any disciplinarian. The most traditional, and the one preferred especially by teachers and mothers with naughty girls and boys—of whatever age—across their laps is to adjust the number of strokes that will be given. Each time the buttocks are clenched, the naughty one is told that that stroke did not count.

Some prefer to stamp out the resistance by stronger penalties. "Every time you clench that naughty bottom," one woman says, "you will get two more strokes added to your punishment." If the sub who clenches is receiving a spanking, the proper response may be to warn him or her that further clenching will see the punishment stepped up to a caning, or if it is already a caning, then a larger and more severe cane will be used.

Others resort to the scary practice of warning the punishee that any clenching will not only mean the stroke does not count but that the count will return to one and thus the entire punishment will recommence. Some subs have trouble avoiding clenching as a natural reaction and this threat will put them horribly on edge because clever dominatrixes may stop after the penultimate stroke and wait, knowing that a nervous sub may clench, say after stroke 49 of an intended 50-stroke spanking, and thus earn another 50 spanks.

There are yet other imaginative ways to address this problem. Some clenching occurs because the girl or boy is afraid that the person punishing their buttocks is intending to aim between the crack and strike the pudendum or the scrotal sac. Thus they try to close the gap between their legs in a vain effort to avoid such hurtful contact. No disciplinarian who knows how to impose proper punishment would ever strike those parts without intending to do so and one would hope that they would proceed very very carefully because permanent injury is so possible an outcome.

But to take advantage of that fear, the disciplinarian might instruct the punishee to open his or her legs and then proceed to rub an ointment such as oil of wintergreen between the legs, including the man's scrotal sac or the woman's labia. This substance will produce a burning sensation that will not permit the recipient to keep his or her legs closed or to clench. Another similar tactic is to administer a disciplinary enema before punishment. The punishee is required to retain the enema and will focus entirely on controlling his or her anal opening.

I also know some mistresses who have devised a nice solution to the clenching problem. When they punish, they have the submissive stand in a set place where there are straps to fasten the feet into place at the appropriate distance so that it will not be possible for the man or woman so strapped in to move their feet or try to clench.

The most definitive technique probably is use of a leg spreader. The mistress attaches a bar by straps to each calf and positions it between the legs so that clenching or closing the legs is completely impossible. This technique also is quite helpful in applying the pain-pleasure type of discipline that finds the use of a martinet on the bottom, with an occasional strand hitting between the legs, alternated with teasing of the parts between the legs with a feather.

But the classic means of both preventing and stopping clenching during discipline is use of the process of figging. This practice, which was first used with performing animals, consists of insertion of a peeled ginger root rod into the anal opening. The oils will begin slowly to affect the inner lining of the anus and prevent the subject from clenching his or her buttocks. Optimally, the ginger is carved into the shape of a buttplug.

Some writers have mentioned an even more severe practice they have labeled double figging, in which a ginger root is sculpted to fit into the vaginal opening as well as touch the clitoris. This results in exceedingly strong stimulation in both a woman's orifices and will cause some agony as well as prevent her from closing her legs during punishment.

The mere threat of figging also inspires good behavior. Some headmistresses were known for figging all pupils who were to undergo punishment so that there would be no possibility of clenching disturbing the administration of the discipline. In these schools, teachers would prepare the misbehaving pupil to see the headmistress by making the pupil lower her panties or his shorts and bend over, spreading the cheeks, so that the teacher might insert the humiliating and soon-to-be-painful fig.

The last method to be discussed here is merely a delay in punishment each time a punishee offends the disciplinarian by clenching. One young stepmother told her new stepson that she insisted on always "parting the cheeks" when punishing him. She would instruct him to spread his legs and keep them apart. Whenever he disobeyed her instructions, she calmly told him that the stroke of the cane she had just administered would not count. She reported that this improved his attention to her orders.

The imaginative disciplinarian thus has quite a few methods with which to combat clenching. Indeed, this brief survey indicates how much thought and cogitation has characterized the disciplinary regime over many years.

Rules for Submissive MEN. Read this and fell in love. Be prepared

1)He should be shaved. Yes, that's right, his pubic hair should be shaved off and he should keep himself smooth and stubble free from now on. This is none negotiable and should be understood from the beginning.

2)Right after he shaves for the first time, have him sit on the edge of the bed, lie back and pull up his knees. You're going to stick your finger into his ass. Yes, you're going to finger fuck him. You will need a rubber glove and some lubricant, Vaseline, butter, olive oil, whatever. He is going to be extremely embarrassed to present himself to you in this fashion, his anus is a very private spot, not seen or touched by anyone. That is why you're doing this. Once he is in position and holding his cheeks apart, lubricate your middle finger and his asshole and slowly press your finger to his opening. Slowly start to enter him. Look into his eyes as you penetrate him. Talk to him and have him talk to you as you both experience his submissiveness to you and this act of penetration.. Think about what he is allowing you to do, he's naked, shaved and your finger fucking his ass. Pull on his cock and balls as you slide in. Go in as far as you can, slowly. Look into his eyes when you are in all the way and tell him you are in all the way. Ask him how he likes it.. This may be the first time you are inside his body, enjoy the power exchange.

3)He needs a good cock teasing at least once a day. This doesn't mean he's going to have an orgasm, in fact he is not. But he needs to be hard and brought to the edge of an orgasm at least one time a day, either by you, or for you. "For you", means brining himself close to orgasm and stopping. Yes, this means masturbating for you, on demand. Two things here. One, he must learn to tell you he is about ready to orgasm and ask you to stop and he must learn to masturbate for you, and stop. Orgasm control is a powerful psychological aspect for a submissive man, and you too will learn to enjoy your teasing and control. It is another important power exchange with you controlling the single physical aspect of maleness that is maleness alone, a hard cock and orgasm at will. This also means that unsupervised masturbation must end, and he will only orgasm with your permission. Orgasm denial is part of this teasing

4)Nudity, him naked, you dressed. This should be done at awkward times, odd times, whenever you like, when he least expects it. Obviously if you're going to tease his cock, make him strip. Make him strip even if you are not going to tease him. If he doesn't usually sleep naked, he should now. In fact, anytime he is in your bedroom he should be naked. At some point, make sure you bring him to every room in the house naked. Lead him to each room naked, by his cock, the basement, laundry room and garage, all will now hold memories of your control

5)Nudity outside is more problematic, but should be attempted. Start with outside of your home late at night. Be careful to pick a night when you know your neighbors are away. Again, at night put him in the passenger seat of your car and tell him to strip. Put the seat all the way back. Pick some back roads and drive slowly and carefully, and DON'T drink. If you like, a highway may give a glimpse of his nudity to a trucker. He wouldn't like that, you may. Reach over with one hand and keep him hard reminding him not to cum. Don't stay out long, fifteen minutes should be enough. Pick a secluded place where you can stop to allow him to dress so he doesn't interfere with your driving.

A nude beach could also be fun. He will be naked of course and you should be in your swim suit to emphasize his submissiveness. Remember he is shaved, so anyone who sees the two of you walking together knows who's in charge. How embarrassing would a hard on make this? The object here is to be seen by as many as possible, so walk, don't sit in the sun. Well you can sit on the beach and enjoy the sun, but not until everyone has seen him naked.

6)Embarrassment is also part of the fun obviously. Be careful not to embarrass him or yourself in font of friends or co-workers. This must be done carefully and for the fun aspect of your dominance. Ordering wine and his dinner at a restaurant is a simple start, and one he will enjoy. While with friends for drinks or dinner, whisper in his ear, "what do you think they would think knowing you're shaved, knowing I own your orgasms". After his yearly physical ask him if the doctor said anything about his shaving.. If he works out in a gym, ask him if other men are shaved and what they look like, are they big, circumcised, big balls, small balls, compare them to him. If you have one girlfriend you can trust, and you probably don't, arrange an "accidental" flash. Remember, it only appears as an accident to your girlfriend, your guy might not like it but he'll cooperate. He is in gym shorts and a tee shirt and that is it. You can grab him and tickle him in front of your friend, accidentally pulling down his shorts exposing him, then after all the hooting and hollering, pull then all the way down and step on them. He will have to step out and run. Remember, he knows this is coming so he may be hard, and of course he is shaved. You can have a quick laugh with your friend and tell her you better see if he is OK. Go to the bedroom, strip him, grab his cock and lead him back to your girlfriend, saying, "well you have already seen him naked, you may as well get a better look." Doing the same thing in front of a couple would be more than twice as embarrassing.

7) Proving his submissiveness can be tested with the above situation, but should also include most if not all of the list to follow.

You should orgasm much more than he does. That goes without question, his submissiveness definitely translates into you cumming more. You need to teach him how to orally please you better, and as often as you like. I know this may seem odd, but a tongue up your ass will feel great, and he wants to do it for you, so tell him that is now a part of your oral pleasure. Don't worry, you don't' have to do it for him.

Back rubs, foot rubs, leg rubs, body massages, anything you think you might like you should try, and then do as much as you like. He loves every minutes of doing anything for you, especially if he is physically close to you.

Help with house work, yard work and generally being a better partner is assumed. He can also learn to cook with your teaching. He is not your slave, but he can be a more than a 50% partner in the house holds chores you don't like doing. Delegate, delegate, delegate. He will not do things if you don't tell him to do them, and show him how you want them done. He can't read your mind, so tell him when he is doing something wrong, but more importantly tell him when he is doing something right, and ask him to do it again.

It's not all about sex but a lot of his submission is. You need to talk to him and ask him what turns him on or off. Ask him what he expects and wants. Tell him what you expect and want. Keep an open mind and don't freak out if he has some silly fetishes. He is sharing everything with you and no one else, so even if it seems pretty odd or nasty, try it, make him do it, whatever.

There is only one thing that all submissive men must learn to do. You should have this conversation with him in a none sexual environment, so the reality of the requirement is finite, unequivocal and a given. Every time his orgasms, he must consume his ejaculate. That's right, you heard me correctly. If he ejaculates in you he must lick you clean. If he ejaculates on you, he must lick you clean. If you masturbate him or he masturbates for you, you must feed him his semen. At some point you should make him shoot into a cup or a glass and he must drink it down. This requirement for all submissive men does two things. It puts a real price on his orgasms, and it shows your acceptance of your dominance, and his acceptance of your dominance, no matter who brought the topic up. This is none negotiable and should be explained to him when he first approaches you with his desire to be submissive to you or your desire to lead the relationship. If he does not accept this simple requirement, he is not submissive. It is the only test and proof that he is sincere in his desire to be submissive, and your only requirement showing you are to assume the leadership role in the relationship.

There is much, much more of course, but you will discover things along the way. These are just a few suggestions but a good starting point for exploring this new aspect of your relationship. The most important thing is to have fun. If he approached you, he has a need. If you approached him, you have a desire to change the course of your relationship. Either way, if it is done in a loving fashion, it will be fun and bring you closer. So enjoy.

Wondering do people choose to ignore what I say or just that stupid. Either way isn't really good for getting a response

I think a good many people have no idea how to read a profile. Why would i bother writing it if I wanted it ignored. Come on people

Not exactly new here. Have looked around before and didn't have a good experience but willing to try again. Here's hoping