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TheRaven426

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Quick Facts About Me: Updated 7/1/2012

Aliases: Raven, Alexys Age: 26 Hair: Light Brown Eyes: Hazel Height: 5' 8" Location: Charleston Area


First and foremost, I am collared by a Dominant married couple. I am free to seek my One but I am under protection of them both. They are on FL and I am as well under this name.   Fun Facts About Me:

  • I have a standard safe word, 'Red'
  • I am D/D free
  • I am a Non-smoker
  • I have one tattoo on my ankle and have a few piercings. My left ear is done 5 times. My right is done 4. I have my tongue and nipples pierced. I do not plan on getting more piercing.
  • I LOVE anything that has Raspberries and Milk Chocolate in it
  • I have more than one favorite color
  • I'm a Taurus
  • I consider myself a monogamous slut
  • I love anything with penguins on it
  • I don't give up on my friends and expect the same in return
  • I believe quality is better than quantity
  • I love ice cream. My favorite is White Chocolate Raspberry Truffle
  • I consider myself intelligent and articulate
  • My guilty pleasure is a mani/pedi
  • I generally trust people until they give me a reason not to
  • I am fiercely loyal to those that deserve loyalty
  • I like to cuddle after sex
  • My catchphrase is "Punch 'em in the face"
  • I am a pretty decent singer
  • I am a Grammar Nazi
  • I have very high standards for myself
  • I rarely take crap from anyone
  • I give my all in a relationship and expect the same in return
  • I fell in love with Montana but hate snow
  • I am scared to death of Zombies. (stop laughing)
  • I really did want a Hippopotamus for Christmas. (resume laughing)
My interests as far as the lifestyle go are:

 

  • Bondage (in general)
  • Hot Wax
  • Blindfolds
  • The 3 L's: Lace, Lingerie, & Leather
  • Breath Play (interested in exploring more)
  • Violet Wands & TENS
  • Exhibitionism & Voyeurism (curious about)
  • Breast & Nipple Play
  • Mutual masturbation (Well, masturbation in general)
  • Making 'movies'
  • Rough Sex
  • Oral sex
  • Erotic photography
  • Talking dirty
  • Squirting
  • More...?
I'm interested in trying:
  • Shibari and Rigging
  • Age play
  • Lactation
  • Role Play
  • Corset Training

Hard Limits:

  • Underage
  • Scat
  • Golden
  • Vomit
  • Degradation
  • Humiliation
  • Interracial sex
  • Permanent marks (scarring, cutting, or branding)
  • Torture.
These -ARE NOT- open for discussion.

My Story:
I have been involved in the lifestyle since I was 19. I've been active in the local community since 2009. I have grown a lot in the last year. I graduated from College on 5/4/12. I received my first collar on 2/10/12. I've learned about life and explored the lifestyle on a more personal and intimate level. Submission is a part of me, but I am not a slave. I've been called an Alpha Submissive and I think that title suits me pretty well. I don't consider myself a Dominant in any way but I have a dominant personality when the need arises. I need the freedom to express myself fully or I am uncomfortable and unhappy. I don't trust people easily, but when I do, I give everything. I ask the same in return: a legitimate interest in me, not in my ability to submit.
I will gladly submit to a Dominant who respects me for who and what I am. The sexual side of the lifestyle is very attractive but only part of the puzzle. The real joy, lies in the true submission of one's body, mind, soul, and (the hardest one) heart to another person. My next goal in my journey is to learn to trust who I'm with so that I may find that joy.

Disclaimer:
In case you haven't noticed, I'm a big girl. If that bothers you, hit the 'Back' button now. Your approval is NOT needed.

My One:
I'm honestly not sure how to answer that anymore. I apparently have very high expectations. I'm unwilling to settle for something I don't want, which seems to be why I'm single in the first place. But I digress, my One is intelligent, passionate, highly sexual, open-minded, has a job, has a car, has a place to live (preferably alone or with roommates), has excellent family values, morals, and believes in God. I'd prefer someone who is muscular, husky, or bigger than myself in overall muscle mass, I do work out at least twice a week so that would be a plus also, I'd prefer someone at or above 5'8" tall.

6/30/2012 4:08:42 PM
I'm back after a year long hiatus. I doubt this site has changed but it'd be nice to talk to some new people. ~Raven
6/6/2011 4:39:56 AM

If you don't know the difference between 'Dominant' and 'Dominate', you probably won't be taken seriously on this site. If you don't know the difference between "your" and "you're", you probably won't be taken seriously by the world. 

 

It's the difference between: "Let's eat Grampa!" and "Let's eat, Grampa!"

 

Proper grammar saves lives people!

 

Learn it!

5/12/2011 5:43:32 PM

I'm getting pretty tired of this site.  It only seems to be a meat market and there isn't exactly Prime Rib to choose from.  I'm thinking of heading to an actual dating site and trying to find a way to explain my sexual needs to the 'nilla boys of Charleston.

4/12/2011 4:34:08 AM

So... February 7th was the 2 year anniversary of getting my tongue pierced.  So I celebrated and on February 2nd I got my nipples pierced.  Two months later, they are feeling much better and I'm pretty happy with my investment.

11/3/2010 7:02:21 AM

     To those that judge by outward appearance, I feel pity, for they are blind.  Too busy, too ignorant, too unable to see within, to see the spirit, to see the light of ones inner, true self. 

     Those shallow people know not what lies within, nor do they care. And for all their outward looks and material goods, those will age, those will wane.   But one's spirit is forever aglow, forever aflame, as bright the day one passes from this world to wait for the next as it was when it entered.

     To those that cannot see the Raven, and instead see her mask, You have my condolences, and my pity, for you will never truly see what I see.  And you are lesser for it.

11/2/2010 7:37:20 AM

     I've been having some trouble sleeping lately.  I've had lots on my mind as of late, I suppose.  I've been thinking a lot about my past lately, wondering if I'm going down the wrong road.  Perhaps thats why I haven't found my Dom/Master/Daddy/whatever he is. 
     Each day, I check theses sites religiously, go to work or school, come home, & check them again.  Then repeat the process the next day.  Don't get me wrong, I've met some very nice Dominants, and even a few submissives, on here but none that have that something that I'm looking for.
     Perhaps one of my problems is that I don't know what I'm looking for.  Another could be that I'm looking for someone to start a family with and this isn't exactly the ideal forum for that.  

     I couldn't help but get some of my feelings out.  Maybe there are others like me out there?  Wondering if anyone is as real as they claim to be?  Or if there is that one "perfect sub"? Or "perfect Dom"?  There is someone for everyone, right?

10/19/2010 9:34:06 AM

     Many of the people I talk to on here ask me what got me interested in the lifestyle.  Here's my answer:
          I was introduced to BDSM when I was 19.  Back then, I mostly enjoyed being tied up.  As I've expanded my knowledge and through many of the people Ive met, Ive learned that submission isn't just about letting someone have their way with you (as fun as it may be).
          Yes, I still enjoy being tied up but my true submission comes from an intimate understanding of my Dominant and of myself. I love the primal connection that develops and, with time & trust, is nurtured into something incredible.
          One of my favorite things about submissionis the amount of trust that is required to give yourself to someone so completely.  Its a fragile existence though, one that can be easily torn or broken completely.
          I have yet to find someone that I fit with, instead of becoming what another seeks.  Isn't it much easier to do it that way?  I want to be myself, not be what others want or think I should be.  Yes, I know that certain behaviors are trained and modified but I'm not a robot, nor do I seek to become one.
         I want to be loved for who I am not what I can do or who others want me to be.

9/14/2010 7:08:59 PM
Daddy,

Hold me in your arms,
stroke my hair,
kiss the top of my head,
tell me everything's going to be alright and that you'll always be there for me to take care of me...and mean it.

Be gentle with me,
your fingertips barely touching my skin,
yet holding me close and tight.

Let me fall asleep in your arms and know that when I wake up you'll still be there holding me and protecting me.

Yours Forever & Always,

Baby Lexi
 
7/13/2010 2:31:23 PM
Took this quiz and thought the results were interesting.  Though not as accurate as I believe them to be.  I consider myself more a submissive than Switch, though I have done it. 

Experimental   100%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur  93%  Hehe. Who knew?
Switch  82%
Submissive  71%
Bondage   64%
Dominant   46%
Degradation Lover   43%
Masochist   39%
Sadist   36%
Vanilla   14%
7/1/2010 5:15:41 PM
Its taken a long time for me to accept things I can't change.  Its so much easier to embrace it.  Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do something, or that you aren't good enough because the ones that tell you that, don't know shit about you.  Unconditionally love yourself and everything about you. You're the one who has to wake up & look at yourself every morning.  Fuck what everyone else thinks.  Be true to yourself, follow your gut, wish on every star & never stop believing that you can do anything.
5/15/2010 8:26:22 AM
Ive had it up to here with my job SO Ive decided that now is a great time to go back to school.  I'll be taking two classes in the morning and working too.  Hopefully I can do it without getting too burnt out.

UPDATE:
Classes start on the 31st!  This will be the first time since '06 Ive been to school. Im a little nervous...
4/30/2010 9:40:07 AM
If You don't own me, You are not my Master.
 
If I dont have respect for You, which I can't until I know You, You are not even my Sir.

Please don't ask to be addressed as such during our first conversation.
4/16/2010 1:42:23 PM

For those that it interests, I was diagnosed with this a few months ago.  I take medication on a daily basis and see my therapist once a month. ~It normally doesn't interfere with my life~  I feel sharing this information is important and also gives insight into my psychology.

*I know its a lot to read so I highlighted the parts I felt were most signifigant  -or-  feel free to have your laptop accompany you to the bathroom for a good read  *
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior.  This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity.
 
Originally thought to be at the "borderline" of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation.  While less well known than Schizophrenia or Bipolar Disorder (Manic-Depressive Illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2% of adults, mostly young women.
 
There is a high rate of self-injury without suicidal intent, as well as a significant rate of suicide attempts and completed suicide in severe cases.   Patients often need extensive mental health services, and account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations.  Yet, with help, many improve over time and are eventually able to lead productive lives. 


 Symptoms
While a person with depression or bipolar disorder typically endures the same mood for weeks, a person with BPD may experience intense bouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day.  These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse.

Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy. They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are. Such symptoms are most acute when people with BPD feel isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.

People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from great admiration & love, to intense anger and dislike. Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all.
Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.

People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders.

1/4/2010 8:09:04 PM
I added some new photos today from our Kinky New Years Party.  I do believe its safe to say a fun time was had by all :)
rasberrysub
 
 Age: 28
  New Jersey