Let's be honest: D/s lifestyle is ultimately only consensual... anything else is a violation akin to "great evil raping the soul". The tricky part is finding the right person who will be honest with you -- a person who lives deservingly [each day] to be trusted with your heart. Once you find this, if you accept it into your soul: you are responsible for living your life to deserve this [every day]. This is the burdeon I hope to carry one day.

I understand how "in the heat of the moment" it is appealing for people to use filthy language or behavior. Many profiles on this site and others describe submissive/slave/whores/etc as sub-human, worthless, stupid, 'meat' etc.

I want someone who has a sharp intellect, witty, charming, nice. When she is around other people there is a gravity shift toward her light. 

Intelligence is attractive to me. We would push each other to be better... have rewarding conversations or debates about life, sex, kink, submission, what ever. 

The underlying craving still exists -- the needs for trust and safety so they could express their desires for submission and helplessness. Give up to safe strong hands to be gagged humiliated and used for my/our sanctification.

Minds that are richer, broader, resplendent, the much more satisfying to explore and spend time with.

Learning about the substance of your being: exposed, fragile, and submitting to my safe strong will. Below the physical sensations (pain/pleasure) are the more engaging emotional feelings: shame for exposing  your nature to me, satisfaction for knowing you are accepted/loved for your hidden self, fear pushing you to explore your limits, happiness when rewarded with "good girl".

This is a complete person (kink or not).