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The journey of this lifestyle is that of the mind ...a closeness that takes you into areas many people don't dare to explore. Never is there a pleasure so incredible as that of an honest D/s relationship exploring the depths of two people connecting. Possibilities are endless and only limited to imagination, how deeply each is willing to care and respect one another AND demonstrate that caring and respect is of great importance to me.
The world can be frightening or mundane, lonely and filled with stressful responsibilities. Even when one is in a room full of friends and family, the feeling of isolation, boredom and loneliness can occur. But, when healthfully engaged in a lifestyle relationship whether those involved are single, married or even married to other people; to have a truth and honesty so purely cultivated and refined over time is a privileged gift to be honored and cherished....RESPECTED!
It has the ability of transcending the needs, wants and desires for each involved that far exceed even the closest and loved socially acceptable families. Respect for each persons separate lives as well as this very unique and special relationship is also of paramount importance. Understanding of the strengths and weaknesses in both the Dominant and the submissive by each is crucial.
I am far from perfect. You are far from perfect but this is a journey of time and building, of trust in reward and punishment, fun, laughter, sexual experience, fulfillment and creation of fantasy and endless mutual imagination. We are lucky to have an understanding of this lifestyle far beyond the norms of our society. But, we can only achieve this level of fulfillment when both parties care enough to work at it equally, honestly and congruently. Each person must possess this desire.
As most intelligent people within this lifestyle understand, Dominance and submissiveness are a careful balance of power. It is a power that is granted and given freely by a submissive to a gracious and deserving Dominant over time.
Is this ecstasy, intrigue and fulfillment? I believe it can be when both parties are willing to work at it, when both parties have this desire. But, it's crucial that both express and show their caring for one another. Love grows. Needs and privacy must be respected. And, I'm not talking about the marrying kind of love. Although, I know that sometimes between two single people this does happen but I'm not talking about that type of love. I'm talking about a lifestyle bonding kind of love, one that is reached through this type of balance.
Please don't misunderstand. I am not married. .... Maybe you are. For me this is irrelevant. I am not looking for a husband here. I am looking for a relationship where two people use their strengths to bring out the best in each other; to bring out strengths in each other that without one another may go forever unknown or untapped; a relationship where weaknesses are turned to strengths, where love and belief in one another become, over time, unconditional.
I have noticed that many Dominants here are married with spouses they love and cherish and wouldn't hurt for the world. I am not here to marry you. I am not here to break up your marriage.
I am here to try and connect, develop and nurture a loving lifestyle relationship with a person that has the ability and willingness to love and share that love with me, if in fact, we find we have, for lack of a better word, a connection or chemistry.
I am aware I have not spoken of the sexual side, fantasies and fetishes involved in this lifestyle. The fact that I am writing here, I believe this is understood and compatibility in this area can be addressed in private.
Although I am a private person about my engagement in this lifestyle, I am not ashamed of it. In fact, my family and close friends are well aware of it. But, just to let you know, publicly, I am not an exhibitionist. My business is MY business and eventually becoming OUR business.
Some people may think some of my actions are immoral or socially unacceptable but in no way are they illegal, dangerous or hurtful.
I don't care if you're single or married, if your family knows or doesn't know. I want to know of your private life because I care and I will forever be trustworthy of any secrets you might share.
In the past I have had both Dominants and submissives that are both married and single. In almost 20 years in this lifestyle I have NEVER betrayed a trust. I have never ended a relationship on bad terms or hurt any relationships my partners may have had or still have. For those of you who may want proof, when and if the time is right, I am sure my last Dominant and my last submissive will attest to this in my behalf as I am still friends with both and have known both for many years. However, over time, you will also find out for yourself.
Although I will continue to respond to all who write to me, it would be appreciated if those of you who are only looking for a "roll in the hay," or "a doormat," or looking "to abuse someone or be abused," or "looking to be a doormat", please not respond. I believe it's time for me to broaden my quest with the addition of a kind compassionate, intelligent Dominant and/or submissive man and/or woman. If you are a Dominant, I do require you have knowledge of human anatomy or at the very least willing to learn. In my mind, it is a very important safety precaution.
If you are a kind, mindful and intelligent but firm Dominant or submissive (minus the firm): someone who can be called by his or her first name and still be confident in the role you choose to possess, or the role, maybe you were intrinsically born with, that to which you are most comfortable; if you are strong enough to be mindful of this please feel comfortable sending me a message explaining your interest in joining me. Apples or oranges, it makes no difference. Fruit which has ripened is delicious and healthy no matter which one it may be!
I find, in my life there are times I must be Dominant. There are times I must be submissive. However, although I enjoy both and experience great satisfaction exhibiting both; and although, I have proven to be a Dominant personality for most of the events in my life, my true nature lies in my submissive side (for those of you who may be interested).
And please, I ask respectfully, those of you who do not believe that a human being possesses both a Dominant and a submissive side as I do, please do not send nasty messages. Life is amazing with it's complexities and simplicities. We live in a country where we have free thought and speech. And, my thought process does not threaten you. I simply want to be the best I can be and help those partners who share a connection with me to do the same.
We only live once. Life should be fun and exciting. Love should be shared as it is infinite.
One other request. Please be local as I am VERY REAL! I have no desire to play computer sex games (FYI: Some of my personal information has been slightly altered-but only slightly to help keep me safe during this search. Where I have altered it, should not effect your assessment). If you are not looking for a real time relationship, PLEASE move on. IF you are, and we meet, you will find out the entire truth.
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