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| I have recently updated this significantly. I have moved south. You should consider reading this entire profile before you come to any conclusion despite it being quite long. First, and foremost, I am a Dom for females or couples, not for males or transgenders. I am not looking for a life-partner because I have one. Mostly I want to talk and give advice and listen and then be dominant if we align. I have found that many subs don't understand the kind of Dom that I am and have been. I am older and very experienced, so those hung up on youth can stop reading here and move on. I have many years (more than 20 years) of experience in the D/s lifestyle as a Dom with several different submissive women over time. When a submissive's needs align with my needs, I am very good at what I do. I recently saw a definition of three types of Dominants. The one that applied most was the "democratic Dom". I think it fits me pretty well because it means that my subs have wanted to submit because of how they feel about submission and me, not because of any external force/pressure. Many of my ex-subs are still my very good friends even though we have ended our D/s relationship. As you read this, I hope you discover I write reasonably well. I have never been a submissive myself as it is not in my nature and thus I am not a switch. I am not at all sadistic (or masochistic) and get no pleasure from giving pain to a sub that isn't submission oriented and completely in line with the levels she wants and actively seeks. I seek regular communication with a woman who is submissive. I don't humiliate a sub, just control her. I don't need to put her down to elevate myself. I do like spanking, bondage for control, and verbally controlling my sub but don't believe in unwanted force in D/s in any way and see that as "abuse". I believe in, require, and accept limits, so I am in the Domination/submission (hence, D/s) lifestyle, not the Master/slave lifestyle where the slave gets no say in what is happening. I have read many of the books of Gor and I don't align with the Gorean lifestyle. I want to establish an online relationship as a beginning rather than seeking to move quickly to meetings. I cannot say I particularly like the very temporary collar (some call it a velcro collar) though I have seen from experience that sometimes the extreme submissive needs to start there. We must both develop trust in each other before meetings would even be considered. We will chat online, and at some point, although your looks are secondary, you will need to have a webcam and when we have established the right trust relationship, I will utilize my webcam too. I will say that I am not considered ugly, mean, or uncaring. So, if you are a submissive who wants to learn or has learned and wants some safe discussion, not a life-partner, then we should talk. For that matter, if you read this far, you might want to talk anyway. Reach out to me, but don't be a "pro" looking to get paid for something. Yes, I am married, but not "a cheater" because I am not hiding my relationships from my wife. She doesn't participate, but she knows what I do and she won't, as I recently read in a sub's profile, "be pounding on your door". I have been away from the lifestyle for awhile for a variety of reasons, but will come here from time to time to see if anyone is interested enough to chat some. Send me a note thorough the site if you would like to open the door just a little bit to see if there is anything that interests you. What would it hurt to chat?
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