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I'm picky, you're picky and no one should settle.
So how about this: I know my job and I own up to it. My job is to pay for dinner unless you say otherwise. My job is to fill your tub up with water, bubbles, and that favorite ducky you have in the tub. It's not to walk around with my head up my ass staring at a wall until you give me a command. Also, when you say , "I want to [verb here] to [insert place] and [activity here]." I will say let's do it with a big fat smile on my face. Yet, I must also know when you want me to decide what we will do because you don't care. How should I know this? It doesn't matter that's my job as a submissive man.
I will also make you feel safe. If we are sleeping together and all of the sudden a sound of broken glass makes its way into the bedroom. I will assume that a bad man is there and wants to rape you. So, I will get up, get my gun, and take him out (but not for dinner). Yet I need to know when to be cool and aloof most of the time when you are just engaged in friendly flirting. I will not feel threatened when guys stare at you, not be jealous when they flirt, and not be insecure when you flirt back. I'll just relax and enjoy your happiness.
Additionally, I will use my sexual psychic powers, when you need me to lick you like the animal I am. My tongue will get tired but I will find away to keep licking. Or, when you need gentle love like what you saw in that romantic movie you watched. I need to also magically know when you want it quick and urgent and when you want it to take all night. And when you scream the very painful words "fuck me harder," even whilst I am fucking as hard as I can and running out of breath, I will fuck you harder. Yes, it is tough, but it is my job, I accept it.
It is also my job to be your bitch and entertaining yet slightly arrogant, sarcastic, and ambiguous. Don't ask me how either. But, I can do it. That can't be taught by the way. God forbid you should be able to figure me out entirely or lose respect for me. Your boredom means the end of good sex, orgasm and eventually the relationship. Or, an ear fool of whining and nagging. I realize that. I accept that. I have to be your clown, yet keep your respect.
And, I should do as told, to listen, to be a shoulder to lean on, and to be a ear for you to vent at. Yet, I have to do all of this without ever making you feel that I am more sensitive than you. If I cross that line, you will run from me and say I am too nice. Yet, I can't be a doormat. If you are expecting me to lift a truck with my pinky because you told me to then I have to being willing to stand up for myself and say " I can't pick that truck up with my pinky." Again, that's fine with me. I know the line, and I will walk on the right side of it.
Lastly, when a tragedy occurs that you may not be able to handle in that moment, I will drop everything that I am doing and help manage the situation. Sure, you can do it yourself - you're an independent women. I am not suggesting you lack the skill set here. I am only insinuating that when tragedy goes down, and you are in need of help; I will be there to take care of it.
Now in exchange for me doing my job well and keeping our relationship alive and healthy, you will have to do your part too. If one of us fails to perform his/her role, the arrangement crumbles and I become a prick and/or you become a nagging bitch. I know. I have seen it on TV, the mall, in restaurants etc. It's all around us.
Before I began, I know you wear the pants in the relationship, but you still have responsibilities.
How does a normal women have a relationship with a guy? They might play the "what do you want for dinner " game until I guess the place they want to eat: If that's you then you are not for me. If you think talking to me in that high pitched cute "would you please do this for me" voice: then you are not for me. I have met that girl already: she bores me. I do not want the above women, but a women that is demanding, assertive, confident, and intelligent.
Be sexy! A beautiful and wonderful domme will take care of herself physically and emotionally. She will manage aspects of herself that are in her control. Meaning, exercising and eating healthy, putting on some make up (there is such thing as too much), learning new skills and hobbies, and reading. Now, it may not be realistic to be sexy 24/7, but it is important to be sexy when around people that WE know. I am not saying dress up in leather all day long, I am only implying that you figure out where/what and how to create your sexiness and make sure I want it. Sure, there will be off-days, days of exhaustion and you cannot be sexy.
That's ok - be real - I will still love you. I just ask to manage and control the things that you can control.
Not Sexy:
Unsexy #1 : Always wearing a seamless sports bra
Unsexy #2: Photos of cramming food ( I.e. cookies or alcoholic beverages). Or photos with mouth gaping open as if wasted and screaming at a party.
Unsexy #3: Poofy pajamas that a 4 yr old girl wears at her pajama party.
I do not want to even get the slightest impression that we are thinking "We have each other now, nothing matters anymore." I will promise to work-out regularly, keep my cholesterol low, dress well, pluck my ear hairs, shave in several places, and not to wear my dirty sweat pants. Try to maintain yourself as well!
I don't care about shortness or tallness, having huge breasts or no breasts, brown hair or red hair, enormous feet or a funny nose (my nose is huge) - there is little control over what we were given. So I don't judge those things. I just ask you to take care of what is yours to take care of. We have a deal. I will do my part, so do yours. Keep in mind, I am not asking for you to look like the Olsen twins. I want to say to people that I have a HEALTHY domme/girl friend. Just like you would like to say that about me.
The other jobs are more important. Be the nurturer and have us communicate what is bothering us. Though I am a sub, I am still a man. If I am down and not feeling so great, help rebuild me. Read self-help books or ask advice from other women on how to do those things. As the smart and independent domme that you are, help make sure that we communicate and help each other. I need that, and I will respect you for it.
A huge pet peeve of mine is the type of domme that feels like she needs to do nothing to help the relationship. Help around the house for instance if we move in together. Sure, you will choose what work I will do. That's fine. But don't think I will work my 7-8 job to come home and cook, clean, and etc while you watch the Jetsons on Nick at Night. Remember, if I am still expected to open doors, fuck you like the world is ending, be strong, buy nice things when I can, make money, jump in front of a lion so you can get away, then I need you to take initiative as well. Help us be successful. No one gets it both ways. Don't get offended because men use to oppress women according to the college professors. Or, that because you are domme you sit and do nothing while I slowly become the next Jack Nicholson from the Shining.
If you (the domme) do these things then I (the subby pup) will do my job. Such as when the guy is shooting at us I will take the bullet; when the car is wrecked - it will get fixed; when you're sick and about to turn into a zombie, I will carry you to the hospital, and when the heater doesn't work, I will chop wood. But believe me, if you refuse to do your part you can turn into a zombie with a bullet wound while it's colder than hell- because I will have left you.
If you are interested in your job as I am interested in mine - then please write me. Maybe we can negotiate something. Until I hear from you, I will be here earning and saving money for our future. I am open to discussing the terms because there is an IDEAL then there is reality.
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I did have a prior Profile, but I was having issues updating it. So, I decided to delete it and create a new one.
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