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A good dominant needs a submissive to feel whole, not to feel powerful.  

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Ask not what you can do for your Dom, ask what He can do for you!

I find it kind of odd that so many on this site only talk about what they want.  “I want a slave who will cook, clean and give me 27 blowjobs a day!”  Okay, that doesn’t sound so bad, but every so-called dominant wants that, right?  What’s even more surprising to me is how few submissives seem to have thought through what they want/need from a dominant.  They know its something.  They know the way they feel with a dominant man but so few have thought through what exactly it is they get from a D/s relationship.

Crazy concept, huh?  A submissive GETTING something from a D/s relationship!  If you’re looking for abject slavery and inhumane treatment, this place is a veritable smorgasbord and finding a domineering man to abuse, mistreat and dehumanize you should be as easy as can be.  However, if you’re looking for something a bit more substantial then that then yes, a submissive should GET something from the relationship.  This life is so much more than the fetishes.  It’s, at it’s best, a symbiotic relationship.  A submissive looks to serve, to please and to obey and the dominant partner (yes, partner!) needs and craves and wants that from a woman.  But what does she get in return?  Many seek structure and stability.  Some want to be accountable.  Some want to lead a more disciplined life.  Some want safety.  Many want to be made to feel small in the very best of ways.  So many quote Marilyn Monroe in her famous statement about not wanting to be a leader.  They want to be a follower and want someone they can admire and respect to follow.

In this lifestyle so often we talk about what we’ll do in terms of sex and fetish and those are fun conversations to have.  In the greater scheme of things though, it’s important to think about what you want and if you don’t know, if you can’t state it when a dominant asks you, then how will he ever give you all you need as the balance to your service and submission?

Perhaps much of it just goes without saying?  It does.  A natural dominant man is the kind of person who has the traits that a natural submissive will bond to and appreciate and vice versa.  It just seems odd that we’re all so willing to talk about what parts we’re willing to put where and how we’ll use various toys and implements but those deeper, more meaningful conversations either don’t take place, or do only much later.  Considering the amount of trust this lifestyle requires, that may be it’s greatest paradox.     

Have you thought about what you're seeking or are you just here hoping to be found?

If you say you want to surrender, have you thought about WHAT exactly you want to surrender?  Have you thought about what you don't want to surrender, but hope to have taken from you?  Do you know what you can't give up?  

Are you participating in the process of finding what you want or are you just hoping it'll somehow just find you?       

That's all you wanted, something special,

Someone sacred in your life

Just for one moment, to be warm and naked

At my side

Sometimes I think that you'll never understand me

But something tells me together, we'd be happy

I will be your father figure

Put your tiny hand in mine

 
I will be your preacher teacher

Anything you have in mind

I will be your father figure

I have had enough of crime

I will be the one who loves you

till the end of time

-George Michael, Father Figure

As I’ve stated in a previous post here, I rarely make first contact with a potential.  If I go view your full profile, there’s a good chance my interest in you has been piqued, but unless I’m in the mood, I’m not going to email you.

And so, in response to that post, many times the question I receive is WHY?  Fair enough.  Here is my answer:

In every other aspect of this life it’s the submissive who initially approaches the Dominant (male sub, female Domme; gay sub, gay Dom, les sub, les Domme) for the most part—there are exceptions of course, but that’s the way it typically happens.  It doesn’t with female subs and male Dominants because many of the male Dominants on this site are predators, are misogynists, are looking for nothing more than a maid who gives blowjobs.  I consider myself better than that.  I think I demonstrate in my profile blurb that I’m a bit deeper than that and so I simply demand the same level of respect that the others do.

I’m not a predator (well, only in the good ways).  I’m not like the others.  If you read my profile and you’re smart, you should know that and if you want something real, then you should take a moment and write me—I’ll always reply.  It’s really that simple.

I know that a woman likes to be pursued and I’m perfectly comfortable pursing a woman and making her mine, but….and it’s a big BUT, you must present yourself to me first.

There it is.  The answer to your question.  Be well.