By day I'm a mild mannered accountant who lives the quiet life in the burbs. �Works for a charity, and volunteers for others. �I enjoy reading, movies and almost anything outdoors...but by night I'm looking for someone who isn't afraid of the dark ;)
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Am currently in an open vanilla relationship.� I am looking for a partner who is looking for, enjoys and enables the dominant in a relationship for many kink adventures. �So I have made a decision �to find a willing sub who is perhaps in the same position, or maybe just looking to find a dom who is nurturing and firm. I'm not looking to be part of the 'scene' or go to events, but rather simply a r/l and/or an online relationship.
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I also have been a daddy Dom but this is not essential to my d/s relationships.
So would love to chat with any subs who are looking for a more valued experience, or learning and just want some initial fun :) with the hope that I'll eventually find one for a longer term relationship.
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So message now :) x
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ok, for the serious kink stuff for those wishing to know more: As a dom I believe that the power exchange in a d/s relationship is mutual. �Many doms i've spoken with say that, but their actions within a kink relationship or session don't match what they say. �The power exchange is given from the sub to the dom, but also from dom to the sub. �The sub has power in the relationship more so than most dom's give them credit for and that power can at times be greater than the dom - i don't mean that they switch or occasional fight for 'top', what I mean is that a dom can�demonstrate�respect, nurture and care that enables the sub to completely�abandon�themselves to the experience and growth inherit in bdsm such that they give power to the sub over their dominance through the dom's desire to bring about a more fully complete submissive nature within the sub. �Their is a transference and counter-transference that occurs that is mutual and necessary and cannot be achieved where the dom simply makes demands simply because of his 'position' or 'title'.
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Having said that my chosen vehicle is always the exploration of the divide between pleasure and pain. �Nothing new in that statement, but rather than deprivation or long term slavery - I'm interested in the giving of pain and pleasure in increasing amounts to�heighten�a sub's experience and push boundaries to greater development. �I'm interested in humiliation and service, and outside of direct sessions a sub that is open to direction and control beyond just the 'bedroom'
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4/28/2013 3:31:08 PM
29/4/2013: Home alone today and tomorrow renovating my house and looking to see if anyone wants to give me a 'hand' hehe...or maybe just chat while I've got a few days off :)
