A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.I am dominated by one thing, an irresistible, burning attraction towards the abstract.Love does not dominate it cultivates We often speak of love when we really should be speaking of the drive to dominate or to master, so as to confirm ourselves as active agents, in control of our own destinies and worthy of respect from others.The system of domination is founded on depriving people of their true identity.The strongest and most effective force in guaranteeing the long-term maintenance of power is not violence in all the forms deployed by the dominant to control the dominated, but consent in all the forms in which the dominated acquiesce in their own domination. It seeks to deprive people of their identity, self-confidence and in this way dominate them. "Any Institutions using this site of any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this."
3/27/2012 2:08:01 PM
pride in ownership doesnt only apply to material things it extend into more personal areas of your life I take pride in many personal things such as being an honest man a good dom and a engagedcitizen
6/17/2011 12:36:42 AM
Have you ever loved a woman until milk leaked from her, as though she had just given birth to love itself, and now must feed it or burst? Have you ever tasted a woman, until she believed that she could be satisfied, only by consuming the tongue that devoured her? Have you ever loved a woman so completely, that the sound of your voice in her ear, could cause her body to shudder, and explode with such intense pleasure, that only weeping could bring her full release? I want to love a women this way .
5/19/2010 9:25:07 PM
OK OK
I am posting the new revised rules still think it need some work let me know what you think >>
1. I willserve, obey and please
my Master.
2.Above all else my
primary focus shall be to please my Master, hoping that He finds me pleasing in
all that I do, whether I am in His presence or not. My Master knows of my
potential, learning more about me each day I am with Him. He trusts that I will
act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential - He knows what is
best for me.
3. I worship my
Master.
4. I worship my
Master's body.
5. The power of my
Master fills me with awe. Just the sheer thought of Him or the hearing of His
voice gives me strength.
6. To receive pleasure
I must earn it.
7. I worship my
Master's whip.
8. I trust my Master:
His responsibilities, His skills, His hunger and needs, and His concern for my
safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
9. I am nothing more
than an object of great value - an instrument my Master will use to draw out
His pleasures.
10. I will ask my
Master for permission to satisfy whatever need I have before acting on it.
11. My body and mind
are the property of my Master.
12. I must always give
thanks to my Master for all I am given immediately after receiving what He has
given me, for such things as gifts or privileges are granted to me by Him.
13. I must be both
specific and explicit in my speech.
14. I will not
hesitate when responding to my Master. My focus is important to my growth.
15. I will thank my
Master for the discipline and punishments I receive.
16. I have no will of
my own other than that which falls within the context of the rules I have
selected.
17. I am always in
submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at
anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be
present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important
and satisfying than any other pursuit. I trust my Master will keep me safe,
protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others.
18. All my choices
shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Master.
19. When I am not in
the presence of my Master and I have choices to make - I will perform them to
the best of my abilities and within the boundaries and guidance He has allowed
me.
20. I shall wear the
collar my Master gives me with pride for it signifies His ownership of me and
my devotion to Him.
21. I shall wear the
chains my Master gives me as a symbol of my position in life - that of bondage
to Him.
22. When I am ready -
I shall wear His ring to signify my submission to Him.
23. My mouth shall
only be referred to as a cunt for it will often be used as if it were a pussy.
24. My sex shall only
be referred to as a pussy.
25. When the cock of
my Master is put into my cunt and I am directed to suck it - I will do so
vigorously as long as I am required to do so. My hands shall be placed on the
tops of my thighs, behind my neck or held at the base of my back so that during
the sucking I can use my whole body to display my hunger to my Master.
26. My Master's cum
must never go to waste.
27. I worship my
Master's cock, especially when it is hard or when I am given the opportunity to
make it hard for Him.
28. I will worship my
Master's ass only after a thorough washing of it.
29. I will never look
into the eyes of my Master without his permission.
30. I honor the
position of my Master and it is important that I am not distracted in my
submission to Him.
31. I am to focus on
my behavior, waiting to act appropriately and without hesitation when directed
to do so by Him.
32. I must always wear
revealing and sexy clothing of good taste around my Master unless given
permission to do so otherwise. The clothing will emphasize and often exaggerate
my assets. How I present my body to Him or in front of others is more important
than my discomfort and insecurities.
33. When others show
an interest in what I am wearing I must ask them if they would like to see more
and then gladly show them what they would like to see - but only after I have
received permission from my Master - for I trust my Master's judgment that such
a display is not only reasonable but is safe to do.
34. I must remove all
of my clothing in the way I have been taught when Master commands of me to do
so - regardless of who may be present and despite where it is I.
35. When I remove
clothing from my body it must be folded neatly and placed in a small pile in
front of me just ahead of my feet or my knees if I should be required to be in
my kneeling position after unclothing myself.
36. My basic attire in
the presence of my Master shall consist of my collar.
37. My legs, underarms
and pussy must be kept completely shaved smooth and clean so that nothing of me
is hidden from view.
38. It is important to
Master that I appear not just attractive, but alluring and desirable.
39. Whenever I need to
pick something up or receive something from Him I must do so wherever possible
by going into a kneeling position to show that I am honored to do so. I will
perform this motion according to how Master has taught me.
40. My pussy and ass
must be thoroughly washed and of a good aroma at all times, if even perfumed,
but especially before serving my Master.
41. My
"place" is on my knees before my Master, for it is a privilege and
honor to be His slave.
42. When in the
presence of my Master, but not in use, I will go to the place He has selected
until I am needed by Him.
43. My greatest
satisfaction is realized when I know I have pleased my Master.
44. There can be no
greater pain or suffering than when Master is not pleased with me.
45. My submission is a
natural inborn feeling. He shall manage and control His Own natural state,
bonding me tightly to Him, His needs with mine. My submission to such a Master
allows for me to feel more aware and alive inside and out, bringing me to a
feeling we both cherish.
46. I fear no other
power, for my Master is always with me.
47. I will not
hesitate in my obedience to my Master.
48. Whenever Master
speaks, even when I am speaking, I am to immediately become silent so I may be
able to listen intensely to what He has to say. I must never interrupt Him
unless I need to.
49. The opportunity to
please my Master is very important to me and I will take every chance to seek
out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance
to how I have been taught or allowed to do so.
50. I choose willingly
to be treated as my Master's property - as long as such treatment is safe and
legal.
51. When Master feels
I am ready and our relationship has progressed to a lifelong commitment, I
shall be specially prepared to receive His unique and permanent mark of
ownership upon my flesh, in a place of His choosing, whether it be a piercing,
a tattoo or a branding. Thereafter, I shall become His property and slave in
the most strict sense - completely His for as long as the relationship
continues to be managed and controlled in the manner in which is beneficial to
each of us and in accordance with our mutually shared natures.
52. I am my Master's
greatest treasure.
53. I will learn all
the positions my Master wants to teach me to the best of my abilities and will be
prepared to take such positions when required and to display myself in a manner
through them that He, and others who may be present, will find most pleasing.
54. The safeword can
be spoken at any time-even when I have been told to be silent. If I am not able
to verbalize it – I will give a predetermined hand signal.
55. The safeword
cannot be used when I am being punished. I must remember that punishment could
never be effective if I were able to control.
56. I must confess to
my Master when I have been naughty so that He may decide if such violations
require me to be disciplined or to be punished.
57. I realize Master
may own more than one slave, if He so chooses, and that I, unless allowed by
Him, may never be able to have another Master other than Him, accept by His
choosing to further my training. I trust Master will take whatever precautions
are necessary to keep the slaves He chooses to own sexually healthy and to
provide whatever measures are necessary to protect us from the eruptions and
ravages of any jealously which may try to corrupt the relationships our Master
has allowed between each of us - including the one we each have with Him.
58. I must never be
concerned when I feel too much of my flesh is showing, in private or in the
general public - however, I can ask my Master for permission as to how to
handle my discomfort.
59. My Master will
decide what my sexual orientation shall be.
60. Pain and pleasure
shall be with me always for the contrast strengthens me to behave in the manner
my Master expects of me.
61. My limits have to
be respected yet I trust my Master to take me past them when He knows that I
am.
62. I have much to
learn in order to become a well-trained and well-behaved slave.
63. I will endure
whatever discipline or punishment my Master gives me so I can become a better
slave for Him.
64. Through discipline
and punishment I shall learn to behave.
65. In bondage I am
made free.
66. Only through
submission can I find my true self.
67. My life is empty
without a Master to please.
68. I shall never
think of myself as a weak person for it takes a strong female to commit to obey
and to please a Master.
70. I will give all
that I am to my Master in order to become free.
71. I must never show
disrespect towards my Master in any way – no matter where i am - in his
presence or not.
72. Crying and the
shedding of tears at any time is good and expected for it softens my will and
bonds me closer to my Master.
73. Only in complete
submission to my Master shall I realize the depth of the love I have for Him.
74. The needs of my
Master must always come first before my own for they offer an opportunity to
please Him.
75. I must be
attentive to the needs of my Master and always be ready to respond to the best
of my.
76. I am allowed to
suggest ways to further my training or use of me, verbally or through my
journal.
77. I must always
respond to whatever my Master does with me. The expressions of my emotions and
my physical responses are important to Him. I must never hold back any part of
their display, regardless of how intense they may be, unless restricted to do
so.
78. I must always
remember how pleased my Master is when others delight in my sexiness as a
result of my ability to show off my assets.
79. My behavior must
always display a sexual content however subtle.
80. The only clothing
I will buy and wear will be those items which my Master would find pleasing to
Him.
81. I may offer
various parts of my body to my Master in hopes He will take pleasure in using
them in whatever ways He wishes.
82. I want to be of a
healthy and sound mind and body, free as possible of any personal limitations,
in order to please my Master.
83. I will remove my
clothing immediately after entering my household putting my collar on first.
84. I will always
sleep nude - kneeling first before I enter my bed - for it is a great privilege
to have a bed to sleep on.
85. I must never
tighten my body when it is being whipped, caned, cropped, slapped, paddled,
belted, strapped, spanked, bullwhipped, signal whipped, or anally or vaginally
pumped. My Master likes it when my flesh jiggles and He knows that when I
tighten my body it hurts more and inhibits my ability to display my expressions
and emotions.
86. I am proud to wear
upon my body the marks given to me by my Master.
87. I will always
listen to my Master during my training.
88. When standing
still I shall do so with my feet and legs together, my hands held behind my
back and my head bowed down. I will remain silent in the way Master has taught
me.
89. Until Master has
chosen it is time for me to wear a more permanent mark of ownership upon my
flesh, i shall proudly wear His temporary mark of ownership upon me wherever He
chooses to place it.
90. I will not speak
to other playmates online without my Master's permission except to say to them
that they will have to speak to my Master first. This is especially important.
91. I shall learn to
the endure the whippings Master gives me by using the technique of saying 'YES'
through each of His strike brought down upon my flesh.
92. I shall gladly
make my body available to my Master to be used as furniture.
93. Privacy is a
privilege - even to have it when I need to use the bathroom
94. As a helper slave
I shall assist my Master in the setting of a scene or in the training and use of
other slaves.
95. I am free to leave
my Master at any time without the fear of permanently losing Him as my
boyfriend/husband.
96. At the beginning
of my relationship with my Master I shall present to Him three names for Him to
decide upon as to which one will be my slave name. I know that He does not have
to choose any of them and that He can choose one of His own for me to be known
by. Thereafter, when someone asks who I am I can respond by introducing myself
in the following manner: "I am slave [slavename], property of Master
John."
97. I will
periodically examine my whole life and look for how it has changed as a result
of my relationship to my Master. I will speak to my Master about those areas
where there have been improvements and those areas where I feel uncomfortable,
insecure, or unsure of what direction I should take, how I should behave, or
how I can behave in a manner that is different than how I have been behaving in
the past.
98. I want to suffer
for my Master in ways that please Him and that are safe for me to do so.
99. I will not be
passive in serving my Master. I will aggressively participate in my exchange
with Him.
100. If I am sent to
another Master to serve I will serve that Master well, as if He were my Master,
for I want my Master to receive a good report after I have been returned to
Him.
101. I will not date
others or form a relationship with others without permission and approval from
my Master. If I should have sex with others I will have it safely and will
always tell my Master in detail what I have done so that no part of me is a
secret and that I am laid bare for his inspection and approval.
102. The money I earn,
should I be allowed a career, or put to work, where I am paid for my
responsibilities, is mine to keep
103. If I am wearing a
dress or skirt and no panties and I am going to sit down and do so gracefully
whether I am in private or in public.
104. When I wear nylons I
will wear them only with garters and high heels. I will never wear panty hose.
105. When I am in the
presence of my Master and I am free to move about I will do so in seductive and
enticing ways.
4/16/2010 5:19:12 PM
Cooperation
“In everyone's life, at some time, our inner
fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human
being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner
spirit.”
“If you want to be incrementally better: Be
competitive. If you want to be exponentially better: Be cooperative.”
-Anon
“A hundred times every day I remind myself
that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other men, living and
dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I
have received and am still receiving.”
-Albert Einstein
Cooperation
is defined as the process of working together to the same end and it is also
defined as an assistance, especially by ready compliance with requests.
Teamwork is the most common practice of cooperation, where multiple players all
have their own part to play in bringing the collective whole to victory. It
relies on all players knowing which role is theirs and precisely what
responsibilities that entails; a quarterback cannot be a defensive linebacker.
In any
lasting relationship there are compromises, which must be made, each person in
the partnership giving and taking so that the mutual goal is achieved. A sado
masochistic relationship, with its constant balance of power between dominant
and submissive, is an ideal example of cooperation within a committed and
loving relationship.
Such a
partnership is a team of two, and just like in a team each partner must know
their proper role and due responsibilities. To know this they must share a
constant dialogue, explaining, defining, detailing and then redefining every
step on the path toward their mutual goal.
Our goal is
for you to shape me into your ideal wife/partner/queen and go-to-girl. The
first step in this process is our discussion, and the creating of the contract
outlining the goal. The second is my submission to you, which is followed by
your accepting of me and the assumption of the role as Dom. Now that you
control my life, my body, and my mind you must create a game plan for our
two-man team to follow all the way to victory.
” For the partnership between a Dom and his
sub relies more on mutual trust and open communication than any other
partnership I know of.
A
Dom who doesn’t know his job can easily harm his property, possibly even
maiming or killing her. It is a challenging role, which is why it commands so
much respect. Leadership requires the substitution of thought for brawn and
muscle, of knowledge for folklore and superstition, and of cooperation for
force.
The role of
submissive or property also requires a lot of cooperation. Just as the Dom must
agree to play by the shared rules of engagement so must the sub. But she is
also held to the second definition of cooperation: an assistance, especially by
ready compliance with requests. An essential part of the duties of a submissive
is the immediate and unquestioning compliance to the demands of her owner.
The ability
at the heart of all submission is the art of recommending to oneself the
sacrifices and cooperation required to fulfill the unspoken desires of the
dominant. The ultimate goal of a sub is to reach such a state of complete
obedience, possibly even anticipating the needs of her Dom before he expresses
them.
Some
subs have this ability born into them; others need to be trained to it. In my
case I need the training, I need the patient and loving guidance of my owner to
teach me what is required of me. I need to work at such obedience and
cooperation constantly, not because I am deliberately uncooperative or
intransient but because such behavior does not come naturally to me.
At some point everyone reaches a point
where they, alone, can go no farther. It is at such times as this, when my
inner desires and my own will power is not strong enough to compel me to proper
behavior that I am most in need of my Dom’s strength and devoted guidance. My
Dom is the man who leads me on to greatness, coaching me along the path of
suffering and illuminating my mistakes for me. His loving control of me fills
my life with meaning and inner peace.
When I am
faced with obstacles and feel unworthy of him, or when I am depressed and feel
unable to continue with my training I must remind myself that all aspects of my
life depends upon his love for me. I must remember that I am his cherished
property, a prize that he loves dearly, and I must strive harder in order to
reciprocate the same degree of devotion, which he shows to me every moment of
every day. Just as the prayer says, “Lo though I walk through the shadow of
death, I shall fear no evil for He is with me, always. His rod and his staff,
they comfort me.” Even when he is not present, he is with me in spirit, guiding
me with the rules and behaviors we have mutually agreed upon and to which I am
being trained.
I must keep
in mind my desire to comply and cooperate with the desires of my Dom for we are
working together towards the same end: metamorphosing me into the ideal wife
and life partner for my owner. The most intense, the most intimate, the most
important part of that cooperation is the unquestioning compliance with his
wishes, orders and acknowledged requirements of me. For me this is also the
hardest part of submission, but I am still doing my best to obey and to learn.
4/12/2010 10:30:22 PM
Seeing that I be leave I am a
gorgeous male I will approach you in a dark, smoky bar and ask if I can sit
with you as the night continues on I will make my intentions known by flirting
with you an ask you to dance with me an as we dance I will run my hand all over
you just enough for you to feel my power full strong hands grip you after
arousing you more an more I lead you back to the table were I have you sit on
my lap soon after I would whisper in your ear to give me a tantalizing lap
dance with you press down onme I
would slowly an discreetly get a smallstriptease , of your breast an anything else you may be able to exposes
and after feeling your soaked panties an hard nipples an racing heart I would
invite youto myroom forprivate lap dance but when we arrive to your surprise their
would be a kinky couple in the Bed going at it like wild animals from the
sidelines I would make you sit an watch an rub an kiss you but not undressing
you just toying with you like my prey . As your body will hunger for my
throbbing cock I will only tease you by letting you rub it through my pants as
they go at it I will lay you over my knee an tell you to watch closely as you
watch this young virile couple go at it like raging beast an as your lust fills
I will ask do you want to fell pleasures of that kind an as you say yes I will
comments to lay you across my lap an give you a proper spanking as I get harder
an harder you may protest as I tears your clothing off and expertly arousing
your body, as you fightbut on the
inside, you will love every minute of it. After properly spanking your bottom I
will passionately guide you to the bed next to the couple where there will be ropes waiting
for you after tying you
down to the bed I will forces you to be pleasure by my tongue but not allowing
you to orgasm I will take my time an worshipping your body and make you begging
for more of my tongues attention. While I enjoying the total devotion from you, I will pinning you down, thrusting your thighs apart
with my knee and penetrate you as savagely as I possibly can. You will feel my
fingers snake through your hair and pull your head back you will feel my teeth
on you shoulder; You will wants to be owned if only for tonight in my bedroom.
After savagely fucking you for hours a making you reach incredible orgasm
despite your earlier protests I will pamper an cuddle you to sleep till
mourning
4/9/2010 5:43:27 PM
Trials and
Tribulations
“That which does not kill you makes you
stronger”
-Nietzsche
“Pain is just weakness leaving the body”
-Nike
“Life is pain, anyone
who says otherwise is selling something”
- Princess Bride
“Women have to suffer
for their beauty”
-Anon.
“To get something you
never had you have to do something have never done”
The
phrase “trials and tribulations” is redundant in nature, repeating the idea of
suffering. The definition of the word trial is a test of the performance,
qualities, or suitability of someone or a situation that tests a person's
endurance or forbearance. And the meaning of tribulation is the distress or
suffering resulting from oppression or persecution; also a trying experience.
Thus, the trial tests a person’s suitability while the tribulations is the
suffering a person endures to prove themselves. In most uses of the phrase it
is understood that such suffering is undergone willingly in order to receive a
boon or achieve a goal.
The concept of suffering in order to receive a
blessing is as old as civilization itself. Before there was the Bible there
were taxes; people had to pay a fine in order to live within the area protected
by a warlord or potentate. Five thousand years before the current era, people
knew that nothing ever came easily and absolutely nothing was free. This is one
simple fact of human existence that has remained unchanged. No matter what god
you worship, no matter where you live, no matter what form your government
takes, nothing worth having is ever free.
Tribal
people all over the world have rights of initiation, where children earn the
right to be considered an adult. Such rituals must be physical, they must be
painful, and they must leave a mark. This mark of suffering that has been
endured is the symbol of adulthood, of maturity and responsibility.
In the Deep South wealthy slave owners
would try and save their children from experiencing pain, even the pain of
punishment. As adults, they knew that pain is an excellent form of instruction
and behavior modification, but as loving parents they didn’t want to hurt their
offspring. The solution they devised was called a whipping boy.
A whipping boy was a slave of the same age as
the rebellious child. He would be brought to a post, chained to it, and then
the bad child would be shown him. This child would listen as his father
explained why the whipping was in order, and then command that the child watch
as the slave was beaten. The concept was that the bad child would watch and
empathize with the slave child, thereby learning a valuable lesson without any
physical pain. But pain is a uniquely personal experience, just like death.
Others may suffer beside you, even from similar causes, but no one can suffer
for you. The only lesson ever learned from the practice of whipping boys was
that it fucking sucks to be the same age as the master’s asshole son.
To willingly endure torment and misery has
been called many things, martyrdom, masochism, even a drama queen. When
suffering is endured in the name of religion or strong political views then the
person who suffers is considered a martyr and given great honors, often
becoming saints or heroes of the state (and when Hollywood makes a movie they
are inevitably played by Mel Gibson).
If a person intentionally embraces suffering
of either a physical of psychological nature then they are a masochist, some
even taking it as far as receiving sexual gratification from their suffering.
Freud called this a dementia and classified masochists as highly deranged and
detrimental to society. Modern medical research has shown that people who
inflict physical trauma upon their own bodies, or entreat others to hurt them
instead, heal from wounds and injuries faster than people who do not.
In my opinion the most common and socially
acceptable form of masochism is caused by the fashion industry and the media.
The television tells us how we should look, but 90 percent of the world doesn’t
look like that. But if we are to be considered beautiful, intelligent and
successful then we must suffer to conform to impossible standards.
People starve themselves on eternal diets;
some even develop dangerous eating disorders in the desperate attempt to be
beautiful. Others dedicate hours out of their day to the gym, climbing up
invisible stairs over and over again when they could be at home with their
loved ones. When diet and exercise aren’t enough they pay doctors outrageous
amounts of money to cut them open and remove parts of their body which society
tells them is ugly. Course, while the doctors are there why not pay them to
pump you full of plastic and collagen till you look like the Angelina Jolie
Barbie doll.
Fashion tells us we must suffer to be
beautiful. A right of adulthood for all American women is wearing heels, the
higher the heels the more sexy/adult a woman is. Mileage varies, but generally
you don't see little girls in high-heeled shoes (children's pageants aside...).
Girls start pushing to wear them around puberty, and many girls (me included)
have had the quintessential fight with their mothers over the height of their
first set of high heels.
They’re not easy to walk in, and they do
affect your movement. But women wear them because the media has made
them a sign of grown up feminine beauty. It's the adultness of them that makes
them appealing. Doubly so for the extreme heels (stripper heels, fetish heels,
etc) - the allure is the forbidden. Which brings us right back to the concept
of primitive peoples suffering through rites of passage in order to be seen as
beautiful, successful and mature adults.
The act of enduring pain, and the agony
itself, is growing experiences. They teach us that we are mortal, that we have
limits, that we are stronger than we ever thought. Trials and tribulations
teach us what we are made of, what we can achieve, and what we can gain through
hardship.
Written by Princess
3/28/2010 12:08:15 AM
Sluts are women who have the sexual ideals of men. That’s not bad, but it’s not what I look for any more. I used to, but always ended up mad at them and them mad at me, because it was two people who were iden- tical in desires butting heads. Sluts will get on their knees and do your bidding, but only to get you to do their bidding.
3/27/2010 4:36:34 PM
Pride in Ownership
“You are an obsession
I cannot sleep
I am a possession unopened at your feet.
There's no balance
No equality
Be still
I will not accept defeat.
I will have you
Yes
I will have you”
“When you make a commitment to a relationship you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship”
-- Barbara De Angelis
Pride is defined as a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. It is also defined as a person or thing that is the object or source of a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction and also as the best state or condition of something; the prime.
Ownership is the state of having, possessing, or controlling something, visible power or control over something, as distinct from lawful ownership; holding or occupancy. It is an item of property; something belonging to a person.
So pride in ownership is a feeling of deep pleasure derived from the possession and control over an item of property. Why is it important? Is such pride a positive attribute?
Pride is a natural emotion arising from the simple satisfaction of having something of value, weather that value is simply in your own eyes or more often in the eyes of the community at large. Such pride can be a positive force in a person’s life, or it can be a deceptively strong force for destruction.
When pride is a positive force the person who feels it is confident, powerful, and willing to do whatever it takes to improve, care for and nurture the object that brings them such pleasure. They become careful of it, protective, and attentive to its needs. Whatever is necessary, or perceived to be necessary, for the proper up keep and maintenance of this possession takes on a much greater importance in the life of the owner.
Such pride can be a great form of motivation, driving the owner to greater achievements so as to improve the possession. Take for instance a new car, the proud new owner will be certain it’s insured, detailed, and waxed weekly. The first year of payments will be made promptly, and attendance at work will be greater in order to facilitate such prompt payments. The new owner will carefully guard and protect the new car, choosing parking spaces far from other cars and adding an alarm system just in case.
Yet there is a darker side to pride. Pride is one of the seven deadly sins in Catholicism, due to its inherently destructive nature. When a person takes to much pride in an object or possession they can damage themselves in many different ways: psychologically, socially, and even spiritually.
The psychological damage a person can inflict upon themselves through an over indulgence in pride can come about in a variety of ways. They may begin to value themselves solely on the possession of the object that they value so highly, such as a prestigious job. In this way they down play the importance of their other qualities, only finding self worth and happiness in the owning of said item. They may neglect and forget other aspects of their selves in the obsessive adoration of the item, completely redefining themselves based solely on their ownership.
We have all met someone who is proud of something they have bought, inherited or been given. As kids we all knew someone who had all the greatest, newest, most expensive toys. These kids were so cool…. And so utterly hated. We were jealous of them, we wanted what they had, and we knew we weren’t going to get it short of murder. The kid who went around bragging about his awesome new toy was ultra popular for a week or two, until the point where everyone decided that playing with that kid’s toys wasn’t worth the aggravation of dealing with their bad attitude, a bad attitude called and caused by pride. Their happiness that they found in owning the new toy caused us to ostracize them, hating them for what they had and the smug pride they flaunted it with.
Kids aren’t the only ones whose pride can run rampant and ruin friendships. Adults do it everyday, bragging to one another about promotions, vacations, memberships to exclusive clubs, designer fashions, luxury goods of all forms, and even desirable lovers. The louder someone becomes about their good fortune, the less other people want to be around them. Pride is just plain rude, but the person who is so very happy with their new possession is most often utterly blind to the social faux pas they are causing others to suffer through.
Pride damages a soul through other ways. Loneliness, distrust, paranoia, arrogance, vanity and obsession all come to taint the essence of a person who becomes overly prideful. These negative attributes stain all that they see, all that they think, and all that they do… tarnishing every experience in their life.
An alternate meaning to “pride in ownership” could be as the ultimate condition of controlling something. A person who is the ultimate owner, a person utterly in control of a prized possession. This definition is more tenuous than the other, but I find it to be more appropriate to our position in a D/s relationship.
As my Owner, you have complete control over every aspect of my life. I am your possession, cherished and pampered, bragged about and shared as you see fit. You are in the supreme role of dominance, the role of Master and Owner of Property.
Through out history it is the men who fit that role in society who have had all the social and political power. Only landowners could vote when America was founded. Only the owners of land and slaves could vote in Athens, the home of democracy. Owning another person gives you a monumentally important role in the world, putting you on the same level as such great men as Alexander the Great, Ramses II, Genghis Khan, Attila the Hun, Caesar, Caligula, Mansa Musa, and all the founding fathers of the U.S.
I am honored to be your slave, your symbol of greatness. I am honored to be an item you cherish so greatly as to take pride in me. I just hope the pride you feel for me is of the positive variety, as that is the type I feel for you. I am proud of my wonderful, handsome, brilliant, loving Daddy. Thank you for permitting me to serve
Wrote by my good slave,Princess
2/14/2010 7:14:26 AM
They say once you get to a certain age At a certain point you hit a certain phase Become hard to break out of certain ways No matter how bad you trying' to impersonate So I promised, I swore I start doing things that I have never done before Going against my core, I was sure of my new chore Would be to go and see some things that I never saw before , I swore that when I left man I'd never say another bad word about a another man When you look at the big picture you have to figure that No matter right or wrong they interpret the things i do as being bitter People, they don't care its what they ask me They don't care that I just answered this last week And lastly, not a thing will slip past me And most of these gangstas an tough guys are bitches How are you suppose to see nothing? You cant! Swore I'd never respond to people who hate me Honestly its draining But on the other side its very entertaining I built a shield that would never let the pain in Armed with an mental alarm to notify me if in my mind bad thoughts came in And most people say I'm changing So I swore to never be with them even if I agree with them For better or for worse like a wedding People say i am a chameleon, I just adapt to my settings Take a momento , and see a man without a memory I don't remember me, mentally in fact cant tell any of my alter ego an me similarities an so it's just me and my alter ego Pardon us, swore to never play my feelings down but people will not smarten up I swore i would never be a moody person Or it would be a while, or am I not in the mood to do it I swore to helped others do away with all the emotional trash Never live in the past,an treat everyday like its my last
2/7/2010 1:39:37 PM
I
am someone who has the appeal of confidantes an wisdom .Having inter
knowings of the things around me .With the ability to know my place
.With the capability to pick an choose my confrontations. Doing this in
a manner that isn't over powering in a way that is very suddle.I define
succeeding as the ability to be able to walk on one side of the road an
the other side of the road .With the ability to do it all with grace.
2/5/2010 3:24:43 PM
I define succeeding as the ability to be able to walk on one side of the road an the other side of the road .With the ability to do it all with grace.
1/24/2010 10:26:07 PM
First i want to say hello to all who will read this .I also want to say by adding this to my journals or writings or whatever we call this online writing i'm doing. I want to apologize for all the confusion there has been towards what i'm looking for I've sum it up into this journal .I'm not at all a autopederasty .But i 'm well endowed .I'm not interested in any one who practices allorgasmia.But i am looking for someone who is into anolinctus an mostly mine .I believe that i'm full of aphrodisiac.I don' want or need a someone who is into automasochim
. I would like to fine someone that has the attitude of a candaulism mixed with amaurophilia's qualitys I would be great to fine someone that is into choreophilia
along with those traits .With a mind full of Exhibitionism.
1/20/2010 10:39:15 PM
How about if we stop stereotyping sex workers? They're really not all desperate drug addicts, debased women, or whatever you might have learned about them on TV or in the tabloids. Many of our dearest friends work in the sex industry, doing essential and positive work healing the wounds inflicted by our sex-negative culture. These men and women have a great deal to teach us about boundaries, limit-setting, communication, sexual negotiation, and ways to achieve growth, connection and fulfillment outside a traditional monogamous relationship. Do not imagine that connections between sex workers and clients are necessarily cold, impersonal, or degrading, or that only losers frequent prostitutes. We know of client prostitute relationships that have been a source of tremendous connection, warmth and affection for both parties, and that have lasted many years. Practitioners of "the world's oldest profession" offer all of us the wisdom of the ages about understanding, accepting and fulfilling our desires: these are the real sex experts.
1/18/2010 8:53:10 AM
I charmed the tenderest virgins with delight. And with my style did fiercest blockheads fright.
1/12/2010 9:41:08 AM
A punishment to some, to some a gift, and to many a favor
1/1/2010 10:31:02 PM
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.
12/22/2009 11:10:48 PM
“Humility must always be the portion of any man who receives acclaim earned in the blood of his followers and the sacrifices of his friends.”
12/15/2009 10:55:34 PM
“Pain is only valuable once you know that you've learned from it.
12/13/2009 9:17:47 PM
What if your fears and dreams existed in the same place?
What if to get to heaven you had to brave hell?
What if everything you ever wanted cost you everything you ever achieved? Would you still?
12/10/2009 9:29:32 AM
“The will to domination is a ravenous beast. There are never enough warm bodies to satiate its monstrous hunger. Once alive, this beast grows and grows, feeding on all the life around it, scouring the earth to find new sources of nourishment. This beast lives in each man or women who battens on male or female servitude. "
11/26/2009 10:52:24 PM
In my experience, those who do not like you fall into two categories:
The stupid and the envious. The stupid will like you in five years
time. The envious, never.
