Words and attitudes can be painful weapons in the modern world, which is why a knight in shining armour exercises mercy in his or her dealings with others, creating a sense of peace and community, rather than engendering hostility and antagonism. (The Seven Knightly Virtues S. Farrell)

For me,the best 'foreplay' is intimacy, mental, emotional, and sometimes (if I am lucky) spiritual. I like to go deeply into headspace and the best relationships I've had have included such things. I tend to prefer a male sub who relates on this kind of emotional level. I am not very good at enjoying 'casual' play, which I will do only for a good friend, where there is, even there, a bit of emotional connection. Sensuality is very much part of play for me. And I never mind that a sub might initiate. I like the idea of a sub making an effort to get me in the mood. Quite a bit different from merely presenting himself. Rather old fashioned and vanilla in some eyes, but I tend to see whatever activities a Dominant may indulge in as dominant, even if it appears 'gentle' or 'servitude', as Whistler says. I like a man to be able to lead on the dancefloor. It just tells me I can trust him to know what he's doing. He drives or I drive...I'm still dominant. And all this kind of competence and courtliness gets me in the mood; chivalrous mode of D/s I call it. And it's a shared thing. 8-)

A snake can be beautiful and fascinating, but can't change it's nature. Don't be surprised when it can't love you back.

Inspiration today. The US is finally out of deadlock...I won't vent my very negative opinions about the damned Re...oops, nevermind. Anyway, that and this article:

I just read this in the Guardian and just HAD to share. Nobody will listen to me because I'm not important, but Neil Gaiman is! Enjoy, especially the bit about the Chinese. If the link below doesn't work, just google Neil Gaiman Guardian reading:

http://www.theguardian.com/books/2013/oct/15/neil-gaiman-future-libraries-reading-daydreaming?CMP=EMCNEWEML6619I2&et_cid=52982&et

Of course, this is relevant here because I get so little communication from anyone who has actually taken time to READ my (*&%$ profile and journals and stories to get a clue how to talk to me. LOL 

Any sapiosexuals out there? Of course, liking smart people doesn't negate the emotional, and I prefer people who not only know their own minds but understand themselves and can be verbally and emotionally expressive. Can't lay it out much clearer than that. I really, really, really, am weary of the one-liner greetings, certainly beyond the first tentative approach. I am searching here, and I do, definitely,  understand that not all people are wordsmiths. However, I do prefer some glimmer of sentience. And that has to be coupled with a solid masochistic streak as well as a pleasing personality with a healthy sense of humour. Gosh...and I didn't think I was demanding, really. 8-)

Being true to yourself doesn't mean disregarding others.

Heaven help me, does anyone else out there get fed up with one liner messages? A "how are you"? after weeks of disappearance? Conversational dead ends? I know it's tricky for male subs trying to get the attention of Dommes, and I try to be patient and as kind as possible, but today I was possibly quite rude to someone because of it. Drives me bonkers! Communication is the backbone of bdsm relationships...or at least the kind I want. Not everyone is a wordsmith, but jeez. 8-(

Lordy, good manners seem to have gone the way of the dial telephone, vinyl records, the turntable and 8 track tape.  Soon, it will be like the loss of the last WWI vet. WWI...what's that you say? *sigh*

I just watched The Promise on Lovefilm Instant. Exquisitely beautiful, as so many Chinese films are, and even more important, NOT an endless martial arts ballet. Oh, there was plenty of that, but there was a story more filled out, however fanciful and fantastic, goddesses and fate and magic. There was some amazing rope and bondage that several people I know would have enjoyed. Lovely.

Ah, as I'm still getting to know the place, I'm quite delighted to find such good advice, information, and sensible, sane and highly intelligent people posting on the boards. AND, what I'm finding will save me a lot of typing, fer sher! That's why I love technology, gadgets, and anything else that will make the mundane aspects of life more efficient or easier, so I can devote more time and (little) effort to unbridled hedonism and self absorption. LOL Well, at least to a little more fun. 

LOVING DARKNESS...A STORY, uploaded to the proper place this time:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4513721/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4513721

FISHING BELLS: ANECDOTAL TOY STORY, posted to the proper forum this time:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4513726/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4513726

Lordy, I've had two direct encounters with psychotics in under a week since arriving here. That's more than I've done in months or even years elsewhere. Fortunately, I've also encountered quite a few very lovely, intelligent and charming people. So the universe seems to be in balance again. LOL

kALEIDOSCOPE: a STORY BY TERPSIKORI, uploaded to the proper place this time: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4513723/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4513723

Woohoo! As of 30 July 2013: Back in the saddle again! (strains of Gene Autry in the background...no one over here will know who that is, though. LOL)

The Great Mountain Excavation facility has now successfully whittled things down to a management molehill, and I am back to actively looking.

DUE TO UNFORESEEN CIRCUMSTANCES, I MUST PUT MY SEARCH IN ABEYANCE, AS OF 25 JULY 2013, UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE. THANK YOU FOR KIND WORDS