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I'm currently engaged to a wonderful man. I enjoy talking to others about BDSM and writing about the subject. I'm not interested in taking on any slaves right now. I'd like to use this profile to journal and share some of my online blogs.
5/17/2012 11:35:28 AM

Tell me what you think! :)

 

http://www.squidoo.com/the-poetic-life

 

I will be updating about once a week.

 

3/27/2011 1:30:01 PM

My slave bends over,

presenting pink pantie clad ass,

his face is hooded,

one knows a slave doesn't deserve

sight.

I feel the weight of leather whip in my hand,

circle my sacrificial lamb,

smiling as I see his hands twitch.

The slap of leather is oh so

satisfying,

leather gracing skin

with an angry red kiss.

 

I switch to a leather paddle

shaped like a hand,

running hard handle over

pale skin.

Again, his ass is graced

with more hard strokes.

 

I stand back,

admire the blue and black

covering his ass.

Ah, such a lovely sight!

 

2/22/2011 3:40:27 PM

Feb. 22, 2011,

 

Well, I'm done with my little Lincoln adventure.  Sadly, no jobs to be found.  However, I did get to break in my new spanker (pic coming soon) and acquired two new pairs of shoes.  I found a nice submissive who took me shoe shopping and out for dinner.  I was delighted to have a personal shoe slave, so to speak.  After dinner it was time for a little bit of funny.  My subbie was blindfolded and tied to a wall lamp.  He received some quick spanks on his ass and back.  Aw, such a satisfing sound!  I could see his body twitching. 

 

It was then time to allow my subbie to lay on his back while I ran my new high heel over his chest.  Then is was time to worship my feet with his mouth.  Ah, the pleasure!  I'd fogotten how lovely it was to receive such royal treatment!  All in all a lovely evening.

1/30/2011 10:33:26 PM

Attention: All Lincoln/Omaha area slaves, girl in need of a night on the town!  I'm planning to be in Lincoln for a couple nights this week and need a good slave to be my personal chaffeur/club partner.  I'm thinking Thurs. and Fri. nights depending on the weather.  How about it boys?  Anyone willing to show me a good time?

1/26/2011 2:33:50 PM

Oh how fun houseboys are!  Thanks to one my bathroom is nice and clean.  My lovely slave first presented me with a new leather whip.  How fun!  Then it was time to put some weight on his lovely balls.  Ah, how nice to see it swinging between his legs!  Then it was off to the bathroom to scrub, scrub, scrub!  Of course my slave had to have some dangly earrings and clothespins attached to his nipples.  My what a sight!  I also took the liberty of using his back as my personal art canvas.  I pulled out some pretty red lipstick and drew a sun and heart on his back.  I couldn't help but giggle with delight.  I think I should have a houseboy on standby 24/7!

1/11/2011 10:06:56 PM

Last weekend I was able to have a subbie over for a session.  I love being a sensual domme!  I was able to show off my new ruffle butt panties.  My greatest joy is being pampered.  I love receiving massages and had a full body massage done.  Awwww.....legs and back rejoice!  I had some lovely vanilla body butter on hand.  Then it was time to tie the subbie up with some rope and cuffs.  And of course, his Johnson was favored with a pretty pink ribbon.  There was also a looney tunes (Marv the Martian and Taz) tie on hand.  It amused me to see his Johnson adorned with the looney tunes and ribbon.  Awww......such a good subbie!

 

I've never been attracted to extreme humiliation.  I find the subtle stuff much more entertaining.  I think being given complete control of a man's penis is wonderfully inspiring.  Then I blindfolded my subbie with black pantyhose and panty gagged him.  I'd picked some lacy, pink leopard printed panties.  The subbie was put in a corner while I used B.O.B to pleasure myself.  I find it incredibly arousing to know a man is able to hear me climax but unable to lift a finger.  Oh, the torture!  It adds a certain dimension to the pleasure, knowing a man can hear but not touch.  It's almost like the thrill of being an actor on stage, completely immersed in a character.  But, of course, more fun. 

 

After subbie had his corner time I flipped on the TV and had him massage my feet.  So relaxing.  Then he fed me chocolate.  And the session was over.  Simple but very satisfying.  I felt like a sensual goddess.   

2/11/2010 10:07:54 PM

Dear Men - 10 Ways to Annoy a Woman

1) Tell her you know exactly what women want based on your experience of talking to a handfull of women in your lifetime. (Hint: This is extremely arragont, not to mention condescending.)

2. Look shocked when she starts talking about politics.

3. Hang a picture of Gwen Stefani trying to hump a guitar and wonder why she doesn't consider it "art." (True story: one of my ex-boyfriend's friends thought this was the most wonderful picture. And, honestly, Gwen does look like she's trying to make out with the guitar.)

3. Tell a woman on a sugarbaby dating website she's really looking for a warm and stable relationship. Duh, she's on a sugarbaby website!

4. Insist that using internet messenger to talk isn't talking like "normal people do."

5. Insist that women should be hot, because, you know, everyone knows exactly what "hot" means.

6. Insist that actively participating in sports (Olympic ski jumping anyone?) isn't good for her because she's a woman. I mean, we all know how delicate lady parts are, as opposed to man parts which aren't at all vulnerable.

7. When she tells you she has a brown belt in Tae Kwon Do, jokingly ask her not to kick your ass. Because doing martial arts somehow means she must be violent. Warning: you are endangering your family jewels.

8. Point to a bikini and say, "Why don't you wear that honey?"

9. Run for the hills when she mentions an interest in collecting knives. Because we all know men are the only ones intersted in shopping for weapons.

10. Mention how hot you think female celebrities are then proceed to rank each of them according to their physical attributes.

The bit about women and olympic sking was inspired by Rachel Maddow's show.  She aired a quote of a man saying how a certain type of ski jumping (basically starting at the top of a hill and kindof lunging forward) wasn't good for woman physically, the implication being that since women have a vagina we're somehow more fragile.  

I actually have had men jokingly ask me not to beat their asses when I tell them I did Tae Kwon Do for about 4 years.  Then they drop off the face of the Earth.  I can't tell you how old this gets.  I don't understand why they even need to say this.  It really is very annoying because I know they'd never say this to a man. 

1/9/2010 10:38:31 AM
I looooove toys.  Especially leather ones.  So, here's my toy wish list.  I expect any sub who's serious to bring me a toy.

Toys I Want:

fur lined paddle
spreader bar for feet
parachute
strap on
strap on attachement for face
ball gag
anal beads
soft rope

What I have:
collar
leash
furry handcuffs
rope ties for wrists and ankles
bed restraint system
feather duster
1/8/2010 11:55:43 AM

So you finally found the perfect submissive man.  He's your personal boy toy and 100% devoted to serving you.  But what do you do with him?  If you're like me and come from a religious background you may be wondering what to do next.  After all, most women grow up with the typical mother, a woman devoted to serving her husband, family, even God first and foremost.  There are more things in the Sexual World than most of us even think about.  But not to fear!  I've done my share of web browsing and that (along with a wicked imagination) means some terrific ideas. 

1) Giddy up pony!

At first glance animal play may seem too daunting.  Most of us aren't exposed to human sexuality that isn't - well -human.  Pony play involves dressing up like a pony and being used as a pony.  The accessories include hooves, hoods, bits, briddles - just about anything pony related.  But the world of animal play isn't relagated to ponies.  Check out http://eXtremeRestraints.com for a page of bizarre butt plugs.  Turn your man into a fox, pig, or puppy using any of the tails.  Check out http://adamevetoys.com for a sexy pony tail plug.  Transform him  into your personal pet!  And then, well, the sky's the limit! 

2) Anyone up for ring toss?

The human ass is such a wonderful, beautiful piece of anatomy.  A truly diverse object awaiting your every command.   Extreme restraints also offers a ring toss butt plug.  Simply insert and start tossing!  Use pinapple rings.  Think of how lovely the juices will look on your man's legs!  Or chocolate dipped pretzels for your sweet tooth.   

3) One giant walking dildo

Oh, how I love thee, cock!   Great big, beautiful pleasure machine you are.  It's true; the male cock is very dear and near to a woman's heart.  So why not turn your boy toy into a big dildo for your pleasure?  Sex stores offer several ways to attach dildos to your partner.  Attach a dildo to his thigh and get a sexy lap dance - for your pleasure!   Or attach one to his face and use him as your personal chair.  The most wonderful part of living in the 21st century is how diverse the dick is! Check out extreme restraints for some nice strap on dildos.

4) Introducing.......the human broom!

Who says housework has to be dull?  Check out http://healthyandactive.com for a gag with a feather attachement.  Turn him into your personal duster!  Or check out extreme restraints for an extreme appliance kit, a gag designed to fit a feather duster, bowl, dildo, or toilet bruth.  Perfect for humiliation (if that's what your sub craves) or turning him into your personal food dish. 

5) Turn him into your personal maid/butler!

We all crave attention, especially when we're feeling low or stressed.  We want someone to adore us and serve us.  So why not turn your boy toy into a personal maid/butler!  There are many men who wish to explore cross dressing in a safe environment.  This doesn't affect their sexual orientation at all.  As a woman, I find it very empowering to dress a man up.  It dispels the macho stereotype our society is so in love with.  Or, if you wish to maintain his masculine muscles, put him in a harness.  There are many online websites that offer harnesses; including erosboutique.com, eXtremeRestraints.com, and stockroom.com. 

So there you go, five things to do with your new boytoy.  Now that you have him, use him for your personal pleasure.  Giver yourself permission to look at all those old thoughts and re-examine them.  Is your true sexual self being expressed or buried?  Are you still afraid to let out the wild creature in your heart?  And remember, there really are submissive men waiting to serve you!

1/5/2010 5:56:25 PM

So I'm starting to realize something; a true female domme is rare!  I just googled female domme blogs and read through the first 2-3 pages.  Wow!  So much obsession with sex!  A lot of the male subs I've talked to from this website hate how hard it is to find a good female domme (i.e. someone who doesn't want to beat the crap out of them and claim it's descipline!).  Another thing I realized is how many of these blogs were devoted to selling sex in one way or another.  I love sex but not as a marketing ploy.

I must be a rather unusual domme; love being a domme because it adds something to a relationship besides sex.  To me being a domme means a higher level of sex - yes, I know, nauseatingly itellectual.  But truly, hearing a man beg for release and knowing he can only come if I CHOSE is incredibly arousing.  I get the sense from reading these blogs that a lot of dommes ( and this includes men) are interested in acting out some inner rage and hate.  We all have rage and hate inside us but it never helps to use it to hurt others. 

Many subs have asked me whether I consider myself a strict domme.  This question is hard for me to answer due to my inexperiene and lack of contact with the BDSM community.  So, I've been thinking about my domme identity, so to speak.  I would define myself as a sensual domme who believes she deserves to be pampered, adored, and put on a pedestal.  I suppose you could say I'm a sensual goddesss domme!  LOL.  Honestly, I see spanking/bondage/objectification as a form of sexual pleasure for me, a way to feel whole and establish my dominant identity.

12/28/2009 2:27:26 PM

So last night I had a great session with a very hot male subbie.  The day hadn't started out so great because an earlier date had stood me up.  But the day ended very well!  I met my stallion on cm and started chatting.  Such a eager subbie!

The first thing I had my stallion do was get some ice.  What an adorable expression!  When he came back I had changed into a short, plaid skirt and lacy black bra.  And, of course, sheer white knee highs.  Then it was time for my stallion to strip so mistress could inspect him.  He want too fast at first, pulling his shirt off quickly.  I told him to start over, unbuttoning his shirt slowly.  Then, when my stallion had stripped, I circled and inspected him with my hands.  I must make sure my stallion is unblemished.  I was very happy with his body.

Then it was time to put a collar on him.  I put a collar and leash on my subbie and led him around to the other side of the bed.  I had him kneel while I sat on the edge of the bed.  I rubbbed my silky feet all over his chest and face, making sure he could feel my toes on his eyelids and mouth.  My stallion was almost beside himself! 

I was especially happy with the whip my stallion brought with him.  It was perfect for whipping his back and chest.   I was very pleased with his begging.  So eager to please his mistress.

More to come....

12/26/2009 7:47:34 PM

Subject: Male Submissive

Appearance: The appearance of the male submissive can range from tall and thin to well muscled and bald.  He is often seen gazing adoringly at beauful women, usually within supermarket lines. 

Sub group: Domestic House Boy

The domestic  variety of this human species daydreams of wearing a tiny french maid outift while cleaning (sometimes involving nice stilettos and a feather duster).  While brewing a nice French onion soup, he may fantasize of an eleaborate meal for a future mistress's enjoyment.  

Plummage: The male submissive's feathers are exotic; sometimes including leather, pvc, and silk stockings.  His skin is smooth and smells nice, like peaches or cocunut.  While his hands may be calloused, he will be happy wearing lacy gloves.  This particular group is very fond of women's lingerie stores and will be caught staring lovingly at silky panties or fishnet stockings.  His skin is his mistress's canvas, a beautiful mix of blues and reds and greens.  He can be found lying on top of white sheets, his body stripped and ready for her attention.  

Mannerisms:  This creature can be observed walking behind his mistress carrying her purchases.  The male sub habitually lowers his eyes.  When kneeling in front of mistress he keeps his gaze towards her feet, waiting for his next instruction.  A male sub lies awake dreaming of the ultimate punishment.  He can almost feel the sharp slap of a paddle against his flesh.  He thinks of how mistress will be pleased when she sees his rosy cheeks and can't help but smile.  He wishes to feel her feet in your hands, can't wait to massage her feet with lotion.  Soft, sued boots will drive him wild with want and need.  He would crawl over coals to feel her boots on his back.

12/16/2009 11:34:38 AM

There are a few things a lot of members seems to want to know upfront.  So I'm going to address it here.  I'm a non-smoker and have never smoked.  When I was young I saw how smoking had ruined my grandmother's health (heavy wrinkles, bad cough) and decided to never pick up the habbit.  No smoker's cough for this hot tamale! 

I'm a fiirm believer marijuana needs to be legalized.  That being said, pot has never appealed to me.  I would never want to ruin my life with a pot charge.  I'm completely drug free.  I like to have some beers and wine (especially white wine) and an occasional mixed martini.  I especially love using white wine in my cooking. 

12/16/2009 11:34:06 AM

There are a few things a lot of members seems to want to know upfront.  So I'm going to address it here.  I'm a non-smoker and have never smoked.  When I was young I saw how smoking had ruined my grandmother's health (heavy wrinkles, bad cough) and decided to never pick up the habbit.  No smoker's cough for this hot tamale! 

I'm a fiirm believer marijuana needs to be legalized.  That being said, pot has never appealed to me.  I would never want to ruin my life with a pot charge.  I'm completely drug free.  I like to have some beers and wine (especially white wine) and an occasional mixed martini.  I especially love using white wine in my cooking. 

12/15/2009 12:01:43 PM

When I watched the documentary, America the Beautiful, one of the people interviewed was Eve Ensler, a wonderful playwright.  She has written The Vagina Monologues and The Good Body.  I love listening to her.  Anyways, she talked about being in Africa and asking a woman if she loved her body.  The woman replied by praising her body, telling Eve how wonderful her hands and feet were.  She pointed to two trees and asked Eve if she thought one was more beautiful than the other because they were different.  The woman told Eve to "love her tree."

So, I'm going to write a poem in praise of my tree.  Enjoy!

My tree has strong roots.
Mother Earth holds me in her protection,
I feel her gentle whisper in the dark -
shush sweet child, your pain is mine.

My legs have walked many wondorous paths -
their muscles and tendons have taken me
to see sunsets
and walk among quiet fall trees.
My feet have sparred for trophies,
their soles move me when a dance beat
takes me into ecstasy.

And my hands!
My beautiful hands
have released words-
they are my leaves reaching towards the sun
releasing beautiful ache and celebrating joy.

My arms!
My glorious arms
have felt the warmth of another human's
gentle love.
My arms have held a newborn
and felt the closest thing to perfection
I will ever see.

My mouth!
My sultry mouth
has celebrated the wonder of
two bodies becoming one.
My lips have told stories of
pirates and queens and magic.

My hips!
My perfect hips
have moved with music,
rolling in wild abandon.
My hips have felt the snug embrace
of worn denim,
they've bent low over sweet tomatoe plants
and felt the firm embrace of a lover.

But my heart-
my heart if my favorite branch-
the golden leaf I cherish-
my heart can sing with a piano note
and be fed with a sweet poem.
My heart-
my heart is a treasure.


I hope you enjoyed this!  And the newborn baby I refer to is my little 9 year-old-brother.  My parents had him at home and I was the first to hold him.

12/15/2009 12:25:55 AM
She rides through the moonlight,
high above the stars -
her breath frost bitten clouds -
she wraps herself around her dragon,
feeling the leather skin rub against her face.
She hunts with her dragon,
her arms spread wide,
the moonlight gliding across milky breast
and splashing her blood red corset.

She feels fire in her soul-
deep flames licking her body,
they yearn to be released.
She hunts for a man waiting for his
mistress,
she searches for her obedient stallion -
her final destination.

She embraces her dragon -
gliding past the moon-
saying her hellos to the old man.
She feels the fire in her belly
and hugs herself,
dreaming o f fine stallions
in leather harness and broken in bit.

And the moon looks on-
bathing her in his midnight madness.
12/13/2009 2:21:52 PM
I would love to find a male submissive/switch who can help me relocate to Canada; I'm particularly interested in Toronto, London, British Columbia.  I would pursue a career in creative and journalistic writing.
12/11/2009 5:43:45 PM
I just finished the documentary, "America the Beautiful."  The film follows a twelve year old model and explores what the American society views as beautiful along the way.  The film expposes how chemicals in cosmetics are linked to lower sperm counts and how a fetus' testicals and penis develop.  Along the way we also meet some real asshole men who think calling women "objects" is normal and she has to be "hot" for the relationship to work.  One wants to leap through the screen and strangle these idiots to spare any future girlfriends.

The film captures something about the whole concept of what being a "hot" woman means.  I find it very fustrating when a man says he wants a woman who's "attractive" and has a "slim waist."  that tells me nothing!  I have no idea what "attractive" means.  It could mean a size 10 or a size 12.  It's unrealistic to think every woman is going to be hot.  What the media defines as "hot" is not attainable in the real world. 

What I found truly sad about this documentary is how extreme plastic surgery is.  People literally die because their nose has to look different.  What I found really amazing is that women are having plastic surgery done on their vaginas.  Because for some reason having one longer labia isn't okay.  What is going on here?  So even the most intimate part of ourselves has to be perfect? 

I find my vagina beautiful for many reaons - none of which have anything to do with how long or straight my labia is.  It seems very clinical and cold to look at a woman's vagina as an object apart from her.  It's a beautiful way to experience pleasure and it doesn't have to look perfect.

The film is something I think men need to watch at least once.  Because it's impossible to convey what a woman feels about her body

12/6/2009 8:22:00 PM
I just finished watching "The Latter Days" on Netflix.  The film is about a Mormon missionary's relationship with a gay man.  The film does have some explicit scenes but doesn't go into porno territory.  In fact, the scenes add to the storyline and give a certain intimacy to the two mens' relationship.  In recent years I've started viewing true intimacy between two people (no matter what their gender) as beautiful.  And, honestly, why not treat sex between men the same way we treat a straight couple?  

What I really liked about this movie was the attention paid to storyline and plot.  The story spoke to an eternal theme; finding ourselves amid life's mad, chaotic randomness.  It makes you realize how even the most beautiful people can lose themselves without realizing it.  

Another thing I really liked about the movie is how accurate it was about the Mormon Church.  As someone who grew up in the Mormon Church, I know how the members would react to gay men.  It's not pretty or nice or even being a decent human being.  It's very ugly.  And what's worse is the members lie to themselves.  Growing up, I was told by church teachers that being gay was considered a sin and the church wanted to rescue its members from this sin.  My family left the church when I turned 19 and since then I've had to rethink a lot of basic ideas about people.  I no longer believe being gay is a choice.  

The film also shows scenes from a rehabilitation camp meant to "fix" the gay ex-missionary.  It showed the character being shocked when he was aroused by pictures of naked men.  This is never discussed in the church.  Nobody ever admits this happens.

Lately I've felt a hunger to know how others feel about sexual lifestyles outside the norm.  I want to know how people embrace their sexuality, how the celebrate their bodies.  I've grown up in a very conservative environment and now it's time to break out of the pack. 
12/5/2009 1:59:16 PM
I see my slave kneeling in front of me
on hands and knees -
cheeks rosy and stinging,
he shivers when I place ice on the flesh.
He is blindfolded and gripping a bit
with his teeth -
I hold the reins -
his mistress must have a firm hand.

His balls are firmly held in leather  -
their skin stetched tight
with spiked balls
and now, now it's time for his rosebud
to be stretched and opened.

I rub ice around his ass hole,
the melting cube sends little rivers
along his crack.
His body shivers and I pull on the reins-
my stallion must be still.
His rosebud receives still more ice,
my fingers gently rub and push,
exploring his lovely hole.

Now its time for lube -
the final step before my new
butt plug is put to use.
And finally, his hole wet and slippery,
his legs shaking in anticipation,
I start to work my plug into his ass -
he squirms a little-
a put more lube inside and out.

The shiny black rubber slides into
my slave's open rosebud,
its vibrations causing stiffled moans of pleasure.
I tell my slave his ass is the loveliest sight
I've ever seen.
I tell him he's being such a good little boy-
his rosebud pleasing my hungry eyes.

I can see his cock stiffening and the tip glistening.
I run my gloved hand around his nipples,
my fingers pinch the rosy skin.
I ask him if he wants me to twist his nipples-
he nods an excited yes.
I tell him he is doing so very well,
I twist his rosy nipples - delighting in my hands' strength.

He wants to come very bad now -
I can feel his body shaking and I know his rosebud is so close to his limit.
I release his balls and massage them-
feeling the full weight of his cum.
I tell him he can come and I enjoy
seeing his cum spill onto a clean, white
towel,
I release his ass hole -
my slave has emptied himself
and I can hear him breathing hard.
I smile to myself.
It's time to allow my slave a well-earned nap.
12/4/2009 11:57:07 AM
Oh pantyhose, I love to see thee cupping
a rock hard cock.
How I long for the smooth touch of a slave's
trembling dick, yearning for release.
Oh panyhose, how you fit so perfectly
around my slave's lovely legs.
Your naughty lines trace my slave's captive
body -
so beautiful
so ready for his mistress.

Yes, indeed
pantyhose is sexy.
12/2/2009 11:41:07 AM

I wish to be near or in a bigger city because I love the arts and want to get involved in theater. I like watching live plays, learning new dance styles and finding unique shops.



Arwenstar
 
 Age: 26
  Pennsylvania