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I am an independent woman, educated, and a successful business owner. Looking for someone to share my fantasies and desires with. Someone who can be a dominant at times, and take charge of the situation, but also someone who is not afraid to explore and do what feels good, someone who might want me to take control from time to time. I want to find someone who is more interested in finding what feels good for both of us, rather than someone who feels it necessary to follow rules someone else made up about how a D/s relationship should be. I want a man who is as passionate and kinky as I am.

I also have quite an exhibitionist side, would love to dance or "perform" for the right person. I am looking for my other half, my soul mate, someone who understands my needs because he has the same ones.

I do not enjoy extreme physical punishment or torture, though I have enjoyed pushing my limits and finding the fine line between pleasure and pain.

My ideal man would be successful, well educated and enjoy reading, traveling, dancing, food & wine, and exploring new things. Finding someone who can hold a conversation and challenge me intellectually, is just as important as finding someone who can stimulate me physically.

I am also looking to meet others in the lifestyle in this area and make new friends, so please don't hesitate to contact me.
10/26/2011 10:55:18 PM

If you're unable to even have a conversation with me before demanding pictures from me  (as if I "owe" you that), we are probably not going to work out.  In case my profile wasn't clear enough, the mental connection I have with someone is much more important than any physical connection.  A package that's pretty on the outside could contain something really ugly inside. 

3/17/2011 12:28:36 AM

Leaving for awhile due to health issues.  For all my friends, you know how to get in touch with me. 

9/6/2010 11:27:50 PM

This weekend was so beautiful, the weather is absolutely perfect!  Fall is coming and I just adore it.  The clear Fall days, the gorgeous color of the trees, the smell of bonfires and burning leaves.  The crisp cool nights are perfect for snuggling up under a blanket with someone special, kissing slowly under the light of the havest moon.  I know Spring is supposed to be the season of new hope and new beginings but for me, it's always been Fall.  I feel energized, creative, excited and hopeful now.  Fall is a feast for my senses, the beauty of each of the seasons with none of the extremes.  Rich, vibrant, jewel like colors everywhere I look with the trees changing colors each day, beautiful mums and pansies blooming in hanging pots around the neighborhood.  Waking up each day to frosty mornings, then warm afternoons, and cool evenings.  The taste of fresh apple cider from the farm and homemade  apple pie warm from the oven with rich vanilla ice cream melting on top.  The feel of my favorite soft, worn sweatshirt against my skin, warming me against the chill. The sound of leaves crunching under my feet encased in my favorite pair of boots as I go for a walk enjoying the perfect weather.  I feel happy, hopeful and positive. Fall is my time for rejuvenation and renewal.

7/4/2010 10:59:27 AM
Happy Fourth of July to all my friends! I'm off to spend the weekend in the country.  Be safe everyone!
6/27/2010 2:23:05 AM
I think it was a mistake coming back here.  Maybe it's better to just be alone and dream of what might be rather than getting hurt again.
6/7/2010 3:17:36 PM

Found myself back here again after quite a long break.  I've really missed the friends I made here, and I'm always open to meeting new friends as well.  Things seem much the same here though...

11/1/2009 5:38:50 PM

Ok, if you're going to copy and paste an email to me, one that you've obviously sent out hundreds of times before, there's probably no way I'd ever really know.  But if you are so STUPID as to send me the EXACT SAME EMAIL again, or in some unbelievable cases, even more than two times, after I've told you I'm not interested, it truly doesn't surprise me that you are still looking for someone. If you can't take the time to write a personal note to someone you are interested in sharing such an intense and personal relationship with, you don't deserve to have me.  Frankly, you don't deserve to have anyone.  It never ceases to amaze me at how lazy and stupid people are.  The rewards are great when you put time and effort into things.

11/1/2009 10:43:53 AM
Heard this wonderful new song on the radio yesterday, seems so appropriate for so many of us here on this site, searching for the one we long to connect with...

Haven't Met You Yet - Michael Buble

I'm Not Surprised
Not Everything Lasts
I've Broken My Heart So Many Times,
I Stop Keeping Track.
Talk Myself In
I Talk Myself Out
I Get All Worked Up
And Then I Let Myself Down.

I Tried So Very Hard Not To Loose It
I Came Up With A Million Excuses
I Thought I Thought Of Every Possibility

And I Know Someday That It'll All Turn Out
You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid That I'll Give So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven't Met You Yet  Mmmmm ....

I Might Have To Wait
I'll Never Give Up
I Guess It's Half Timing
And The Other Half's Luck
Wherever You Are
Whenever It's Right
You Come Out Of Nowhere And Into My Life

And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Baby Your Love Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Possibility Mmmmm ......

And Somehow I Know That It Will All Turn Out
And You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid I'll Give So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven't Met You Yet

They Say All's Fair
And In Love And War
But I Won't Need To Fight It
We'll Get It Right
And We'll Be United

And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Being In Your Life Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Single Possibility Mmmm .....

And Someday I Know It'll All Turn Out
And I'll Work To Work It Out
Promise You Kid I'll Give More Than I Get
Than I Get Than I Get Than I Get

Oh You Know It'll All Turn Out
And You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid To Give So Much More Than I Get
Yeah I Just Haven't Met You Yet

I Just Haven't Met You Yet
Oh Promise You Kid
To Give So Much More Than I Get

I Said Love Love Love Love Love Love Love .....
I Just Haven't Met You Yet
Love Love Love .....
I Just Haven't Met You Yet


10/29/2009 1:31:25 PM

Hard limit: STUPIDITY.  Please respect that. :)

8/3/2009 3:10:56 PM
A very good friend of mine passed away today.  It was sudden. He was young and strong and healthy.  I have some wonderful memories, and have spent the day thinking of him and his family, reminiscing and praying.  He will live on forever in the hearts of those who knew him.
7/31/2009 6:58:17 PM
I trusted someone alot, and ended up hurt for it. More than anything, I thought we were friends, maybe even best friends.  But friends don't do the kinds of things he did. Friends don't pretend to care about you, use you, then pretend you don't exist.  Friends don't take your fears and worries, then do the exact same things to you, things he promised he never would.

Friends don't leave without a word. I really thought I found a forever friend. Turns out I meant nothing.
7/30/2009 9:27:09 PM

One more time - if I don't reply to your email right away, it does not mean that I am not serious about a relationship or that I'm rude or a bitch or any of those things.

It simply means I'M BUSY.  IT MEANS I HAVE A LIFE, I HAVE A BUSINESS TO RUN, I HAVE TO MAKE MONEY TO PAY MY BILLS AND PAY MY MORTGAGE.  AND YES, THAT'S MORE IMPORTANT TO ME THAN REPLYING TO EMAILS ON THIS SITE.

If you have a problem with that, or don't understand that I'm not sitting here waiting for emails and replying immediately, then you should just move on to the next person. 

If I don't reply fast enough for you, please, just move on to the next person.

If I reply and you don't like what you read, please, just move on the the next person.

If you don't like my profile, don't bother emailing me, just move on to the next person.

OK?  Really, I'm here to meet nice, fun, like minded people. I don't need the drama or stress. If that's want you want - YOU GUESSED IT -

MOVE ON TO THE NEXT PERSON!

*Smiles Sweetly* Thank you!

7/26/2009 5:50:18 PM
If you need to convince me of how full of intelligence and depth you are, you probably have none at all, otherwise I'd have seen it for myself.  I have no room in my life or use for anyone shallow.

Only searching for friends!!!  My experience here has been...interesting to say the least, but also scary at times, funny, crazy and sad.  There's been one wonderful exception, and I think I have made a few good friends as well. 
7/19/2009 10:00:30 AM
Ok, listen  - if you send me an email and I don't reply right away, it doesn't mean that I'm rude, not interested in getting to know you or that I'm being a bitch. It means I'm BUSY. It means I have a life and responsibilities. Jeez. Believe it or not, I'm not sitting in front of this computer 24-7 just waiting for your email. I have  a life.  Do not send me a hateful email back if I haven't replied in a day or two - or I won't reply at all! I'm sick of it!!!!!!
7/17/2009 9:27:05 AM
There's a difference between being a Dominant and a cruel mean jerk - a distinction that many here don't seem to understand.
7/16/2009 2:03:13 PM
Been here only a few days but feel the need to add a note here - if you're going to send me an email message, being rude or judgemental, or disrespectful or mean, don't waste your time.  I don't care what you think of me, I don't care what you think of my picture. I'm here to meet like minded people, not to be judged by people who I would NEVER be interested in anyway. If you only have something rude or mean to say, don't bother me, I will just delete it and block you.  For everyone else, thank you for the nice messages and warm welcomes!
KittyChops
 
 Age: 23
 Toronto, Canada