|
|
|
|
"But what if you could take your pain, and just let it go?" -Gov't Mule
I'm new out here in Ohio, but not to kink itself. I started out in a large poly clan that allowed me to start to explore who I was. About a year into that, I met someone who really allowed me to explore kink and my direct sexual identity. We had a run of 6 years (3 of it married), and while it's coming to a close, I learned a lot about me, what I need, want, and desire, and what my expectations of someone who is my p/Partner going forward.
Submission by leadership is what I crave for a primary partner.
Part of my big problem is that I'm not a submissive who wants to be broken. I'm not some young stallion looking to be turned into a gelding. I'm not some emotionally crippled man looking to be some woman's Amazon ordering service so I can get attention. I'm a rational, pragmatic man who's looking for someone who can help me maintain focus and drive and make me a better person. I don't want, need, or desire to be micromanaged; managed is the key state here – I want to be held responsible and accountable, but don't outline every last second of my time day in and day out, or not say anything to me except when things are going wrong.
At times, I will be better than you at things. I have skills and talents, and have no fear in using them to make sure you are aware of the potential risks and rewards of doing them so that you can be aware and make command leadership decisions.
- What I am looking for:
- I'm looking for someone who has a vision of the future, and knows what their long term goals, dreams and ambitions are, and the roadmap of how they want to get there. Most importantly, they need to get me to buy into the future, and make sure my sexual, physical, emotional, ethical, and daily needs are being met, along with enabling me to reach some of my goals while maintaining the overall vision.
- I'm looking for someone who inspires me to be the best that I can be. I need to be with someone who works to bring and keep me up at the A level because of what they are and are aspiring to be, not someone who converts me into less of a being by making sure I am less than what they are not. Part of that is the ability to know when part of my nurturing is to force me to slow down and breathe, and that you have the ability to know when I need a little bit of service PTO due to everything else going on and that you find a way to keep life rolling along without basic things being untouched.
- I'm looking for someone who knows that I sometimes need to be reeled in and brought back to focus on our corporation's core competencies and key services. Sometimes my mind wanders into 10,000 different directions, which causes things to not run totally optimally. I need the faith in you that what you are saying is for the best, and that you are committed to keeping the ship running right even in the midst of irksome tasks or weighty responsibilities.
I am ethically polyamorous and have two other partners who fulfill other portions of my life. While I am top to them, I am looking for someone to strictly bottom to as my primary partner. It works out very well in my mind.
|
|
|
|
